To think my DD17 is overthinking her bf's porn watching

The Herberts are out in force. 17 year old girl and porn and sex.. rubbing their incel thighs saddos...

@Megifer And is that the consensus? Either way there's a difference between an unsatisfying quickie and being jack rabbitted for a bloody age. But you know that I'm sure.

Fair enough.

But I will ask the previous question again: how do you know that your partner does not watch porn?

Yeah, it's probably better to end up with a porn watcher who is honest about it than one who lies about it. But women who don't want to be in a relationship with men who watch porn obviously want a man who doesn't watch it and is honest about it.

People say "aha! How do you know he's not lying?" Like it's some sort of gotcha, but it really isn't. A relationship takes trust. Of course I don't monitor partners. It's possible that they watch porn, cheat, take cocaine and have a secret second family. But if you love and trust each other you have to just trust that they are not deceiving you on purpose. You have to trust you've judged his character well enough. I mean, we all do that, regardless of porn stance. How do you know your husband doesn't cheat?

It's funny to me to see "progressive" and "Feminist" used as a an insult. God forbid a man wants me to have equal rights, eww!

Not all of them are by any stretch of the imagination!
Not all of them went into the 'industry' voluntarily

Is it a career you would choose? Is it a career you'd want your daughter to have?

I think you can't imagine that women in porn enthusiastically participate because you yourself are neurotic about it.

You missed out why that requires porn.

If a young woman takes photographs of herself naked and gets a kick out of sharing them on a website, what aspect of that involved "trafficking and exploitation"?

has he told you he does? 😲

And is that the consensus? Either way there's a difference between an unsatisfying quickie and being jack rabbitted for a bloody age. But you know that I'm sure.

Lordy me. Some of the comments on here.

Saying that many men and teens watch porn does not mean those same people watch porn when in a relationship.

It seems OP has reflected on comments made and using the helpful suggestions to support her DD. Good for OP.

So clearly you are ok with the trafficking and exploitation of vulnerable women (and some men)?

Nope any conception that doesn't involve the exploitation and often rape of women is fine with me.

Males are extremely visually driven in terms of arousal. I think you know this.

Well done her!

Hopefully she, unlike many of her peers, won't be pressured into doing things she doesn't want to do. Younger men are demanding more and more from their partners in terms of providing for them what they watch on porn sites.

Wanking.

Here we go with the pejorative terms again

It's not prudish to not want to watch porn

No, but you have to have a grown-up attitude and accept that people are different, and just because someone might look at porn does not mean they are cheating, or unfaithful, or that they don't love their partner.

Better to be accepting of a man who watches porn than to end up with one of those weird, effeminate, progressive feminist men who pretends that they do not watch porn and they find it unethical, but it turns out they secretly do watch porn and they are dishonest in a myriad of other ways.

Please, enlighten me, what the nature is of male sexuality that requires porn?

That is complete and utter nonsense!

The mumsnetters I don't understand are the ones who think masturbation and watching porn are the same thing. So if you are opposed on ethical grounds to porn you are also opposed to masturbation. Very odd indeed.

So you have to watch porn for that?

😂

@Megifer God yea, its so unsexy knowing that my other half doesn't have to watch porn,

How do you know that your partner does not watch porn?

that I don't have to endure being smashed into for ages because he's not watching someone else, err, being smashed into for ages.

Isn't the consensus that women prefer sex to last longer than it normally does? I accept that this may not be true and might just be a media stereotype, but I'm just pointing out that what you're saying contradicts the mainstream narrative.

I don't think you get the nature of male sexuality tbh. Sharing fantasies visually is the point of porn. When we're apart for work or whatever we share favourite clips as well as photos of each other. Ideas for next time we're together.

Some women on here want men who have a high sex drive so that they find them attractive and initiate relationships with them, but they also want these same men to have low sex drives so they won't watch porn. The contradiction goes completely over their heads.

God yea, its so unsexy knowing that my other half doesn't have to watch porn, that my body is enough for him, im sexy enough, that I don't have to endure being smashed into for ages because he's not watching someone else, err, being smashed into for ages. (As per my porn loving exes. Funny how all my exes who were into porn were dog shit in bed)

So unsexy. Oh sorry, no its not 😏