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Posh accents on men are just awful

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Croufer · 20/07/2024 13:01

I’m talking Made in Chelsea type accents. For some reason there is a sex bias to this as they sound much better on females (wonder why this is).

I went to a private school in Berkshire so know my accent would potentially sound posh but to me (and most in the south) it is very bog standardly middle class.

Just curious if I’m the only who secretly thinks this? Got a voice note off of a guy I met on hinge and sadly the Pliny* accent killed the entire thing.

*plumy

Im not saying this to offend. I’m just curious why I recoil and if anyone experiences similar

This is just a personal opinion. I’m just putting it out as a random thought. If you’re going to take offence, then I think that’s a bit silly. Humans have irrational responses and I’m just sharing mine

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Croufer · 20/07/2024 13:26

Begsthequestion · 20/07/2024 13:19

I can't stand it from anyone but I guess it's not necessarily their fault.

The worst imo is an affected posh accent put on by a social climber. It's usually a bit too breathy and a little too high. Quite funny to notice though.

I think what you describe as an affected accent is what I don’t like.

For example Prince William’s, okay it’s not my favourite accent, but it doesn’t sound as bad as some of the guys on MIC who do have the high voice that you mentioned. Which I literally can’t watch.

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RosesAndHellebores · 20/07/2024 13:23

I prefer it to the "nah innit" brigade but neutral is better.

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Croufer · 20/07/2024 13:23

I love an Irish accent (ROI) on a man and a Cumbrian accent

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BlackStrayCat · 20/07/2024 13:22

Or an Irish accent. Any Irish accent.😍

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Croufer · 20/07/2024 13:21

BillieEilishfan · 20/07/2024 13:21

You sound jealous.

I’m not at all!

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twohotwaterbottles · 20/07/2024 13:21

I'm from Yorkshire and love a posh accent. It does it for me 😂

BillieEilishfan · 20/07/2024 13:21

You sound jealous.

SeeSeeRider · 20/07/2024 13:21

snowballsintheoven · 20/07/2024 13:11

My husband's posh accent drives me insane.

Every conversation is like a job interview because he is so formal.

Sad

It's actually causing problems with our children, they cannot relax around him; whereas I'm more "well sweetie, how's it going?" and the children can reply saying "awk ok mum, I'm knackered, gonna chill for a bit."

My husband would be more: "Charles darling, how did your day treat you?" And expects a response like "yes, it was fine dad, thank you. I am extremely tired now though and might considering going upstairs for a little rest."

Kills me Sad my husband still shakes hands with his parents. Different upbringing, I'm a feral rat compared to them.

That's not just 'accent', though, that's the whole manner of speaking. Live Victorian Dad in Viz magazine. My DH has a posh (ish) accent and he cracks me up sometimes when he says Cockney type things but in his posh way. Your DH sounds a bit, if I can put it this way without offending, like he has a rod up his arse.

stellablueblue · 20/07/2024 13:21

Oh no, I love a posh accent.

BlackStrayCat · 20/07/2024 13:20

Only like an UMC accent.

Begsthequestion · 20/07/2024 13:19

I can't stand it from anyone but I guess it's not necessarily their fault.

The worst imo is an affected posh accent put on by a social climber. It's usually a bit too breathy and a little too high. Quite funny to notice though.

ItsAlrightDarling · 20/07/2024 13:18

snowballsintheoven · 20/07/2024 13:11

My husband's posh accent drives me insane.

Every conversation is like a job interview because he is so formal.

Sad

It's actually causing problems with our children, they cannot relax around him; whereas I'm more "well sweetie, how's it going?" and the children can reply saying "awk ok mum, I'm knackered, gonna chill for a bit."

My husband would be more: "Charles darling, how did your day treat you?" And expects a response like "yes, it was fine dad, thank you. I am extremely tired now though and might considering going upstairs for a little rest."

Kills me Sad my husband still shakes hands with his parents. Different upbringing, I'm a feral rat compared to them.

How did you get as far as marriage with him if you find it so awful?!

tuvamoodyson · 20/07/2024 13:16

I’m curious why you recoil too…I like a nice accent, but then I’m one of a very rare breed who detests swearing.

hastingsmax · 20/07/2024 13:16

For example, James Blunt's accent is nice, as are his parents'

pandasorous · 20/07/2024 13:16

TheShellBeach · 20/07/2024 13:13

Jacob Rees-Mogg isn't from Eastern Europe.

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EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 20/07/2024 13:13

The one that got away for me had a very posh accent and I loved it.

TheShellBeach · 20/07/2024 13:13

pandasorous · 20/07/2024 13:12

@Croufer are you saying Jacob Rees mogg's Etonian drawl doesn't make you go weak at the knees? you lie!

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Jacob Rees-Mogg isn't from Eastern Europe.

EddieSweety · 20/07/2024 13:13

See, I like it on men but can’t stand it on women. Horses for courses and all that! I’m a posh Scot though 😉

hastingsmax · 20/07/2024 13:13

The made in Chelsea accent is awful on the women and the men. Its affected vocal fry is dreadful.

A proper upper class accent is nice when it's natural and not put on.

TimeandMotion · 20/07/2024 13:13

snowballsintheoven · 20/07/2024 13:11

My husband's posh accent drives me insane.

Every conversation is like a job interview because he is so formal.

Sad

It's actually causing problems with our children, they cannot relax around him; whereas I'm more "well sweetie, how's it going?" and the children can reply saying "awk ok mum, I'm knackered, gonna chill for a bit."

My husband would be more: "Charles darling, how did your day treat you?" And expects a response like "yes, it was fine dad, thank you. I am extremely tired now though and might considering going upstairs for a little rest."

Kills me Sad my husband still shakes hands with his parents. Different upbringing, I'm a feral rat compared to them.

But how did you even fall in love with him if you find conversation difficult?

pandasorous · 20/07/2024 13:12

@Croufer are you saying Jacob Rees mogg's Etonian drawl doesn't make you go weak at the knees? you lie!

snowballsintheoven · 20/07/2024 13:11

My husband's posh accent drives me insane.

Every conversation is like a job interview because he is so formal.

Sad

It's actually causing problems with our children, they cannot relax around him; whereas I'm more "well sweetie, how's it going?" and the children can reply saying "awk ok mum, I'm knackered, gonna chill for a bit."

My husband would be more: "Charles darling, how did your day treat you?" And expects a response like "yes, it was fine dad, thank you. I am extremely tired now though and might considering going upstairs for a little rest."

Kills me Sad my husband still shakes hands with his parents. Different upbringing, I'm a feral rat compared to them.

Original poster
Croufer · 20/07/2024 13:11

A university boyfriend’s siblings often got photographed at society events but his accent wasn't as cut glass. So this is not a reverse snobbery thing.

I can’t get through 10 mins of Made in Chelsea because of the men. Nails on a chalkboard.

Just a silly musing.

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Threeweeksold · 20/07/2024 13:05

They don’t sound any better on women.

curious79 · 20/07/2024 13:05

I think it can sound like an anachronism in todays world but frankly if he’s a lovely bloke, looks good, massive etc etc then I think I could get over that