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Does it make you feel anxious when people don't text you back?

35 replies

Nurseynurse665 · 20/07/2024 11:17

I text my sister 4 hours ago offering to have her daughter in a few weeks for the day. I have my neice for the day once a month. She hasn't opened my message or replied. She's been active on social media.

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BeaRF75 · 20/07/2024 11:26

No. And 4 hours is ridiculously quick! After 4 days I might start to notice, I suppose. Lots of us ignore our phones/are busy for long periods of time.

Edingril · 20/07/2024 11:25

No, if it was important I would call or track then down somehow

I hate this constant need to be in contact or if not constant having to be in contact to meet someone else's timetable for what is acceptable

Sunnydiary · 20/07/2024 11:25

No not remotely. I probably wouldn’t even notice/register lack of response until a couple of days had passed.

HVPRN · 20/07/2024 11:25

In my 20s and before personal development, yeah.. in my 30s absolutely not! Not bothered at all, and don't hold anything against anyone or give it a second thought 😁

ilovesooty · 20/07/2024 11:24

Why don't you call her if you need an answer urgently?

FranceIsWhereItsAt · 20/07/2024 11:23

If you're aware that she is currently active on social media, she may not have even noticed your message yet. If you need an answer, then just call her.

No33 · 20/07/2024 11:22

It's been 4 hours, you are being really unreasonable.

Gymmum82 · 20/07/2024 11:22

No. I’d assume they were busy. My sister will read messages and forget to reply. She’s just busy and a bit dopey

Iloveeverycat · 20/07/2024 11:21

No wouldn't bother me if they ever did.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 20/07/2024 11:21

This would really bug me, I’d assume they were ignoring me. In saying that I know I have issues with this sort of thing and feel rejected easily. If I was offering a favour and didn’t get a reply I’d be (irrationally) furious and delete the message.