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Too similar sibling names

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MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 04:50

My daughter is Charlotte and i am expecting my second, another girl, due in October. Charlotte's middle name is Pearl and the new baby's would be Opal. I really like the name Colette and I think it goes really well with Charlotte with the similar structure but different soundings. I also like the names Chloe and Nicole but I would still strongly prefer Colette over them. Is it too similar?

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WhileIBreathIHope · 20/07/2024 08:56

I think it’ll be fine. The middle names make no difference day to day and I think it’s quite a cute link.

I accidentally named my daughters very similar names - they look nothing alike on paper and start with different letters but two of three syllables are almost exactly the same. I think Char and Col are quite different and although the endings are similar they are not the same - the sounds are ‘lot’ and ‘et’ the way I pronounce them anyway. It’ll be fine.

noflyholiday · 20/07/2024 08:55

I think they sound and look far too similar. I wouldn't have liked a sibling to have such a close sounding name.
I'm also not keen on siblings having the same initials but this is what you want.

Weirdly, despite the similarities, I don't think they go well together. It feels like they have very different vibes.

You seem really determined to use Collette OP, so just do it.

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 08:55

HowIrresponsible · 20/07/2024 08:54

Why? They're individual people. Why do they have to have matching names?

Most likely they'll hate it.

Not necessarily matching but somewhat similar as they are siblings after all. I have a friend who has a similar but not too similar name to her sister's (think lila and luna), and she loves it.

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Saltedbutter · 20/07/2024 08:54

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 08:06

No sorry we want something classy and elegant!

I really don’t see Colette as either of those things. Colette is a 50+ year old woman with a name that hasn’t cycled yet and I’m not sure is particularly nice either.
Chloe is a lovely name and matches the timelessness of Charlotte.

HowIrresponsible · 20/07/2024 08:54

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 08:51

I just think it would be nice to have some similarities in their names, just making sure im not going too far

Why? They're individual people. Why do they have to have matching names?

Most likely they'll hate it.

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 08:51

HoldingTheDoor · 20/07/2024 08:51

They’re both much too similar and why does it supposedly make sense for them to start with the same letter?

I just think it would be nice to have some similarities in their names, just making sure im not going too far

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Previousreligion · 20/07/2024 08:51

Much too similar for me.

I have a school friend who has a sister with the same initials. The two names don't sound like same at all (think Sarah and Stephanie) but they both got called the other name by teachers all the time. It really annoyed them. So I'm anti siblings with the same initial.

HoldingTheDoor · 20/07/2024 08:51

They’re both much too similar and why does it supposedly make sense for them to start with the same letter?

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 08:48

Blisterly · 20/07/2024 08:44

I don’t think of Collette as being a timeless classy name (this is something you stipulated) - pretty much the opposite! I personally don’t like the matchy matchy names or names starting with the same letter, it makes me think of people naming a litter of puppies than children with their own individual personalities.

Their names don't define their personality...

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Blisterly · 20/07/2024 08:44

I don’t think of Collette as being a timeless classy name (this is something you stipulated) - pretty much the opposite! I personally don’t like the matchy matchy names or names starting with the same letter, it makes me think of people naming a litter of puppies than children with their own individual personalities.

DoraTheIgnora · 20/07/2024 08:44

They sound far too similar

LyndaSnellsSniff · 20/07/2024 08:44

Colette is a beautiful name. I actually don't think they are too similar. I know a pair of brothers who are Elliot and Emmet and it never occurred to me that they are too similar.

willWillSmithsmith · 20/07/2024 08:42

Supernova12345 · 20/07/2024 08:30

Are you actually being serious? Or is this whole post a Saturday morning wind up?

So ok, let's for instance say you're serious. If your family member wanted to let you know your dinner was ready, they'd walk all the way upstairs and knock on your door to let you know?

Or, in my experience, it's been the norm for people to shout upstairs to tell you dinner or tea is ready. And when I mean shout I don't mean as in "SHOUTING' aggressively!

I can’t shout up the stairs as the way the house is configured my son would never hear me from his bedroom. I text or go up to his room.

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 08:42

willWillSmithsmith · 20/07/2024 08:39

I really like the name Colette. They are kind of similar though but not like calling them Tia and Mia.

Because they share a lot of the same letters it could almost look like it was done deliberately (even if it wasn’t), like people who have to name all of their ten kids with the same letter T or something.

Ultimately it’s up to you and Colette is a lovely name

I think its kind of special that Colette and Charlotte look similar but when spoken sounds different but i am not sure if they sound different enough

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willWillSmithsmith · 20/07/2024 08:39

I really like the name Colette. They are kind of similar though but not like calling them Tia and Mia.

Because they share a lot of the same letters it could almost look like it was done deliberately (even if it wasn’t), like people who have to name all of their ten kids with the same letter T or something.

Ultimately it’s up to you and Colette is a lovely name

EnoughIsTooMuchAlready · 20/07/2024 08:39

I think it's fine

Otherwise try Nicolette Opal

MightyFlorals · 20/07/2024 08:37

They do have a similar sounding softness at the end but they go nicely together. I think they’re different enough.

I have 2 nieces (sisters) with VERY similar sounding names. I, along with other family members, often get them mixed up or sometimes say a combination of the 2.
I’m not usually bad with things like that, but my brain can’t work it out for some reason! Thankfully, they have shortened nicknames we can use.

Ponoka7 · 20/07/2024 08:35

Supernova12345 · 20/07/2024 08:30

Are you actually being serious? Or is this whole post a Saturday morning wind up?

So ok, let's for instance say you're serious. If your family member wanted to let you know your dinner was ready, they'd walk all the way upstairs and knock on your door to let you know?

Or, in my experience, it's been the norm for people to shout upstairs to tell you dinner or tea is ready. And when I mean shout I don't mean as in "SHOUTING' aggressively!

Tbf, people now text or similar, or get alexa to do it, they especially will in ten years time. I was brought up to not shout through rooms and like having a milk bottle on the table, a lot of WC families didn't.

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 08:35

Supernova12345 · 20/07/2024 08:30

Are you actually being serious? Or is this whole post a Saturday morning wind up?

So ok, let's for instance say you're serious. If your family member wanted to let you know your dinner was ready, they'd walk all the way upstairs and knock on your door to let you know?

Or, in my experience, it's been the norm for people to shout upstairs to tell you dinner or tea is ready. And when I mean shout I don't mean as in "SHOUTING' aggressively!

We will rarely need to shout as we use google home when eg. dinner is ready. I find it more convenient and pretty cool

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Catza · 20/07/2024 08:35

Supernova12345 · 20/07/2024 08:30

Are you actually being serious? Or is this whole post a Saturday morning wind up?

So ok, let's for instance say you're serious. If your family member wanted to let you know your dinner was ready, they'd walk all the way upstairs and knock on your door to let you know?

Or, in my experience, it's been the norm for people to shout upstairs to tell you dinner or tea is ready. And when I mean shout I don't mean as in "SHOUTING' aggressively!

Yes, I'm being serious. We don't shout for dinner. We go and let the person know the dinner is ready. It's really not that hard to go up the stairs, hardly makes up 5% of the daily step count. The only person who shouts upstairs in my house is my partner and it drives us all crazy because he will be bellowing at the bottom of the stairs instead of walking up 12 steps to see that the person he calls for is in the shower.

RoseMarigoldViolet · 20/07/2024 08:35

Personally, I think they are too similar.

Ponoka7 · 20/07/2024 08:31

I think a lot of posters on here read mallory towers and cross it over into RL. I find that names aren't shortened anymore unless dictated by the child. The tales of mistaken ID doesn't happen anymore. Hospital letters are addressed "to the parents of (full name)". How often will the names be said together? not that often and rarely in adulthood. I see you are going for birthstone middle names, I prefer Collette rose (for rose quartz) tbh, I don't think opal flows at all and it isn't classy and elegant. Annette isn't that different, so no need to swap to that.

CanFishMicrowaveSoup · 20/07/2024 08:31

Way too similar.

Colette is just Charlotte with a few letters missing.

Supernova12345 · 20/07/2024 08:30

Catza · 20/07/2024 08:22

I can't imagine circumstances under which I need to "shout upstairs". I was brought up in a house where, if you needed to speak to someone, you would go and knock on their room's door. So, how the names sound when shouted would not be a consideration for me whatsoever.

Are you actually being serious? Or is this whole post a Saturday morning wind up?

So ok, let's for instance say you're serious. If your family member wanted to let you know your dinner was ready, they'd walk all the way upstairs and knock on your door to let you know?

Or, in my experience, it's been the norm for people to shout upstairs to tell you dinner or tea is ready. And when I mean shout I don't mean as in "SHOUTING' aggressively!

jlox · 20/07/2024 08:27

I dont think they're too similar because they are both pronouced differently on both syllables.

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