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Too similar sibling names

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MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 04:50

My daughter is Charlotte and i am expecting my second, another girl, due in October. Charlotte's middle name is Pearl and the new baby's would be Opal. I really like the name Colette and I think it goes really well with Charlotte with the similar structure but different soundings. I also like the names Chloe and Nicole but I would still strongly prefer Colette over them. Is it too similar?

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cheddercherry · 20/07/2024 10:26

It always strikes me a bit odd that there’s so many names but people narrow it down to “matching initials” even if they dont particularly like most of the names they’re left with. It all sounds a bit Kardashian and it’s certainly common in the states. It’s like “I don’t really care as much about the name and sentiment just that you match your sibling because we arbitrarily want C names”. But it’s your child and you seem set so just go for it?

Supernova12345 · 20/07/2024 10:24

BurntOrangeAutumn · 20/07/2024 10:09

Um no actually there are comments saying Colette will feel cheated if she has a sister named Charlotte & other comments putting that particular name down, not only because they think they sound very similar.
Read the comments before getting arsey who pissed in your cornflakes this morning 😂

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So it's alright to make sweeping statements is it? Ok then

Bluebirdover · 20/07/2024 10:21

Bluebirdover · 20/07/2024 10:20

@Catza get a fucking grip, calling your child's babe loudly is not treating them like a dog!

Don't be so dramatic and ridiculous.

Look at your upbringing objectively, if that's what you feel, you may want to consider therapy to be able to think rationally.

*name not babe

Bluebirdover · 20/07/2024 10:20

@Catza get a fucking grip, calling your child's babe loudly is not treating them like a dog!

Don't be so dramatic and ridiculous.

Look at your upbringing objectively, if that's what you feel, you may want to consider therapy to be able to think rationally.

Supernova12345 · 20/07/2024 10:17

Catza · 20/07/2024 10:06

We obviously don't live in a mansion like yourself. We have open plan downstairs and only three bedrooms on the first floor which is 12 steps up from the ground floor. It's not a hardship or "more work" to go up some steps. And if we did live in a bigger house, then nobody would be able to hear me shouting across multiple floors anyway, except for my neighbours. Especially if my kid is in her room with headphones in.
Ultimately, I was brought up to think it is impolite and lazy to shout indoors and that one should have respect for the neighbours and their own household members and not treat them like dogs trained to recall. Do you shout across the office to your colleagues or do you get up and walk to their desk?

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So shouting (or calling) to your family members, instead of going to look for them is disrespectful and akin to treating them like dogs is it? And it's also impolite and lazy?

I've literally heard it all now.

You come across as you THINK you're superior to people like me, with the way you 'were bought up'

Let me say this, however you were bought up, it appears not to have done you any favours, as your attitude on here is one of someone who sounds quite delusional.

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MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 10:16

Is Colette not too similar or should I go for Claire instead? Cara Rose sounds nice but again might be too different.

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ToriMJ · 20/07/2024 10:11

Celeste?

IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere · 20/07/2024 10:09

I think Charlotte and Colette sound lovely together. As long as they have different middle initials to distinguish them when they get post in the future it would be fine. They sound very different.

BurntOrangeAutumn · 20/07/2024 10:09

Supernova12345 · 20/07/2024 08:15

How ridiculous to make such a sweeping statement. People aren't 'hating' on the baby name choice FFS, the names sound way too similar, and that's the only reason people are advising the OP against using them together.

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Um no actually there are comments saying Colette will feel cheated if she has a sister named Charlotte & other comments putting that particular name down, not only because they think they sound very similar.
Read the comments before getting arsey who pissed in your cornflakes this morning 😂

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MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 10:09

KnickerlessParsons · 20/07/2024 10:08

They'd be Lottie and Lettie in school. So no

Shortenings are not common where I live.

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KnickerlessParsons · 20/07/2024 10:08

They'd be Lottie and Lettie in school. So no

caringcarer · 20/07/2024 10:07

Talipesmum · 20/07/2024 05:40

Charlotte Pearl, and Collete Opal? For me, I do think they’re too similar, sorry, since you asked. But it’s up to you!

This. I think Chloe Opal works though.

protectoroftherealm · 20/07/2024 10:07

I actually think they sound lovely together!

True story - My nanna was called Hannah, she had a younger sister called, erm Hannah!

Supernova12345 · 20/07/2024 10:07

ebadame · 20/07/2024 09:56

Everyone should have a gong in their house to notify everyone when it's dinner time. Have you not got one? (sarcasm as I know it can be hard to tell for some people in the written word)

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Good idea, but don't you think a gong would be too common, and 'classy' people wouldn't use it?
The expected thing, it seems, is to go wandering around the house (whilst you've probably still got food on the hob being left unattended) to personally face to face tell your family member to come down for dinner.

Saltedbutter · 20/07/2024 10:07

Catza · 20/07/2024 09:57

I'd let the child in and tell them to go up to my kid's room. Or I would take things off the hob and come get them. I find it unbelievable that so many people normalise shouting inside the house (or anywhere) out of convenience. Your poor neighbours...

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Did you mean to come across as so snotty?
I don’t really have any neighbours - I can’t believe you’ve normalised living in such a built up area. Sounds awful! Do better.

Catza · 20/07/2024 10:06

Supernova12345 · 20/07/2024 09:31

So you make more work for yourself walking upstairs to let someone know dinners ready, (and they may not be up there, they may be in a separate room downstairs without you knowing) rather than just calling their name?
I'm sure you do.

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We obviously don't live in a mansion like yourself. We have open plan downstairs and only three bedrooms on the first floor which is 12 steps up from the ground floor. It's not a hardship or "more work" to go up some steps. And if we did live in a bigger house, then nobody would be able to hear me shouting across multiple floors anyway, except for my neighbours. Especially if my kid is in her room with headphones in.
Ultimately, I was brought up to think it is impolite and lazy to shout indoors and that one should have respect for the neighbours and their own household members and not treat them like dogs trained to recall. Do you shout across the office to your colleagues or do you get up and walk to their desk?

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MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 10:06

Floatlikeafeather2 · 20/07/2024 10:05

As you've set the tone by being extremely offensive to all Coleens and parents of Coleens, I would like to say, if you want classy and elegant you have already shot yourself in the foot by calling your daughter Charlotte Pearl, which is neither classy nor elegant. Likewise Colette Opal which also sounds a bit ugly as a pairing. It's certainly not pretty. But as your responses on here show, you are not interested in anyone's opinion unless they agree with you so Charlotte Pearl and Colette Opal it is, I guess. Your kids, your choice.

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Sorry I didn't mean to offend anyone! What I meant was Coleen is more of a modern name while Colette is more traditional.

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VirginiaGirl · 20/07/2024 10:06

It doesn't matter if they're similar nor does it matter what other people think. My grown up children have similar names. They have the names that we loved, we wouldn’t have been happy with any other names for them. No regrets, they’re their own people. A (horrid) relative said it’d cause confusion with mail, it never has!

Floatlikeafeather2 · 20/07/2024 10:05

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 08:06

No sorry we want something classy and elegant!

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As you've set the tone by being extremely offensive to all Coleens and parents of Coleens, I would like to say, if you want classy and elegant you have already shot yourself in the foot by calling your daughter Charlotte Pearl, which is neither classy nor elegant. Likewise Colette Opal which also sounds a bit ugly as a pairing. It's certainly not pretty. But as your responses on here show, you are not interested in anyone's opinion unless they agree with you so Charlotte Pearl and Colette Opal it is, I guess. Your kids, your choice.

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MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 10:05

I am thinking Claire Opal and potentially Cara Rose but the latter seems too different to me. Colette is still on my list but maybe I will give that to our family dog instead!

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Eastcoastie · 20/07/2024 10:05

I dont think they are similar at all? One is an ette sound and the other an otte. The only similarity is that they both start with C but even the C sound is pronounced differently. Seems fine to me.

StormingNorman · 20/07/2024 10:05

LoveHearts69 · 20/07/2024 09:34

Same, I feel the name Collette sounds quite harsh and could sound slightly chavvy when pronounced whereas Chloe at least is much softer. I do think Charlotte and Colette are too similar and I usually like similar names but you seem quite set on it!

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Hahaha! If my sister was Charlotte and I got lumbered with Colette, I’d be really miffed!

Previousreligion · 20/07/2024 10:02

How about Crystal? C name, gemstone and different from Charlotte all in one!

Calypso? Calista? Juliette/Georgette/Josette?

I like the Nicolette suggestion. And agree Chloe Opal flows better than Colette Opal.

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MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 10:02

Bristolnewcomer · 20/07/2024 09:56

It depends on accent, if you’re French they’ll sound totally different for example. In my accent the last syllable is almost the same:
Sharlet
Collet

mind you the only Colette I know is pronounced more or less “C’let” by her family. Sounds like you’re set (or sette) on it anyway so best of luck with the pregnancy, I’m sure she’ll love her name 😊

We are English speaking and we live in Singapore

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newleafontheplantjohn · 20/07/2024 10:02

I think they are too similar

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