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Too similar sibling names

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MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 04:50

My daughter is Charlotte and i am expecting my second, another girl, due in October. Charlotte's middle name is Pearl and the new baby's would be Opal. I really like the name Colette and I think it goes really well with Charlotte with the similar structure but different soundings. I also like the names Chloe and Nicole but I would still strongly prefer Colette over them. Is it too similar?

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Purplecatshopaholic · 20/07/2024 07:34

I dont think they are too similar at all! Unless you have a strong accent that affects pronunciation? Lovely names.

LadyFeatheringt0n · 20/07/2024 07:33

I think they have a similarity of sound that would put me off but its your kids. They could end up shortened to Lottie & Lettie. They are both perfectly nice names so its not really on us - if you like that name & you don't think they sound similar its your choice.

Velvian · 20/07/2024 07:33

I would steer clear of names starting with tge same letter. DH and his 2 brothers all have the same initial and it is a bit embarrassing for them, as well as having issues with all 3 getting post for Mr M Brown.

greglet · 20/07/2024 07:33

I like Nicole/Nicolette much better than Colette. I also don't think Colette Opal flows that well - the stress on the last syllable of Colette and the first of Opal makes them sound a bit clunky.

Niiina · 20/07/2024 07:32

I really like it! I'm also a fan of names sitting well together and I think the similarity works (they're barely even similar though, sound-wise they're distinguishable). So I personally think you've picked amazingly @MyBluntSloth - I think because I have a similar approach to names. Go for it and you seem very sold 😍

Charlotte Pearl
Colette Opal

Love it!

(Colette also a French classic!)

ebadame · 20/07/2024 07:29

I do personally think the gem-based middle names are a bit gimmicky, especially in combination with the similarly linked first names. I would have a good think whether that is really the sensible thing to do, as it can be experienced in multiple ways. You probably think, how cute, emphasizing the sibling bond. But as the second child, I would eventually wonder if my name was just modelled on the first one (which it is!), which would make me wonder if my parents see me as the individual I am, instead of version 2 of my sibling. this worded my feelings better than I could. It's really not fair on the second child.

leopardski · 20/07/2024 07:28

Go for it! I have twins, you’d be surprised how many twin parents go for ‘matchy’ names (I’ve met countless Ronnie and Reggie’s now 🤣) - if you love the name, go for it.

Renamedyetagain · 20/07/2024 07:28

Not a fan, sounds like a 50 yr old..Chloe and Nicole are blah too.

So many timeless, beautiful names. Post on baby names FFS.

foreverbasil · 20/07/2024 07:28

If you like Nicole and Colette what about Nicolette which a name in its own right.
Lettie and Lottie is a bit much IMHO.

Greenlittecat · 20/07/2024 07:23

I don't like it. Sorry 😞 Both names on their own are fine but I think it's too twee together. Especially each having a precious stone as a middle name, they sound like characters in a Jacqueline Wilson book to me. Sorry!

Not my children though, so if you like it name them whatever you want😊

ChildrenOfTheQuorn · 20/07/2024 07:23

YABU considering there is a baby names board. And yes, they're too similar also.

Catza · 20/07/2024 07:10

scalt · 20/07/2024 06:17

It’s true that many families do have members with matching initials, but remember that this can be inconvenient. For example, at school or hospital, they might both be “C. Smith”. Files on people can get mixed up this way. Someone looking on a database might automatically click the first one they see.

As an aside, I never understood the idea of children having the same names as their parents, and having to use the terms “junior” and “senior”.

Medical records display full name and we always check full dob and hospital number because there are usually dozens of Charlotte Smiths in the database.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 20/07/2024 06:58

I think they are too similar.

Babaquestions · 20/07/2024 06:39

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 06:29

but the pronounciations won't be similar; its just the spelling!

I find sibling names that look very similar more jarring than if they rhyme. People will think you have zero imagination and your second daughter might feel like you didn't put much effort into her name as it's basically her sister's name but spelled a bit differently and then a different gem stone as a middle name. Chloe and Nicole are better.

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 06:29

Babaquestions · 20/07/2024 06:27

You said you like the names Nicole and Chloe so go for one of them. Middle name Opal. Charlotte and Colette are too similar.

but the pronounciations won't be similar; its just the spelling!

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Babaquestions · 20/07/2024 06:27

You said you like the names Nicole and Chloe so go for one of them. Middle name Opal. Charlotte and Colette are too similar.

Commonsense22 · 20/07/2024 06:24

Those names are fine together as would be any names :) Once the child is matched to the name all these considerations become redundant.
Don't forego using your favourite name because you're concerned about what a minority might think.

Pickled21 · 20/07/2024 06:24

It is similar, however it very much sounds like you have your heart set on it so fair enough.

guinnesschocolatecake · 20/07/2024 06:23

Congrats on your pregnancy! Having the same starting initial makes it quite important they at least have differently starting middle names, which you have. I don't think Charlotte and Colette are too similar sounding. They look similar-ish when written, because of the C and tte situation, but not when pronounced.

I do personally think the gem-based middle names are a bit gimmicky, especially in combination with the similarly linked first names. I would have a good think whether that is really the sensible thing to do, as it can be experienced in multiple ways. You probably think, how cute, emphasizing the sibling bond. But as the second child, I would eventually wonder if my name was just modelled on the first one (which it is!), which would make me wonder if my parents see me as the individual I am, instead of version 2 of my sibling.

Alternatively, you don't need to decide now. We waited with naming DC until we had met them, to get a feel of what they were like. When they finally arrived, it was immediately clear they were quite a character, so we picked a name that matched that.

scalt · 20/07/2024 06:17

It’s true that many families do have members with matching initials, but remember that this can be inconvenient. For example, at school or hospital, they might both be “C. Smith”. Files on people can get mixed up this way. Someone looking on a database might automatically click the first one they see.

As an aside, I never understood the idea of children having the same names as their parents, and having to use the terms “junior” and “senior”.

Mummyoflittledragon · 20/07/2024 06:13

I don’t think the names are too similar. Pronunciation is more important than how the names are written. The last 4 letters are pronounced differently even if the 3 consonants are the same and the C’s are pronounced differently as well. The way that I say the names, not one of the vowel sounds are the same (apart from the silent e at the end) despite being the same letters.

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 06:12

TwinklyNight · 20/07/2024 06:10

I like them.
Have you thought of Claudette?

No sorry id much prefer colette, the only thing that might be holding me back is the potential similarity

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TwinklyNight · 20/07/2024 06:10

I like them.
Have you thought of Claudette?

Blinketyblinkblank · 20/07/2024 06:04

MyBluntSloth · 20/07/2024 05:49

they should be able to tell charlotte vs colette from upstairs though?

If you are set on both names starting with C then whatever you chose you are going to risk confusion.

If you really want the name to be begin with C then Colette is really nice name .

Of course it immediately makes me think of the author Colette who was popular many years ago and that adds to its appeal for me.

Edited to say sorry I didn't mean to Quote you MybluntSloth. Can't edit the quote out.

autienotnaughti · 20/07/2024 05:59

Lettie and Lottie? I love it!

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