Hi all,
I just wanted to get some views on this situation as I'm unsure if I am overthinking this.
I have been divorced 4 years, have 1 primary age dc and been in a new relationship for almost 2 years now. I met him at a hobby and knew him as a friend before we started a relationship. He is a lovely, funny, calm and decent person. Completely different in all the right ways to my xh. I was very weary of dating or anything following a very difficult divorce but things naturally evolved. I adore this man, he is incredibly patient and has understood how slowly I've needed to take things. He has only very recently met my daughter and then only briefly. We only spend time together when she's with her dad. BF has no kids, I don't want any more and he is fine with this.
BF currently lives with his sibling in a large house with no mortgage (his parents sadly passed away and they have inherited the property). This will be sold in time but neither of them are ready to part with it yet. Brother has a partner who is also living at that property.
The issue, if there is one, is this.
BF and I have recently planned to go away for a short break (while DD has plans with her dad) which is a bit of a one off. BF suggested it and we looked at hotels/flights together. We have paid 50/50 for the cost of the trip, which is fine, I've always paid my way. We have generally taken it in turns paying for dates.
What is playing on my mind a little is, to pay my half is really tough for me, I have had to scrimp and save and cancel a couple of other things in order to be able to afford it. I have a full time job but a large mortgage after my divorce and things can be really tight.
He on the other hand has no mortgage, considerable savings, and we are paying 50/50.
I feel if it was the other way round I'd have offered to pay a greater share. He knows i dont have much disposable income.
I'm not sure what to make of this. Every other thing about this man is amazing. But this is really niggling.