Why aren't you Single?

Aquarius1234 · 2024-07-19T19:35:20+00:00

I love a relationship debate. So here's another. Why aren't you single?

Despair1 · 10/08/2024 10:24

Everydayimhuffling · 09/08/2024 20:23

I happened to meet my best person at school and after we got together at 16 he just carried on being lovely and making me happy. We've weathered a lot of storms together and it's always better with DP there. I was lucky, basically. We grew up together instead of growing apart and got very good at communicating with each other.

Truly wonderful to hear stories like this.
Wishing you many more years together

Everydayimhuffling · 09/08/2024 20:23

I happened to meet my best person at school and after we got together at 16 he just carried on being lovely and making me happy. We've weathered a lot of storms together and it's always better with DP there. I was lucky, basically. We grew up together instead of growing apart and got very good at communicating with each other.

Despair1 · 09/08/2024 19:56

Mountainpika · 08/08/2024 20:00

From childhood I wanted to marry and have a family, be a teacher, be a writer. I've achieved all three.
We met in 1971 and knew within a couple of weeks that we were right for each other. No doubt in our minds at all. And we still feel the same after 50 years being married. Best thing we ever did.

Truly fantastic to hear!

Despair1 · 09/08/2024 19:55

BelleoftheBall5 · 08/08/2024 16:11

I was single after the horrible experience of exH suddenly leaving after 20 years of marriage and 2 dc. After a few years of being single and by then, happy single, a friend suggested that I would get on well with one of her male friends from college days as we seemed to have similar interests. I thought some companionship would be welcime. Companionship became love. We are both in our early 50’s.

Fantastic, much deserved

BeyondOlympicLevelProcrastinator · 08/08/2024 20:05

I'm not sure. I wanted to be, but DP just kinda didn't leave 🤷🏼‍♀️

Mountainpika · 08/08/2024 20:00

From childhood I wanted to marry and have a family, be a teacher, be a writer. I've achieved all three.
We met in 1971 and knew within a couple of weeks that we were right for each other. No doubt in our minds at all. And we still feel the same after 50 years being married. Best thing we ever did.

Combattingthemoaners · 08/08/2024 19:53

NotTooOldPaul · 19/07/2024 20:47

A few years ago I would have said it is because we love each other, enjoy doing many things together, talk to each other and sex is amazing.
Now I am with her because I still love her despite her dementia, incontinence and constant demands
Love is amazing.

This is lovely. I hope your wife still knows how loved she is. Take care x

Despair1 · 08/08/2024 19:50

Bloom15 · 08/08/2024 18:18

I love him. And I have realised how amazing he is when my dad has been unwell lately. I always think he is sexy

Fantastic, lucky you!

Despair1 · 08/08/2024 19:49

Toomanysquishmallows · 08/08/2024 17:21

I have just had a couple of days holiday with just eldest dd , when I got back I was literally running from the bus stop to get home to see dp , I love him so much .

Brilliant, how lucky you are! I've never had that experience

Bloom15 · 08/08/2024 18:18

I love him. And I have realised how amazing he is when my dad has been unwell lately. I always think he is sexy

Toomanysquishmallows · 08/08/2024 17:21

I have just had a couple of days holiday with just eldest dd , when I got back I was literally running from the bus stop to get home to see dp , I love him so much .

C1N1C · 08/08/2024 16:39

Offensive answer: Have you seen the fish in the sea out there when you're 40?!

Honest answer: I made my bed

Actual honest answer: I'd miss my cats, and they'd probably go with my DP

BelleoftheBall5 · 08/08/2024 16:11

I was single after the horrible experience of exH suddenly leaving after 20 years of marriage and 2 dc. After a few years of being single and by then, happy single, a friend suggested that I would get on well with one of her male friends from college days as we seemed to have similar interests. I thought some companionship would be welcime. Companionship became love. We are both in our early 50’s.

Meadowfinch · 08/08/2024 16:10

Arlanymor · 19/07/2024 20:43

I am - because the alternative options I have come across recently aren't very appealing.

Likewise.

Despair1 · 08/08/2024 16:08

Begonia4 · 08/08/2024 11:34

Yikes. At least you’re honest.

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Hellodarknessmyfriend, is that really true or is it a wind up?

Despair1 · 08/08/2024 16:06

Tagyoureit · 20/07/2024 21:15

I love living with my DH, he is my best friend, we laugh together, very rarely argue, have great sex 3 to 4 times a week, when he wfh we have lunch dates together, I honestly wouldn't be without him!!

When I go out to dinner with my friends, all though do is bitch about their husbands, even to the point of how they could survive without them, I was horrified!! I'd honestly hate to be them!

Lovely to hear

Despair1 · 08/08/2024 16:04

KimberleyClark · 08/08/2024 11:42

I’m not single because I met a man I wanted to commit to and spend my life with. I was single for five years before we met. I like that someone has my back always. I like having the perfect travelling companion.

Sounds great, lucky you!

KimberleyClark · 08/08/2024 11:42

I’m not single because I met a man I wanted to commit to and spend my life with. I was single for five years before we met. I like that someone has my back always. I like having the perfect travelling companion.

Begonia4 · 08/08/2024 11:34

Hellodarknessmyfriend · 20/07/2024 20:25

I wanted to get a man so I could have babies and then give up work forever but still live in a nice house and get my nails done once a week.

Yikes. At least you’re honest.

Toomanysquishmallows · 22/07/2024 11:08

I was single for four years after my ex had an affair. I was also a single parent. It’s an unpopular view here , but I hated being single . I met dp through friends and we have been together 20 years, we laugh every day .

Dweetfidilove · 22/07/2024 11:00

IsThisAkissingBook · 20/07/2024 21:13

Because I took an overdose when I found out he had an on/off affair for two years which started 3 months after our daughter came out of a coma. I ended up on Prozac, lorazepam, quetiapine and zopiclone, I stopped eating and lost 4 stone. I've been completely gaslighted by him manipulated, I even married him in May (I found this out in February). .we had been together 17 years and our daughter has been left completely disabled. I've been so unwell mentally I thought I couldn't live without him.

Oh no 😟.
Sending you some strength 💐💐💐.

Dweetfidilove · 22/07/2024 10:53

I like this thread. A good mix of warmth, lovely and honest 😊. It's good to see so many healthy relationships written about so beautifully.

GameOfJones · 21/07/2024 17:28

TreeShrugger · 21/07/2024 14:25

Yeah, but they’re not going to tell you that are they? I don’t have conversations with my friends about how great my marriage is, in fact I barely mention it at all.

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Quite. My marriage definitely isn't a fairytale. We have had our ups and downs, we've had to deal with bereavement and job losses and all the other crap life throws at you. We have had disagreements, we have had the odd major argument in our time. BUT I adore him, I know he adores me and my life is so much better with him in it.

I'm unlikely to speak to my friends about how happily married I am though. The subject literally doesn't come up and if anyone is ever having relationship issues it would be pretty insensitive of me to say "well my DH is fantastic and we're very happy together."

godmum56 · 21/07/2024 15:15

TreeShrugger · 21/07/2024 14:25

Yeah, but they’re not going to tell you that are they? I don’t have conversations with my friends about how great my marriage is, in fact I barely mention it at all.

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this absolutely. All other people know is what they see from the outside.

TreeShrugger · 21/07/2024 14:25

Despair1 · 21/07/2024 13:20

I have to say that I know many married people and not one of them has anything like the fairy tale marriages described on here.

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Yeah, but they’re not going to tell you that are they? I don’t have conversations with my friends about how great my marriage is, in fact I barely mention it at all.