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To think I’ve missed out on an exciting life by never living in London?

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uuuuup · 19/07/2024 20:04

Just that really. I can’t get it out of my head. I’ve lived in a large city and loved it and it makes me wonder how much I would have loved London. I’m all settled now with a child elsewhere. I feel I’ve missed out on so much?

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Blisterly · 19/07/2024 20:14

kirbykirby · 19/07/2024 20:07

London used to be great. Now it's an expensive and overrated. All the things that made it great have disappeared.

Where do you live in London? I think where you live makes a big difference.

Allthatwegotisthispalebluedot · 19/07/2024 20:14

Blisterly · 19/07/2024 20:13

I love it, I can’t imagine being anywhere else. Having been to a few towns and cities around the UK recently, I don’t even think it’s overpriced! Everything is on my doorstep, transport is cheap, lots of free events and museums, amazing food. Beautiful architecture, one of the greenest cities in the world, amazing for children (I do so many free things with my toddler).

I am lucky to have travelled quite extensively and I still think it’s the best city in the world. It’s never too late OP!!

This is how I feel. Been all around the world. London blows every other city out of the water in so many ways. It is fantastic.

I’m not even from here! I’m never leaving though.

fiskal · 19/07/2024 20:14

I agree that living in London is a pretty wonderful experience. I've been here a long time now and find it very inspiring.

But anyway, it's not for everyone, you can't do everything and if it stays as a longing you could do it for a while when your child grows up?

I think children can make us feel a bit trapped wherever we are...

PlaceMarkingHere · 19/07/2024 20:13

I have lived here all my adult life and absolutely adore it. My kids were born and brought up here. They are at uni but say they will return here to work.

However, I don’t kid myself that it’s the right place for everyone. Some areas are better than others. It’s a tough place if you don’t earn well. Things are so so expensive.

The diversity suits me as a non-white person.

There are many places to lead a full and happy life. I am sure there are many great things about where you are now.

Zanatdy · 19/07/2024 20:13

London is an amazing city. I have lived on the outskirts for 23yrs now and I’ve loved it having grown up in the sticks with nothing to do. It’s expensive though, so I will be heading back up north once youngest goes to Uni.

Blisterly · 19/07/2024 20:13

I love it, I can’t imagine being anywhere else. Having been to a few towns and cities around the UK recently, I don’t even think it’s overpriced! Everything is on my doorstep, transport is cheap, lots of free events and museums, amazing food. Beautiful architecture, one of the greenest cities in the world, amazing for children (I do so many free things with my toddler).

I am lucky to have travelled quite extensively and I still think it’s the best city in the world. It’s never too late OP!!

Hopper123 · 19/07/2024 20:12

I've lived in Central London during a time of my life where I was single, childfree and living with great friends...personally I don't think you're missing out on very much but that's just my opinion. It wasn't exciting to me at all, it was busy, sweaty, smelly everyone pushing and not waiting in queues for the buses etc and very chaotic and I did not feel safe on my own at night at all...this was 12 years ago and I feel it would be even worse now. I know some people love it but not for me. I'm a northerner at heart and couldn't wait to get out of there. What do you feel is exciting that you can't find elsewhere in the country? Is it worth really delving in to what it is you fear you are missing? It's highly possible that if you can work that out that you will somehow be able to find it just where you are. I encourage you to try not to look back on life with regrets but instead look with gratitude at where you are and make life what you want it here and now with the people you have around you.

Firtreeandpinecones · 19/07/2024 20:12

Other cities are available!

I have not lived in London, but l have lived in other, very different countries for several years. There are other ways to get a good experience of life.

Allthatwegotisthispalebluedot · 19/07/2024 20:09

This won’t make you feel any better but I have lived in London for 13 years and I actually agree. Its an amazing city to live in and I genuinely still feel so excited to live here.

It is very busy though, and it’s hideously expensive. You NEED money to enjoy it, or it’s miserable. I absolutely love the excitement, but all of our friends who live elsewhere own much bigger houses than we do. It’s just a choice I guess and you have to decide what is important to you.

Anyway OP, London isn’t full. You could still move here if you weighed up the cost-benefit analysis and decided it is what you want! I would highly recommend.

StoatofDisarray · 19/07/2024 20:08

I moved to London when I was 22 and I'm 57 now. I really love London and it's my home, but I think you're overestimating how much time and energy and money most of the people who live here have to do all the stuff you think we're doing!

kirbykirby · 19/07/2024 20:07

London used to be great. Now it's an expensive and overrated. All the things that made it great have disappeared.

MumChp · 19/07/2024 20:06

Missed nothing.

Elasticatedtrousers · 19/07/2024 20:06

Absolutely not! Lived in London, couldn’t wait to get back to the coast!

Cityandmakeup · 19/07/2024 20:05

London is a hole

uuuuup · 19/07/2024 20:05

And I mean culture, diversity, experiences, the shows, the life and buzz

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