DD current medical investigations and GP response

As a seriously ill person, I find people (and that includes those close to you) fall into two camps. Those that get it and those that don't. I don't know why. Some people are possibly more empathetic, or helpful. Maybe illness scares others. Could just be thoughtlessness or a situation they've never had to endure so don't really understand. It's a shit, scary time for you. My advice would be, lean on the people who are there and try and accept her for who she is.
I'm thinking of you - it's a frightening time, I hope you have some support.

I'm shocked by some of the responses on here. Family drama?? OP must be so worried, it's it's totally inappropriate for the GP's to send pictures of their day trip. I would be sick with worry, no way I would be able to go out gallivanting

Tell them what you’ve written to us OP. That you’re scared and lonely. Say you’re tired and you need them to stay at the hopsital
for a couple of hours while you get sleep at home or Ask for a handhold when you have to go talk to the doctors or are waiting for her to come out from testing.
You have to ask, they will support you but be clear what you need.
That will change over time and in the coming weeks- so be very open with them. Tell them how you’re feeling (honestly) and what you need (honestly)

Ask for help if you need it. You can’t expect someone to mind read. Some people don’t want to feel like their are interfering etc.

Just ask what you need: food shopping, laundry done. I’m sure they will help.

Very gently, with the anguish you are experiencing, I think you’re taking out your pain on your in-laws, who will be none the wiser that they’ve upset you. This is honesty the least of your problems. Don’t create further upset for yourself

OP you’ve got a tough few weeks with all these tests. Don’t let this negativity take over your mind. Just ignore them. If they knew how much they’ve upset you, I’m sure they would feel bad.

Just concentrate on you DD and don’t try to judge others actions. It’s difficult for some people to express their feelings, doesn’t mean they don’t love Dgd.

What they’re at the hospital taking up space and doing nothing effective? I truly cannot think of anything worse! Are they supposed to sit at home worrying? How does that help?

I'm so sorry you are going through this and that your in-laws are being so cold. I've been there with a child in and out of hospital and difficult inlaws. I understand that you're desperate for support and probably for someone to sit with your little one while you have a shower, go to the loo and get some food.

I think you are being quite unreasonable and demanding. Sending nice pictures is often a way of sharing something nice with someone who is having a bad day. I don't think there is anything they could have done which would be acceptable to you, whatever they did would be worng.

I don't think they are doing anything wrong in going about their normal business rather than dropping everything and running around like headless chickens at every family drama - that doesn't help anyone

My Mum just shows constant apathy, OP and it's miserable. All I can do is learn from it and never be that parent to my own DC. I've built a wall round me and my family, and rarely let the drawbridge down these days. My sense of self preservation kicked in a few years ago (better late than never) and it's been life changing.

I'm so sorry to hear about your DD. I would perhaps cancel their visit while you have so much going on, or message to warn them ahead of time that you won't be the hostess with the mostess on this occasion so can they bring food/drink and they'll need to make their beds up etc.

Remember they are not a generation of people who have communicated via text message for long. In the not so distance past the news would have been communicated via Telephone and maybe that’s better as you can have a conversation about it. Unless they send long caring texts on a regular basis I’d put it down to them not being comfortable with texting about such serious news. Wishing your DD all the best

present where? why? the child was unconscious?

Sorry to press the point but are you ABSOLUTELY sure they understand the severity of the situation? I'm not trying to second guess you - here's my angle. I'm the parent of a disabled child. The grandparents on one side were adamant for a very long time that they 'couldn't see' my child's very obvious signs of disability and even post-diagnosis and extensive treatment, they still either don't mention it or claim that they don't really see it. I'm not sure if it's being blinded by love or old-fashioned stiff upper lip but it's annoying and just made me wonder if that was the case with you. Like if they admit it it somehow tarnishes their beloved DGD maybe. Sorry you're going through this. x

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through, and wish you all the best.
With regards to the G parents, they’re obviously not up to the job. Limit what you share with them in the future to spare yourself the upset.
Just lower the bar, they’ve shown you who they are.