Is trying on someone else’s engagement ring a faux pas?

I thought it very normal that some people ask to try on a ring.

I wouldn't have asked my sister, but we don't have that type of relationship anyway. However, I also wouldn't have liked someone asking to try mine. It's a sentimental thing, you've just received it, and somehow having to take it off and pass it around might make it feel less special. I just wouldn't like to be asked.

What's done is done. If you're close, this should soon be forgotten.

Even if you're 'basically twins' - you're not - and were raised that way, perhaps this is something she wanted for herself for once. She should just have told you, though.

You are not "basically twins" you are sisters. Even twins need their own identities.

Good Lord the amount of wet wipes on here.
OP whether it's appropriate defers by culture. But if your sister didn't want you trying the ring on, she could've just said no.

End of.

BTW nobody asked to try on my ring and even if they did I'd have said no. I'm not in the habit of sharing jewelry but being engaged also wasn't a massive deal to me. I didn't go around showing off my ring excitedly unless someone asked.

Why would you want to try someone else's jewellery on? That is just weird.

I don’t think it’s weird at all but I don’t see the point or significance of an engagement. For me it would just be trying on a ring.

I suppose if you’re into engagement rings maybe it’s a bit sensitive?

It's an old tradition in Scotland, along with the tradition of putting silver coins in prams of newborns.

Some people see their engagement ring as sacrosanct

I wouldn't ask to try anyone's engagement ring on, and wouldn't like it if someone asked me.

And you would nearly seen as offending the newly engaged by not wanting to try it on ...

It's part of the congratulations and wishing the couple well.

It's really interesting how traditions differ among relatively close places. I love threads like this. I always learn something

I think it's weird, maybe it's an age thing as I know the younger ones at work think nothing of trying on someone's engagement ring (and sending a photo to their boyfriend).

I always thought it was bad luck to wear a ring on that finger too.

I definitely think this op might ask. Probably before her sister had even tried it on for the first time.

I was just gonna say this... you make a wish but if I remember you can't wish for man or money ?

You say you share everything. An engagement ring is special to some. It's something chosen specifically for them and only them by a special person.

Your sister clearly feels this way and that you've tried to take the uniqueness away from her by asking to try on the ring. The fact she felt she couldn't say no also says something about your relationship.

Maybe try drawing some boundaries on things in future (why would you need to share a bed on holiday?!?!)

I'm pretty sure I tried my sister's on when it was new and a novelty! Both of us are not sentimental about wedding/engagement rings. To me they don't really symbolise anything, they are just social norms in the form of a nice piece of jewellery! Maybe your sister isn't on the same page as you with this one. Which is fine. I think you are more hurt at her delivery of the decision that it's 'weird' than anything to do with the ring. I get that. It's perhaps a flaw of her personality to rewrite history during an argument. Give it no more thought.

Done in Scotland, well, when I was young, you’d need to ask the ‘young ones’ if it’s still done.

So is taking someone's engagement ring, twisting it 3 times towards your heart and making a wish a traditional thing in Scotland and Ireland but not in England ?
Is it done in Wales ?
The US ?
Africa?
Asia ?
Australia?
New Zealand?
Just wondering.

This. She should have said at the time. A married friend tried mine on and I didn't think anything of it, we just had a laugh. However I have seen a couple threads where it was say, the poster's boyfriend's bratty teenage sister who was demanding to try it on. I think it's a boundary if you don't have a close relationship.

Definitely don't think this is weird at all -every time I see my friend she puts my ring on for a large chunk of the time. She loves it. So do I and I love it that my friends want to admire it too.

There are so many different types of ring as well - I don't think you'd know what looks good on you when your time comes, if you haven't tried on lots of styles. Different strokes, different folks xx

Maybe she was annoyed that she was telling you some really important news and you were distracted because you like shiny things.

It’s intrusive. I assume you wouldn’t pop on her wedding dress before the wedding and give her a twirl, would you?

I think the trying on of the engagement ring is a total thing, everyone's had a shot of mine and I've seen everyone do it when one of the girls has gotten engaged, I think the bride to be finds it quite complimentary and nice to show off her lovely ring. I have large cocktail ring I was given for my first child, that was 13 years ago and people still ask to try it on too. I would be horrified if my sister was miffed at me trying on her ring, I'd want her to try mine so we could chat , compare etc