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To think 'chav' is not an okay thing to call people?

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enternow99 · 19/07/2024 15:11

I find the use of chav on Mumsnet shocking. Is this name chavvy? Is this holiday destination chavvy? Is this outfit chavvy? Chavs moved in next door (I'm a leaseholder, they rent!!!!)

I understand its snobbiness but isn't it a bit horrible?

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DramaAlpaca · 19/07/2024 16:27

It's a horrible, judgy word.

It's absolutely rife on the Baby Names board. I call it out or report it when I see it, but it's like trying to swim against the tide.

willWillSmithsmith · 19/07/2024 16:25

Beezknees · 19/07/2024 16:20

I wonder how many of the people are fine with the word "chav" are fine with being called a "Karen". Not many I'd wager, since there have been numerous threads (rightly) against the whole Karen thing. What's the difference? Funny how when it's aimed at you you don't like it.

Chavs by the nature of being a chav wouldn’t care if they’re called it. If you care you most likely are not a chav.

NastySting · 19/07/2024 16:24

I definitely don't think it applies to working class people and where I come from it never did!
It was always used to describe the people most likely to end up on Jeremy Kyle....ie long time benefits claimants that had never worked a day since leaving school but bought relatively expensive sports wear out of whichever catalogue would still give them credit.
I can see a few people like that around me now, acres of white flabby flesh on display (because the sun has been out for 24 hours) sat in their front garden with a can of Stella and a fag. The wife/girlfriend is at least a size 20 and has an almost see through black vest top on with matching cycling shorts and white/grey underwear(I can see every curve...) Both kids are obviously playing out front on the pavement very loudly despite having a rather large back garden that is infinitely safer than the road to play in. Everyone knows/sees people like this regularly and it was a pain typing out the description, if I had just said 'chav' most people would have been able to describe the above as it is a well known word. It is only offensive if it applies to you, and if it does perhaps do something about it!

BlueBirdBell · 19/07/2024 16:22

enternow99 · 19/07/2024 15:12

If you think it's fine to use, do you also say it to your children? Oh ignore them they're chavs!

Yep 🤷‍♀️

PattyPan · 19/07/2024 16:20

Towelmode · 19/07/2024 16:10

I would and do! Smoking weed is chavvy regardless who does it.

What about an older person who smokes for medicinal purposes? Chavs?

@pattypan they look down on people with less money than them.

Yes, tbh I think smoking anything is chavvy and for medicinal purposes you’d take it a different way because smoke isn’t good for your lungs.

I’m far from being a millionaire but I find the idea of someone thinking I’m a chav quite funny 😁 I actually worry about people thinking I’m a twat because my accent is too posh!

Beezknees · 19/07/2024 16:20

I wonder how many of the people are fine with the word "chav" are fine with being called a "Karen". Not many I'd wager, since there have been numerous threads (rightly) against the whole Karen thing. What's the difference? Funny how when it's aimed at you you don't like it.

chav1 · 19/07/2024 16:20

ABirdsEyeView · 19/07/2024 16:09

@chav1 I already own that book and like I said upthread I don't consider 'chav' to be an interchangeable term with 'working class'.

Where in the book does it say chav is interchangeable with working class? I read it's a representation - one of many - and links that to demonisation?

Keepingongoing · 19/07/2024 16:19

Rainbowsponge · 19/07/2024 16:02

I’m from a very WC background. Do you not think they sneer back?

I expect that they do. Of course. Anyone can sneer at difference - especially if they feel they’re being sneered at. The thing that makes chav objectionable to me though, is when it’s used by , in general terms, relatively more advantaged people to convey negative judgements about relatively less advantaged people.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 19/07/2024 16:18

It sounds less judgmental when people claim it is a term which describes behaviour, but I don't think that's at all true of most of its usage. For many people, someone can be a chav just because of what they look like and wear.

CowboyJoanna · 19/07/2024 16:18

MonsteraMama · 19/07/2024 15:19

Proper Vicky Pollard chavs are becoming a rarity these days, I always feel quite nostalgic when I see one in the wild.

You clearly don't live in the north west Grin

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 19/07/2024 16:16

ISeriouslyDoubtIt · 19/07/2024 15:59

Chav isn't a social class descriptor per session though. It's not the equivalent of working class if that's what you're trying to say. Or do you mean underclass? It's perfectly possible to be working class ( which can't be helped) and not be a chav.
Many attributes which make someone a chav are personal choices eg the type of clothes, make up, hairstyle, jewellery, rudeness, aggressive behaviour, lack of aspiration etc which can all be helped, so by your own reckoning chav is just as acceptable a word as snobby.

Yes, I clarified in the post just before yours. People have slightly different definitions of 'chav', but they are all undoubtedly bound up with class, even if what people describe as 'chav' isn't a discrete class of its own.

chav1 · 19/07/2024 16:15

Gingerdancedbackwards · 19/07/2024 16:07

Won't click on a link that spells demonisation with a z
We are not American
And if the Burberry cap fits...

It's by British writer Owen Jones.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chavs:_The_Demonization_of_the_Working_Class

Chavs: The Demonization of the Working Class is a non-fiction work by the British writer and political commentator Owen Jones, first published in 2011.[2][3] It discusses stereotypes of sections of the British working class (and the working class as a whole) and use of the pejorative term chav. The book received attention in domestic and international media, including selection by critic Dwight Garner of The New York Times as one of his top 10 non-fiction books of 2011 in the paper's Holiday Gift Guide and being long-listed for the Guardian First Book Award.[4][5][6][7][8]
The book explores the political and economic context for the alienation of working-class Britain. It references the impact of British government policy from the Thatcher era onwards and how it has been used as a political weapon to disenfranchise the working class, dismantle societal structures designed to support the working class – such as unions – and pit working class communities against each other.[citation needed]
It was published in Dutch in 2013, translated by Charles Braam.[9]

Gingerdancedbackwards · 19/07/2024 16:15

ABirdsEyeView · 19/07/2024 16:09

@chav1 I already own that book and like I said upthread I don't consider 'chav' to be an interchangeable term with 'working class'.

It isn't interchangeable.
2 very different classes

willWillSmithsmith · 19/07/2024 16:14

People only really say chav if someone is behaving like one. I use the term and I was brought up on a council estate. It’s just replaced the word ‘common’ really.

Sunnyandsilly · 19/07/2024 16:12

Personally don’t use the word but I don’t get worked up about it but have noticed mumsnet have a particular obsession with defining rudeness and controlling language.

Doggymummar · 19/07/2024 16:10

elm26 · 19/07/2024 16:07

Bloody hell, we are council housed and my DH has a work van (we have our own business), we've got no hope 😂

Same here!! My dad was a builder and had many a van in his time.

Towelmode · 19/07/2024 16:10

I would and do! Smoking weed is chavvy regardless who does it.

What about an older person who smokes for medicinal purposes? Chavs?

@pattypan they look down on people with less money than them.

Cattery · 19/07/2024 16:10

primitivepainters · 19/07/2024 16:00

Always found it a horrible snobby word. I'd never say it and nor would any of my friends. My family's working class origins with middle class people in the younger generation (me included, and my cousins, all first generation to go to university etc). A few older, working-class family members still say chav about various neighbours etc and I cringe every time - they see themselves as a cut above the other people on their estate and they're keen to point this out. It's a very British thing to punch down at the people immediately below you in the pecking order, I suppose.

Why do they see themselves as a “cut above”? What attributes do they have that they think elevates them?

Puzzledandpissedoff · 19/07/2024 16:09

How would you describe something or someone cheap and tasteless looking, rude, uncouth, antisocial, uneducated and lacking aspiration? Is there an alternative word to use for such things?

At one time "underclass" was used, but for obvious reasons that fell out of favour too

However none of the descriptors above refer to anything admirable, so probably there isn't a word to use that'll avoid offence to those who'd rather they weren't mentioned at all

Blackcats7 · 19/07/2024 16:09

I think chav is a useful shorthand term which is not aimed specifically at a group defined by wealth, sex, race etc ie things which the person themself has no control over.
The chaviest family I know are very rich and think themselves a cut above everybody else but their behaviour is the epitome of what we generally mean by the word chav.
I think judging people’s behaviour is acceptable in this instance.
I also agree with the pp who said most of those virtue signalling would run a mile from chavvy neighbours or going to a holiday destination known as chavvy.

PattyPan · 19/07/2024 16:09

Towelmode · 19/07/2024 16:06

The price of their house or where they were educated doesn’t stop it from being chavvy behaviour. There are plenty of rich chavs.

But people wouldn’t look at them & call them chavs which is my point, they likely would label you one though regardless of your behaviour.

Your neighbours would label me a chav? Why? Because I think they’re chavs?

ABirdsEyeView · 19/07/2024 16:09

@chav1 I already own that book and like I said upthread I don't consider 'chav' to be an interchangeable term with 'working class'.

keylimedog · 19/07/2024 16:09

I'd use the word chav, I'd use the word toff, I'd say scally, I'd say scrotes etc - it's just a descriptor!

Gingerdancedbackwards · 19/07/2024 16:07

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Won't click on a link that spells demonisation with a z
We are not American
And if the Burberry cap fits...

Towelmode · 19/07/2024 16:07

anyone with a work van?! 😆😆

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