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To not have a buggy for my three year old?

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TheBirdintheCave · 19/07/2024 10:50

My three year old son has always been happy to walk and hasn't used his buggy since we went on holiday last summer so we sold it at Christmas.

We've since had a baby and bought her a YoYo buggy to use as our day-day-pram. Son, who I think is a little jealous, has since been complaining about walking when we go on day trips which is something he's never done before.

I recently joined a YoYo group to ask opinions on getting a buggy board attachment for him as I'm anticipating lots more complaining when we go on holiday in August (we do city breaks with lots of walking).

The replies were surprising! A lot of people were telling me to forget the board and that I should be buying/hiring a buggy for my son as 'he's only three' and 'still so little!' There were also lots of comments from people who said that their four, five and six year olds still use buggies.

I suppose I don't see my son as 'little' any more as he is fairly self sufficient (potty trained, can use cutlery, has a good grasp of language, can entertain himself etc) and feel like he's definitely 'upgraded' from toddler status now.

The only other children we know who are older than our son stopped using their buggies at a similar age so I think I just assumed this was normal?

I think now I'm worrying that I'm assigning his reluctance to walk as just jealousy that will pass when actually he's being genuine when he says he doesn't want to as he's actually too tired?

So, am I being unreasonable in not having a buggy as an option for my son? Should I really be looking at hiring one for our holiday? 🤷🏻‍♀️🧐

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CCLCECSC · 19/07/2024 11:35

Only you know your child the best and their abilities etc.

We bought a buggy board for eldest who turned 3 a couple of months after sister was born. It was never used.

Will your youngest be OK in a sling / carrier?

Hangingintherejust · 19/07/2024 11:28

We did the same as you but when baby came along we bought a baby carrier so when the eldest got tired on king days out , they went in the buggy and the baby went in the carrier. Perhaps something to consider.

DancingPhantomsOnTheTerrace · 19/07/2024 11:14

I don't think there's any unreasonableness either way.

DD1 was nearly 3 when DD2 was born and we never had two prams, or a buggy board, and we do lots of walking.
If he's not had a pram since last summer and is now complaining despite you always doing lots of walking, then I'd say it is more likely to be jealousy. That's not to say you should ignore it of course. But I think his own special big boy buggy board will probably solve the problem.
Maybe get a sling for the baby, so he can go in the pram if he's ever really tired though.

Soukmyfalafel · 19/07/2024 11:11

It's your child, your choice. Using a buggy is fine, as is walking instead if your child is happy to. People use buggies for all sorts of reasons - long walks, lack of car, disabilities (mental and physical) even though some idiots don't understand this and think every child who can walk should walk all of the time. I can't believe it is going the other way now and having a child walk is wrong too. You can't win.

DoublePeonies · 19/07/2024 11:11

Would the oldest fit in the yoyo?
The other variation is to have a sling for one child.
FWIW, we had a double until the kids were 1 & 3. Then we were on a single.
But, I hired appropriately sized slings from the sling library if I thought we might need to have both off their feet.
Last time we borrowed was when DS2 had just turned 4, and I remember having to carry the 6 year old at some points..... thankfully he was slight!

Redpeppers60 · 19/07/2024 11:09

Or would you be prepared to take a back carrier for if/when he gets tired?

CelesteCunningham · 19/07/2024 11:07

Depends on the child. My 2yo niece is determined to walk everywhere, whereas my 6yo DD would still happily get in the buggy nevermind my 4yo. Grin

Redpeppers60 · 19/07/2024 11:07

I think the board should be fine, but try it out before your holiday to check he'll use it! You don't want to be dealing with resistance to it while you're on holiday.
My 3yo never liked the buggy, always wanted to walk and we'd end up bribing her to get in for long journeys/days out. Haven't used it for ages but recently she's started wanting to be carried all the time and has been quite happy to be offered the buggy again! Which is annoying as I don't really like using it... Bit annoying for you to have two buggies so would definitely try out the board first.

x2boys · 19/07/2024 11:06

Up to you really ,if your planning on walking loads ,is he going ti want to
be carried everywhere ?
Aa I couldn't be bothered with that and I would get a cheap stroller
If you think he's going to be happy to walk then don't bother .

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