To not understand why my mum ( or anyone ) needs to sunbathe topless ?

If more mens torsos resembled the ones in Vikings of Valhalla then there would certainly be more ogling!

I agree with you totally, there is a time and place, Nothing wrong with seeing a naked body and all, but grandkids do not need to see their grannys boobs. She can wear a bikini all she wants knock herself out, but no need to go topless.

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@Allfur

Yes...and?

Vulva is a sexual organ. Men also cover their sexual organs. Men don't have to cover their top half though.

I don’t think toes are sexualised in quite the same way as boobs but maybe toe implants are a thing!

I’d call them out either way if I saw it happening, but as I say I won’t be giving them an opportunity to look at my breasts for free.

Vulva is also part of the body

What if they ogle your legs? Or your swimsuit covered bum? Or even your cleavage if you wear a bikini or swimsuit? What if they are a toe fetishist?

Because her daughter and grandkids probably don’t want to see her baps?

I realise I sound mean spirited don't I ? Or just uptight ? But isn't more, less and more classy in general ? Interested in opinions !

pack it in and let your mum do what she wants. Whinging about her isn't classy of you.

Your mum's 70, so born 1954 and her twenties were in the 1970s. That was peak time for topless sunbathing, I did so myself in the early 1980s. It was considered completely normal then. no strap marks from a bikini so I could wear anything I pleased when out at night; strapless, halter, one shoulder - fashion was very varied back then compared to now. And as has been said by others, the sense of freedom on the beach was brilliant.

I'm inclined to think that many of our attitudes are set in our teens and twenties, so for your mum, topless sunbathing was the norm in her twenties and she still considers it completely normal.

Exactly this.

You’d better tell the majority of women on the continent that wearing a bikini isn’t classy in your eyes.

Your post made me laugh. You sound like such a prude. It’s really sad that you are embarrassed by seeing skin.

What do you do when changing after swimming Are you one of the people who draws more attention to yourself by clutching your towel around you to avoid being ‘seen’.

YABU, most men sunbathe topless all the time.

You don't see how "I don’t want to be looking at some random woman sexually, but Jesus Christ, if there’s a shapely young woman walking on a beach with her full, luscious breasts completely uncovered…" is creepy?
All your missing is the Homer Simpson drooling gif.

If you feel 'shamed' by being called creepy, don't act so fucking creepy.

I would never go topless on a beach, I don’t want men getting satisfaction from ogling my breasts…especially for free. 😂

I love swimming in the pool naked. I wear a 2 piece, I also sunbath (carefully) naked.

I never would have done any of this in the past (I'm at an age where I DGAF now and I am the size I am, covering up won't change that), and I won't in public, considering I'm fat but we have privacy and there's nothing better than being naked in the sun/in water. I do wear a sunhat though to protect my face. Its much better than having a swimming costume on.

No one needs to be. No one needs to be in a holiday cottage denying a local person a house at a reasonable cost.

Your mum and others choose to be topless, and if sitting in an enclosed garden then that is OK.

Boobs are just boobs?

Leaving aside the function of feeding a baby -

Do you get sexual pleasure from your partner touching your boobs?

Does your partner get sexual pleasure from your boobs?

If the answer to either of these questions is yes, you have the answer as to why people find looking at boobs a sexual turn on, whether they are in a magazine or on the beach.

A man's bare chest bears no relation to a woman's bare chest.

Your last paragraph was pervy and gross. Your argument is that women need to realise how sexual their breasts are and that having them out means people like you feel uncomfortable. You’re putting your issues onto women. It’s unpleasant for women to read that they cannot be topless without you thinking things about ‘luscious’ breasts.. You can keep arguing, but it is unpleasant.

I'd never do it myself, but chacun a son gout.

It's generational. My parents (70s) see a tan as a status symbol. They both sunbathe in nothing or next to nothing because they don't want tan lines. They do it in anything from 16 degrees plus. They are both the colour of old boots.

This is my parents 😆😆 happy to bake for hours in minimal clothing to get an amazing tan. I rebelled against the above and tend to stay out of the sun.

Thanks for the factual correction.

Again: Quote the part where I said women should have to cover up on beaches. And, again: What is it that you think I’m doing?! I see topless women, it’s awkward, I look away. Is there something else I’m supposed to do?

Fine in a private place. Or on a beech where it's allowed/the norm.

But this place isn't private. OP and her kids have granny's tits in their faces.