To not understand why my mum ( or anyone ) needs to sunbathe topless ?

Blimey! So much judgement in one post.

I'm guessing, since they're her boobs, she's doing what she wants with them. It's not really for you to question.

I also suspect your sniffy, ageist attitude towards older women in bikinis says a lot more about how you feel about yourself than them.

For the record, I'm 45... I still wear bikinis on holiday and I frankly look better in them now than I ever did in my 20s. And I'm very 'classy' thanks!

I don't want to see my mum or dad's leathery tits thanks. I wouldn't inflict that on my children or future's grandchildren. I still have flashbacks of my parents dangly bits thinking it's ok to walk around nude when I was a child.

oh i dunno... i like to see a nice pair of breasts 😉.

Going topless was very classy back in the day (80's) . The wealthy including the Royals always used to. Part of the European aesthetic.
It was fab. Men never dare ogle you on the beach because that wasn't cool.

Sad that everything is so sexualised these days. I blame religion and men.

i love sunbathing topless... but only do it in secluded spots! people don't need too, they want too and you shouldnt be shaming your mum for having the confidence to do so.

Sunbathing topless is fabulous. You should try it. It’s liberating. I hate the way women are shamed into covering themselves yet a man would look like a loon if he had a bikini top on. Your mum sounds quite progressive.
honestly, find a private spot in your garden and take your top off, whatever you feel, you’ll feel something!!

No tan is a healthy tan.

People take off their tops to avoid tan lines don’t they? I mean, I don’t, but I sit in the shade. Nowt wrong with it, we’ve all got ‘em.

It's probably just a case of feeling less restricted, than wanting tanned boobs. Some people don't like having tan lines. She's sunbathing in private within the grounds of the cottage. She's not on the beach, with her boobs out. I don't sunbathe topless, but being big busted, my boobs aren't something that can be missed clothed, and I wouldn't want to draw unnecessary attention to myself, by sunbathing topless on the beach. As for wearing a bikini, that's her choice. I'm nearly 50 and I wear a bikini, my figure may not be model material these days, but I'm comfortable in my own skin. Good on your Mum!

I love sunbathing topless. Just like it.

If you do not like it, or if it makes you uncomfortable-- then do not do it, and do not look at women who are doing it.

Problem solved.

its skin, that’s all. If you don’t want to see it, don’t look fgs. This sounds like a you problem, good on your mum.

Because tan lines are awful!

I agree with men toning up the ugly beer belly!

Especially England football fans.

Her body, her values.

You have different tastes, and that's fine. But no one needs to cater to them when it's their own body.

I don’t wear a bikini because I’m fat but if I wasn’t I definitely would. It’s so much easier to go to the loo.

I don’t care of people tan topless as long as they don’t do it by me, even if they’re great boobs. 😂

Your mum sounds like a legend!

Body confidence is such a good thing to show your children - far more important than doing things to be ‘classy’

Why do some many people get upset by women being topless but are completely fine with men walking round topless?
If you want women to cover up because you are scared of female nipples, just say that, don't pretend you are bothered by "people" being topless when it's just women you want to shame.

I don't think there is anything wrong with sunbathing topless in the right setting. I'm not sure that is in front of her grandchildren though 🤔

Sorry op I completely agree with you.

Everyone saying, she’s in “private” and should be able to. She isn’t in private she’s on holiday with her grandkids and why should they have to see their grandma’s walking round with her t*ts out!! If she wants to do it completely in private then fine, but she isn’t. I don’t see the issue with the two piece. Each to their own in that sense.

My mum is 70 and wears a bikini, don’t really see an issue with it, whatever age, shape or size you are. Each to their own.

Why does she need to wear a one piece 🤣🤣 you’re not even 30 you say. You do sound old fashioned though. I’m 50. I’m wearing my bikini!!

Leave the old bird to let her old tatas tan and swing free. She's not wapping them out in Home Bargains.

You do sound a bit uptight and a bit embarrassed about your mums having her boobs on show! I get it, I’m not sure I would either, but I’d keep my mouth shut and let her get on with it.
Ive never had the nerve to sunbathe topless but I would love to. No tanlines. And yes, the feeling of freedom.

I say don't knock it till you've tried it ;)

That said, my mum lives in the south of France and it's perfectly normal to see women of all ages (yes even 70 and over) in bikinis and topless at the beach. I suppose it's what you're used to.

When we were younger and went on holiday with my mother, I'd have been mortified if she had gone topless while on holiday. I think she would have been mortified too so it never happened in my family. I don't have a body hang up but I wouldn't walk around topless in front of her either.

I don't know if it's something generational or just something that some people do and others don't, but if you are uncomfortable being around her and your kids are around her too, you could ask her would she mind putting her bikini top back on. Be ready to accept the answer no to that question too.