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coach driver had to swear at and threaten school children to make them put seat belts on

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combinationpadlock · 19/07/2024 09:07

AIBU to think these kids need a little bit more of this plain speaking in their lives! If I had been that driver, I would simply have refused to drive them home, and just left them there. Poor guy had no choice but to make them behave, or not drive them as they were unsafe.

I imagine it has done them the world of good to hear what people actually think of them. I can't think why the school is complaining, rather than thanking him

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ced3z8kx9eqo

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Purplebunnie · 19/07/2024 19:01

Scarletrunner · 19/07/2024 13:47

The point is that it was the driver - landed with a bad bunch and needing to get them back -all this advice on how it should be handled is pointless for him - I’m pretty sure he’ll walk into another job - there’s a shortage of bus drivers.

He's in the right area to try for the 12/12A bus route between Eastbourne to Brighton along the coast road. The most outstanding views, and a dream job.

He'd be very very very lucky to get this as I believe there is a waiting list to get this gig, it's really that wanted

FailBetter · 19/07/2024 17:07

Not all teens are acting out because of trauma or being spoilt. Most are acting out to show off to their mates as they are pretending to be "top Gs" or "Sigmas". Tribal.
All filmed of course.

Getonwitit · 19/07/2024 14:54

Workinghours · 19/07/2024 10:07

I would be shocked by the DCs behavior but the mans behaviour was wrong. I'd imagine the reason so many DC are like this is because they have parents like the bus driver threatening to 'fucking punch them up'. And to all the parents saying they'd be fine with this, the driver saw red, he saw the whole bus as a collective. What about when your DC who has been behaving fine nervously coughs, the driver thinks he's messing about and punches him. Is that OK?

It is not just the children of parents who threaten them that play up. The worst cocky entitled little shits are the ones whose mummy has never told them off treats 14 year olds like they are 3.

FailBetter · 19/07/2024 14:49

I hope he does get another job.
I don't agree with what he did but I can totally understand why he did it.
I had a child tell me to fuck off last week.
The kids on the bus were smoking, back chatting, littering and unsafe, bordering on feral. The school should be squirming.
The bus driver shouldn't have had to resort to that and should have had staff dealing with it or backing him up.
He has my sympathies and has said what many staff and children themselves were probably thinking. It doesn't make it okay but anyone working with truculent teenagers will know what triggered it.

timenowplease · 19/07/2024 14:11

Absolutely support the driver. A couple of clips round the ear would have worked as well.

Who the fuck wants to put up with this? Bunch of little cunts.

Anexschoolbusdriver · 19/07/2024 13:53

Windthebloodybobbinup · 19/07/2024 13:42

If you think that losing control and your temper is an effective way to manage behaviour, you obviously don't work with young people. Or if you do, you should work somewhere else!

He was a damn sight more effective than the 7 teachers also present.

His licence on the line.

Scarletrunner · 19/07/2024 13:47

The point is that it was the driver - landed with a bad bunch and needing to get them back -all this advice on how it should be handled is pointless for him - I’m pretty sure he’ll walk into another job - there’s a shortage of bus drivers.

Windthebloodybobbinup · 19/07/2024 13:42

combinationpadlock · 19/07/2024 09:07

AIBU to think these kids need a little bit more of this plain speaking in their lives! If I had been that driver, I would simply have refused to drive them home, and just left them there. Poor guy had no choice but to make them behave, or not drive them as they were unsafe.

I imagine it has done them the world of good to hear what people actually think of them. I can't think why the school is complaining, rather than thanking him

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ced3z8kx9eqo

If you think that losing control and your temper is an effective way to manage behaviour, you obviously don't work with young people. Or if you do, you should work somewhere else!

Bushmillsbabe · 19/07/2024 13:42

Scarletrunner · 19/07/2024 13:17

@WillimNot
. Yes deal with the trouble makers in a mature way and speak to the school to make them aware.
and what is this magic mature way that would make a bus full of horrors behave?

Well most schools seem to manage it!
On all the trips I have been on, we have never had any child behave like this. If a school knows a child is not going to follow the rules, don't put them on a coach and potentially risk people's lives. It's not rocket science. For any residential trips, students and parents have to sign a behaviour contract, included in that is parents committing to coming to collect their child if they are too unwell to continue the trip or are not following the rules.

Missamyp · 19/07/2024 13:39

Oh dear.
No mention or apology from the parents for the teenagers' inappropriate behaviour. That's ok because it's just teenagers innit.
I know I'd like to curfew parents and their offspring if they cannot socialise correctly. It's the same on the flights.
Life ban and curfew.
I'm sick to the back teeth of sharing my world with ill-mannered humans.

Bushmillsbabe · 19/07/2024 13:37

Runbunny · 19/07/2024 13:29

You think adults don't ever sit with children?

I have my lunch with the kids everyday, best part of it, when you get to chat and build the relationships that help you manage behaviour when out on trips.

Absolutely, that's the time you get to know them, not when stood at the front of the classroom.

TeaGinandFags · 19/07/2024 13:34

Swearing at kids is a last resort.

Since they were children he was totally unable to leave them behind and they simply had to be made to put their seatbelts on. I believe that he was legally responsible as they were minors.

He used strong language. Not violence.

SammyScrounge · 19/07/2024 13:34

The teachers were a disgrace. They let things get out of hand. If they couldn't handle the situation they should have told the driver to return to the school or the nearest police station.
Mind you, I suppose the children were in fact being culturally enriched!

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 19/07/2024 13:33

YabbaDabbaDooooo · 19/07/2024 13:26

You are being absolutely ridiculous and it's worrying that you appear unable to see it.

Stop reading the Daily Mail and think about what you're actually saying for a few moments.

Oh gosh, the quick jump of 'you read the Daily Mail' to point score as an insult.
Am stung.

Runbunny · 19/07/2024 13:30

shockeditellyou · 19/07/2024 13:28

No one is saying abandon these kids, but it's sure as shit not the school's (nor any school) job to sort it out. Schools are not the social care of last resort. They're there to teach.

I'm fed up of schools being expected to sort out all of society's ills at the expense of most children's education.

I agree there's loads we need to put in place to build a more supportive society, but we don't start by writing off the kids without putting the other suff in place first.

Runbunny · 19/07/2024 13:29

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 19/07/2024 13:16

What adult these days would want to place their personal and professional life at risk of accusations by sitting at close quarters to pupils such as this, particularly amongst a group of them?! What 5 of them making an allegation?

You think adults don't ever sit with children?

I have my lunch with the kids everyday, best part of it, when you get to chat and build the relationships that help you manage behaviour when out on trips.

shockeditellyou · 19/07/2024 13:28

Runbunny · 19/07/2024 13:15

No, not at. Of course there "should" be parental responsibility, but abandoning these kids as a bad lot/lost cause because their parents can't or won't raise them properly doesn't help anyone, just perpetuates the cycle. And in the absence of "something" to make parents get it right every time, we do our best by the children, who are usually living in very difficult circumstances.

No one is saying abandon these kids, but it's sure as shit not the school's (nor any school) job to sort it out. Schools are not the social care of last resort. They're there to teach.

I'm fed up of schools being expected to sort out all of society's ills at the expense of most children's education.

Balloonhearts · 19/07/2024 13:27

Should have pulled over and had school call the parents to come out and get them. Don't drive? Too bad, start walking.

Soon bring them back into line if they were the ones being inconvenienced.

YabbaDabbaDooooo · 19/07/2024 13:26

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 19/07/2024 13:16

What adult these days would want to place their personal and professional life at risk of accusations by sitting at close quarters to pupils such as this, particularly amongst a group of them?! What 5 of them making an allegation?

You are being absolutely ridiculous and it's worrying that you appear unable to see it.

Stop reading the Daily Mail and think about what you're actually saying for a few moments.

Runbunny · 19/07/2024 13:23

Scarletrunner · 19/07/2024 13:17

@WillimNot
. Yes deal with the trouble makers in a mature way and speak to the school to make them aware.
and what is this magic mature way that would make a bus full of horrors behave?

This is where it all went wrong, long before the day of the trip. If the school was well run, behaviour managed in school and the trip properly risk assessed, this situation would never arise. Just like if you set proper boundaries at home, you don't actually have to discipline very often.

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 19/07/2024 13:21

Scarletrunner · 19/07/2024 13:17

@WillimNot
. Yes deal with the trouble makers in a mature way and speak to the school to make them aware.
and what is this magic mature way that would make a bus full of horrors behave?

"Look you loveable little scamps, I know it's everyone's else's fault that this has happened
You poor sausages having to act out like this must be so awful for you! Now who's for a Maccy D and some bowling to make you feel better?!"🤔

Tgjjl · 19/07/2024 13:19

It is inappropriate and obviously he can’t drive kids around anymore.

That said, he was telling the truth. Kids smoking, making mess, not wearing seatbelts, misbehaving generally…these days they just get away with it all. Teachers have no real power to do anything and parents generally side with their badly behaved child.

the guy will probably be happier without that job - it must be awful to have to deal with kids who refuse to follow basic rules.

Scarletrunner · 19/07/2024 13:17

@WillimNot
. Yes deal with the trouble makers in a mature way and speak to the school to make them aware.
and what is this magic mature way that would make a bus full of horrors behave?

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 19/07/2024 13:16

ThirtyAll · 19/07/2024 13:10

I must say that in all the schools I’ve taught in and on all the trips I’ve been on, I could never see seven teachers not getting involved if there was bad behaviour on the bus or if a driver had to get out of his seat and sort out the trouble. Even if there was only one teacher they should be wading in and ime they absolutely have to be very strict in that kind of environment.

I can’t imagine why they did not sort out the pupils themselves. They could have dotted themselves around the bus and even sat amongst the smokers to stop them or split up the group so some were sitting at the front. I have done that kind of thing many a time.

What adult these days would want to place their personal and professional life at risk of accusations by sitting at close quarters to pupils such as this, particularly amongst a group of them?! What 5 of them making an allegation?

Runbunny · 19/07/2024 13:15

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 19/07/2024 12:16

Why are you insistent that there should be no parental or personal responsibility? That it's got to be down to other people?!
This is where everything falls down, both the parents and children/teens are told 'no no no, it's not your fault, you've been let down nothing you do is wrong, you've been made to do that, blame the system'.

No, not at. Of course there "should" be parental responsibility, but abandoning these kids as a bad lot/lost cause because their parents can't or won't raise them properly doesn't help anyone, just perpetuates the cycle. And in the absence of "something" to make parents get it right every time, we do our best by the children, who are usually living in very difficult circumstances.

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