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coach driver had to swear at and threaten school children to make them put seat belts on

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combinationpadlock · 19/07/2024 09:07

AIBU to think these kids need a little bit more of this plain speaking in their lives! If I had been that driver, I would simply have refused to drive them home, and just left them there. Poor guy had no choice but to make them behave, or not drive them as they were unsafe.

I imagine it has done them the world of good to hear what people actually think of them. I can't think why the school is complaining, rather than thanking him

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ced3z8kx9eqo

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Ivehearditbothways · 19/07/2024 09:15

Why haven’t the school made any comment on the teachers failing to do their job of keeping the kids under control and following rules? And why aren’t the parents making any comments about their children’s behaviour?

The coach driver went too far. He should have just stopped, and informed the teachers that they would need to remove the children who were ignoring safety rules and contact parents to collect, so he should lose his job for going too far. But the school need to take responsibility and so do the parents.

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combinationpadlock · 19/07/2024 09:14

Thetwix · 19/07/2024 09:11

No, he was completely inappropriate and I would expect him to be removed from any duties involving children.

If they aren’t safe he should park the bus until they are. If necessary parents should have to collect them from wherever the bus is. But being abusive is not on.

Yes, that is what I would have done, just parked the bus and refused to drive, and made parents come and collect their children.

I think they got away very lightly with just being shouted at until they complied

Yes, remove him from duties involving children 😂I am sure it is his dearest wish! and if he is rewarded like that, I am sure other coach drivers will do the same in the hope of the same reward!

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Babadook76 · 19/07/2024 09:14

I was about to agree with you until I watched that video, but abso-fucking-lutely not! A grown man shouting and sweating at children and repeatedly threatening to assault and punch them in the mouth??!! Going by the very likely chance that the issues were being caused by a small handful of pupils, the rest of the children who were behaving would have been fucking terrified at that driver behaving like that! If I saw a man acting towards anyone like that in public I’d have phoned the police! If there was that much of a problem with the children’s behaviour then there’s so many ways of solving it rather than calling them fucking cunts and threatening to punch their heads in. You actually think this is ok??

Tbskejue · 19/07/2024 09:14

Are you serious? That’s what you want children to learn? Fair enough if he just sat there and didn’t move but threatening to punch them?

Frowningprovidence · 19/07/2024 09:14

No, you have to model the behaviour you want with teens. No point saying they can't threaten to punch people and swear if people do that to them.

But the odd bit about this was what happened that 7 teachers weren't handling the smoking and lack of seat belt wearing. I feel like the article misses out a step.

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combinationpadlock · 19/07/2024 09:13

Jellycatspyjamas · 19/07/2024 09:10

Seriously, you’d be ok with an adult threatening to fucking punch your child?

If he was being thuggish, defiant, unsafe, etc, and if it was what it took to make him sit down and put his belt on...

It does seem to have been a- needed and b- effective!

I recently enjoyed seeing an unruly pupil on a public bus being told exactly what's what by a member of the public who labours under none of the constraints that teachers do - TBH - he could have done with hearing it 5 years ago!

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StJanetof · 19/07/2024 09:13

It’ll not do them any harm but he went over the top with the language and the threats, although I can imagine it was a very frustrating situation. He should’ve just stopped the coach. I think that aside from complaining the school and the parents might want to consider why a bus driver felt the need to react in this way?

Thetwix · 19/07/2024 09:11

No, he was completely inappropriate and I would expect him to be removed from any duties involving children.

If they aren’t safe he should park the bus until they are. If necessary parents should have to collect them from wherever the bus is. But being abusive is not on.

Jellycatspyjamas · 19/07/2024 09:10

Seriously, you’d be ok with an adult threatening to fucking punch your child?

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