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Argu · 2024-07-18T21:29:18+00:00

Said by DH to me during an argument. Would you think this means he has talked to them about me?

Thedayb4youcame · 19/07/2024 00:27

@Argu There really isn't any context to it. Clearly there is, as you went on to give it to us in your reply.

So if someone said that to you, would you think people had been talking about you? If I could totally trust the person saying it, then yes, I would. Do you trust him?

If my husband said that to me, I'd know it was true as he's not the type to make that up (although then again he wouldn't have told me about it even if it had been said - he's too protective of other people's feelings).

If my mother had said it to me, no, I wouldn't have believed it in its entirety, if indeed at all, as she had plenty of form for saying things like that just at the right moment. None of it was ever a lie as such, but boy did she flex comments to suit the moment.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 19/07/2024 00:26

Perfect reply might have been "That's funny, they say the same thing about you." Let him feel a bit unsettled.

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Argu · 19/07/2024 00:18

We don't argue often and I certainly don't raise my voice often. I asked my next door neighbour who is also one of my best friends, and she said she's never heard anything.

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InWalksBarberalla · 18/07/2024 23:49

Do they hear you both argue often? Sometimes women's voices travel better than men's so it may sound like you are going off at him. (I used to have neighbours like this, sounded like she was screeching at him, and couldn't hear much from him but pretty sure they were both at it).

TwattyMcFuckFace · 18/07/2024 23:47

Argu · 18/07/2024 23:41

There really isn't any context to it. We had an argument about how he had behaved towards someone else. This was while I was working from home, I asked him to leave my room as I was about to join a meeting, he kept refusing, I raised my voice asking him to leave, and he says "no wonder the neighbours think you're loopy", then refused to elaborate on the comment. So if someone said that to you, would you think people had been talking about you?

Not necessarily.

If I was in the habit of raising my voice/shouting, I'd think it was fair to assume my neighbours might think similar without anyone talking to them about it.

PinkSand · 18/07/2024 23:43

Ask him exactly what the fuck he means. Tell him the neighbours think he is rude

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Argu · 18/07/2024 23:41

There really isn't any context to it. We had an argument about how he had behaved towards someone else. This was while I was working from home, I asked him to leave my room as I was about to join a meeting, he kept refusing, I raised my voice asking him to leave, and he says "no wonder the neighbours think you're loopy", then refused to elaborate on the comment. So if someone said that to you, would you think people had been talking about you?

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Nocturna · 18/07/2024 22:50

Impossible to comment without any context

Aquamarine1029 · 18/07/2024 22:38

Perhaps they've talked to him about you.

Do you know why this might be true? That you're loopy?

JMSA · 18/07/2024 22:37

What an unkind thing to say to you. What was the actual context?

username47985 · 18/07/2024 22:36

No idea - ask him!