Over heard DH on the phone

Yeah. I’m not surprised you’re upset. It sounds like ‘locker room talk’ and i wouldn’t read too much into it, but obviously hard not to.

if you don’t find him attractive ow he’s gained weight this would need a great opportunity to have that conversation

He’s made himself look really bad though. Men talk about their wives and women talk about their husbands. I bet he’ll be ashamed of himself when you confront him

@Misschananderlerbongg

So sorry you are married to a twat.

I could never, ever imagine talking to anyone about my wife like that.

What a tool.

If I were to bring it up I'd bring it up that I heard and aLso mention his weight.

I'd also pretend to call a friend and talk about guys with circumcised penises being amazing. Or worse guys with bigger ones...and I'd make sure he'd hear it.

Or bring the topic up. Bring his weight up. Then bring all the above up and give him a taste of his own medicine.

First thought that went through my mind about a penis enlargement. Could be a “great investment”

That's really shitty, OP

He sounds like an absolute idiot.
Who talks like that.

I don't think this is a small deal. He's shown himself to be ridiculous and completely unattractive. Big time ick. Can I throw in a LTB.

Be blunt with him and tell him you think he should get a 🍆 extension.
He’ll soon shut up then.

Did he really say investment? Shit.....dude.....☹️

Tell him he's more than welcome to get breast implants himself of whatever size he fancies and do whatever he wants with them.
I don't understand this concept of husbands paying to alter their wives bodies and instigating the idea of cosmetic surgeries to another human being.
Like'buying' part of their body.

Anyway, you shouldn't feel in any way bad about your small bust.
This is why:
I've been incredibly upset for a very long time after I stopped breastfeeding my first child. I always has a small bust but really beautiful breasts and the size and shape suited by frame. They really didn't look great at all after breastfeeding for a year. I really felt I lost part of my identity. They did settle after quite a while and breastfed a second time but for 6 not 12 months. It all fell into place eventually, they will never be what they were before pregnancy but it's not a bad situation anymore. I wouldn't have a problem going topless on a beach anymore and I've been able to go back to not wearing a bra with certain outfits. I also feel a smaller bust gives more clothing options and gives the appearance of a more youthful body shape. A smaller busted body looks more athletic and, personally, I prefer that aesthetic. I've never ever been jealous of women with bigger breasts and would never want bigger myself. I absolutely hated having big breasts while pregnant, although, looking back, everything was actually in proportion at the time. Plus, surgery can go really wrong- why risk it?! Unfortunately for my husband, he is a big boobs kind of man but managed to survive without big boobs for many for many, many, many years.

Small boobs are in? How can you comment this, a body shape isn’t a subject of a trend.

You do deserve better. Stop making an effort at couples therapy and do what @Oldseagull suggested. See how he likes it?

He sounds immature as does his friend. How old are they? Pathetic really. It’s incredibly hurtful and disrespectful for him to talk like that. Your body is fine. He’s the problem but it’s not your job to fix it.

You absolutely do deserve better. Maybe this will be the push you need to co aider your stance on the marriage.
Life is too short to waste on someone who isn’t giving 100% to your relationship.

I think this is a pretty big betrayal.

It's not unreasonable to privately wish that aspects on your partner's body were different (and, in some contexts, like if it's affecting their health or self-esteem, to raise it).

I could, perhaps being generous, stretch to very jokey comments in response to a friend's spouse getting some sort of cosmetic surgery, be it a boob job, penis enhancement or whatever else, but this seems to be a genuine critique of the OP's body.

I don't like to throw LTBs around but this seems like something that would be very difficult to get past.

Can you imagine even considering asking your husband to alter his body in some way just for you, let alone referring to it as an “investment”. It would be unthinkable wouldn’t it? He thinks you’re his possession and does not view women as human beings.

He’s brought this up with me before.

How very strange that it's such an issue for him.

If you are in counselling, tell the counsellor. Let him be humiliated.

He sounds very dull and small minded. Perhaps you should upgrade your husband, ideally by replacing him.

Uugh what a massive turn off to hear him talking to his mate about women's bodies like they're a piece of meat 🤮 it sounds like you are working very hard to save a relationship with someone who isn't making the same effort. You can't unhear what you overheard and I doubt you'll be able to forget it 😔

I don't think I would let it drop. I'd have a conversation about how hurt it's made you feel and that how would he like it if he overheard you on the phone how excess fat buries the head of the penis and makes sex unsatisfying. That you wouldn't dream of saying anything like that because you have respect for him.

He needs to know how it feels

I would tell him l will have a boob job when you get a cock extension, see how he likes it. Or better still, call a friendnm and discuss it with them!

I am very small breasted btw. Was a 32 A until I passed 50, and now a 34 B. Love my breasts. DH has never expressed any issues, and I would kick him in the balls if he did. They look good in clothes, and have not sagged as I have got older.

As they say: You need to lose 200 pounds... of asshole. Stat!

I think you'll find that with some therapy and wihout him as dead-weight in your life, your self-esteem will rise miraculously. 😁

This is vile. I've been looking at getting some minor cosmetic treatment, while he would supportive me if I did, he has expressed how unhappy he is that I feel it necessary. He's mainly upset that I'm not happy with how I look. I do look like I live in a bush but the point is my DH wouldn't ever put me down like that.

Your DH is a pig.

@Misschananderlerbongg

I have wondered during the last 30 years whether a boob job is a good idea for me.
I’m in my 60’s now and so glad I’ve always had small boobs, they hardly sag at all and I can wear fitted clothing with confidence.

Embrace your boobs and suggest to your dh that he has weight loss surgery if he’s so concerned about how people look.