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I can’t stick to a diet

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Fitatforty83 · 18/07/2024 19:05

I cannot find a diet to suit me. Age 40, size 12/14, need to lose a stone to be a healthy bmi.

so far I have tried:

slimming world: to restrictive and too much cooking

calorie counting: I always go over the daily calories

low carb: difficult as I am not a massive meat eater

I also hate the gym but enjoy walking about an hour each day

how can I find a diet I can stick too??

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PaminaMozart · 19/07/2024 05:54

I recommend the combination of lifting (I just do this with dumbbells at home) and a whole food diet. I feel 100% better, less tired and achy, sleep better and have zero cravings for upf.

I second this. UPF and sugar induce cravings and cutting them out is a game changer.

Other key factors are portion control and not drinking calories. Intermittent fasting works for many.

I am also a strong believer in working out with dumbbells and strongly recommend Caroline Girvan's workouts.

Thegreatgiginthesky · 19/07/2024 05:40

gettinghealthy · 18/07/2024 22:08

@Thegreatgiginthesky thanks so much for responding. I've started to eat more whole foods and have reduced UPFs, and funnily enough I bought some dumbbells last week 😅 I'm only just starting out like this but I wanted some motivation, so thank you. I'm a lot heavier than you (13st) and my bmi is in the unhealthy category. Well done on your progress and thanks for the motivation!

No problem at all. That is great that you have the dumbbells. I have been doing the Caroline Girvan iron programme on you tube. She is really good for beginners and it is really addictive when you start and see your body and health change. I hate the gym but love doing weights at home.

Hariboislife · 18/07/2024 22:36

Add more protein rather than fruit and veg. Theyre low calorie but not filling. I never find porridge filling. For breakfast I’ve started having a bowl of freek yogurt (Fage 0%), all bran, shredded wheat, raspberries and blueberries. Very filling and can mix up the fruits.

kitsuneghost · 18/07/2024 22:27

Stop dieting?
I find dieting makes me cut healthy foods that happen to be calorific/highin points/syns etc...
Now I have stopped dieting and reintroduced good fats I am less snacky, feel healthier and losing weight

Bananaadramaa · 18/07/2024 22:20

It seems like you have a healthy, balanced diet. If you want to lose weight then could you add 30 mins of walking daily into your life? I think your diets are failing because they are usually temporary fixes and your body is clearly hungry on a lower amount of calories. You need a change of habit / long term solution rather than short term.

I lost 3 stone in 12/13 weeks by walking 30 mins a day and eating 1800 calories. I find 1500 not realistic long term. You say once you’ve had 1500 calories you still feel hungry, maybe adding another 2/300 calories a day for a protein rich snack would help.

gettinghealthy · 18/07/2024 22:08

@Thegreatgiginthesky thanks so much for responding. I've started to eat more whole foods and have reduced UPFs, and funnily enough I bought some dumbbells last week 😅 I'm only just starting out like this but I wanted some motivation, so thank you. I'm a lot heavier than you (13st) and my bmi is in the unhealthy category. Well done on your progress and thanks for the motivation!

Fitatforty83 · 18/07/2024 21:11

I think you are right, when I diet I crave what i can’t have! Once I reach 1,500 calories I just want to eat more!

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TheSerenePinkOrca · 18/07/2024 21:00

Diets make you think about food too much and are awful.

I'd do the 5-2 diet. That way you can be normal for 5 days of the week and only have to restrict calorie intake on 2 days.

ohthejoys21 · 18/07/2024 20:59

I'm sure I'll get flamed for this but it worked for me.. I had been yo-yo-ing for months with zero willpower. Then I got flu and didn't feel like eating so the first few days were easy. I lost a few lbs and didn't feel so hungry even when better, as I became used to less food.

I closed my eating window to from 5-7pm eating non processed nutritious food, and lost 3lbs a week.. and now only have 4lbs to lose for my target weight of 8.3 stone.

I'm not saying you should wait for a cold/infection to start but it sure gave me a head start!

Thegreatgiginthesky · 18/07/2024 20:49

gettinghealthy · 18/07/2024 20:05

If you don't mind me asking, how long did that take you? Also what was your start weight if you don't mind me asking?

Start weight was 65kg, end weight 50kg, I am very small framed so don't look very skinny at quite a low bmi of 19. It took about 8 months and my body seemed to naturally stabilise at 50kg. Midway through I started strength training to avoid muscle loss.

I am still trying to gain muscle at the moment though and actively trying to eat more, I don't generally calorie count but tested intake for 1 week and found I need 2000 calories to maintain now (up from 1600 before I lost weight).

I recommend the combination of lifting (I just do this with dumbbells at home) and a whole food diet. I feel 100% better, less tired and achy, sleep better and have zero cravings for upf.

Fitatforty83 · 18/07/2024 20:23

Thank you, some good ideas. I’m going to concentrate on filling up with more fruit and veg

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TheShiningCarpet · 18/07/2024 20:17

Fitatforty83 · 18/07/2024 20:01

I am hungry a few hours after the porridge actually, and always have one of those nakd bars or some dried fruit and nuts to keep me going until lunch time

You need way more fruit and green veg - high volume, high nutrient low calorie food

i reversed my t2 diabetes and lost nearly two stone by just eating simply, whole food plant based

we actually need less food than we think - work on your portions and bulk out with fresh fruit and veg

gettinghealthy · 18/07/2024 20:05

Thegreatgiginthesky · 18/07/2024 19:09

I cut out all upf and added sugar. No calorie counting was required as it meant my body naturally regulated hunger. I lost 15kg and no easily maintaining at my goal weight. No restriction of whole foods at all.

If you don't mind me asking, how long did that take you? Also what was your start weight if you don't mind me asking?

Fitatforty83 · 18/07/2024 20:02

I’ve been trying to stick to 1,500 calories a day

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Fitatforty83 · 18/07/2024 20:01

I am hungry a few hours after the porridge actually, and always have one of those nakd bars or some dried fruit and nuts to keep me going until lunch time

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Fitatforty83 · 18/07/2024 20:01

I do have one of those eat well plates from b&m where you fill half the plate with veg so that would be a good idea.

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Fitatforty83 · 18/07/2024 20:00

I like the idea of increasing water, fruit and veg so I’m more full so less likely to want a biscuit etc. I’ve massively cut down on processed food, probably eat about 4 biscuits a week, I do still have the odd bagel, apple crumble etc. Yorkshire with my roast etc.

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Fitatforty83 · 18/07/2024 19:58

I’m 5ft 2inch and 10.7 stone

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ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 18/07/2024 19:47

You need to stop looking for ‘a diet’ and look a permanent change in habits. Cliche but it’s true.

Not sticking to a diet doesn’t mean it does work for you.

For example how many calories was low calorie and how tall are you, how much do you weigh/want to lose etc

Plenty of people fail at low calorie because they go to too low then fall off the wagon. Doomed to failure.

or did you choose to just not stick to the calories? The ‘why’ is important.

Garlicnaan · 18/07/2024 19:44

AtleastitsnotMonday · 18/07/2024 19:16

How about attempting 10 portions of fruit and veg a day and 2 litres of water. You will probably find that by doing so you replace many of the less healthy snacks and meal accompaniments with veg. It is relatively high volume so you will feel fuller. By not cutting anything out you are less likely to binge.

Yeah this is a great idea.

I also suggest no bread and no booze

stayathomer · 18/07/2024 19:40

Lost a stone by cutting DOWN on my worst foods (bread, cereals, crisps and fizzy drinks) and drinking more water and not eating after 8 at night (hardest bit but got easier after about two weeks of knitting/ going to bed early etc etc!) Your brain is probably seeing it as a ‘diet’ and so is making you break it. Make a list of your worst habits and eg if you love chocolate, cut it down but have a lower amount eg mid week/ mid day/ have half a bar a day etc etc. best of luck, it’s so hard!!

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 18/07/2024 19:34

buttercupcake · 18/07/2024 19:24

I lost 2 stone last year without dieting. I reduced my portion sizes, made healthier choices when it came to snacking, like an apple rather than a biscuit. I also increased the amount of veg / salad I had with my meals. I walked as much as I could each day.

I still ate the same foods as everyone else, just smaller portions of them, and no food was banned.

I didn’t feel deprived once, and feel like I will always eat this way now.

Surely that is dieting? Dieting means changing your diet/eating habits in order to lose weight.

OhHelloMiss · 18/07/2024 19:26

Renamedyetagain · 18/07/2024 19:12

Same stats. Paid for mountjaro. Game changer...

Second this!

buttercupcake · 18/07/2024 19:24

I lost 2 stone last year without dieting. I reduced my portion sizes, made healthier choices when it came to snacking, like an apple rather than a biscuit. I also increased the amount of veg / salad I had with my meals. I walked as much as I could each day.

I still ate the same foods as everyone else, just smaller portions of them, and no food was banned.

I didn’t feel deprived once, and feel like I will always eat this way now.

NewUser1111 · 18/07/2024 19:24

Fitatforty83 · 18/07/2024 19:14

A whole food diet sounds appealing, I do mostly eat like that anyway though. Porridge for breakfast, sourdough toast avacado and eggs or an omlette or Greek salad and pitta for lunch, fish rice and veg dinner or a roast etc, nuts fruit and green yoghurt and dark chocolate for snacks. I do eat quite a bit of the chocolate though

But this sounds like a healthy diet! What makes you think you need to lose weight? Maybe just start by cutting the amount of choc per day to a square or two and see if small changes like that are enough?

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