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Nursery workers drinking at lunchtime.

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Brendathedoll · 18/07/2024 13:12

Had a rare day off yesterday so went for a pub lunch with my sister. In there I saw 2 nursery nurses from my child’s daycare having lunch and they each had a glass of wine. There were also 2 empty glasses in the table but possibly from previous customers. I wasn’t happy but my sister says it’s there lunchtime they don’t get paid for and 2 glasses won’t make any difference. They saw me and looked a bit sheepish but it means I can’t report them anon now. I’m scared if I say something they would treat my child differently. Am I being ott thinkinb they shouldn’t drink while caring for kids?

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Procrastinates · 18/07/2024 19:58

Jellybeanz456 · 18/07/2024 19:52

They won't treat your child any differently as they will no doubt lose there job!!! I work in a nursery and you are not aloud to drink even on your unpaid lunch hour that's absolutely crazy that people think it's fine to go look after someone else's child after having a drink.

Why will they lose their job...they were NOT bloody working.

Honestly how anyone thinks that one staff member would go and have a drink mid shift let alone two in the pub right next to the bloody nursery is just mind boggling.

Jellybeanz456 · 18/07/2024 19:52

They won't treat your child any differently as they will no doubt lose there job!!! I work in a nursery and you are not aloud to drink even on your unpaid lunch hour that's absolutely crazy that people think it's fine to go look after someone else's child after having a drink.

MaryMack · 18/07/2024 19:49

What a mean spirited thread. The OP has no evidence that the nursery workers were rostered to work that day, no evidence apart from empty 'wine' glasses to suggest they were drinking alcohol, just a pathetic childish need to report them for supposed wrongdoing.

Please, before you go in and make a complete twat of yourself by telling the nursery manager about her drunken workers, make sure you know the facts. Otherwise you will carry the label of shit stirring fool of a mum, someone to be avoided, for the rest of your days, if you stay living in that area.

Getonwitit · 18/07/2024 19:49

Vgbeat · 18/07/2024 19:22

I take it all of those who replied never ever drink alcohol when I'm charge of your own children.

No i didn't. Being employed to look after others children means you are responsible for their safety, and your contract would no doubt state that you couldn't be under the influence of alcohol.

AbbeyGrange · 18/07/2024 19:33

Thefaceofboe · 18/07/2024 18:39

I think we’ve established it varys same with most workplaces. I work in a nursery and it’s an hour 🤷🏼‍♀️ it depends on the setting, obviously.

Well quite..

Vgbeat · 18/07/2024 19:22

I take it all of those who replied never ever drink alcohol when I'm charge of your own children.

Serencwtch · 18/07/2024 19:17

Are you sure it wasn't alcohol free? Most pubs serve a selection of AF wines & beers

I often have a glass of AF wine or peroni when out for lunch & prefer it to water or soft drinks.

dottiedodah · 18/07/2024 19:14

As a retired Nursery Nurse this would no way be tolerated! WTF are they thinking? I would not be happy at all!

Differentstarts · 18/07/2024 19:05

itwasntmetho · 18/07/2024 18:59

No one has time to get pissed in a one hour lunch.

Plus very few people have an hour lunch break most have half hour. They most likely did a 6 - 2 ish shift and went out after

itwasntmetho · 18/07/2024 18:59

No one has time to get pissed in a one hour lunch.

AquaLeader · 18/07/2024 18:56

A nursery where staff can take a one-hour break for lunch is unusual to say the least. Most nurseries barely have enough staff to fulfill the required staff-child ratios as it is. It's not as if the children go home for lunch and the nurseries can close for an hour or so at lunch time and give their staff a one-hour lunch break.

Nursery workers who can afford a regular pub lunch including a glass or two of wine during the working day are probably even more unusual. If the OP's story is true, it is more likely that they were finished for the day.

CelesteCunningham · 18/07/2024 18:53

Procrastinates · 18/07/2024 18:44

Why?

They clearly were not on shift. Obviously there will be a policy if no alcohol consumption during shift but why does the OP need to clarify that when they were not on shift...

I wouldn't say they were clearly not on shift. The pub is next to their workplace, and while they weren't in uniform, their uniform is a tabbard that's easily removed. I'm guessing OP knows how they tend to dress at work - dark polo and leggings at our nursery - if they were dressed in non-work clothes she would have assumed they were off.

It's very likely they were on a half day, but I don't think OP would be out of line to make a friendly call to the manager to check given the seriousness if they went back to work. I know our manager would be happy to reassure me and have a laugh about my DC driving them to drink, and would take it very seriously if they were in fact drinking on their break.

Procrastinates · 18/07/2024 18:44

Delphiniumandlupins · 18/07/2024 18:42

You have missed that I am suggesting the OP finds out if there is a policy.

Why?

They clearly were not on shift. Obviously there will be a policy if no alcohol consumption during shift but why does the OP need to clarify that when they were not on shift...

Delphiniumandlupins · 18/07/2024 18:42

TheKeatingFive · 18/07/2024 18:13

You've missed the point entirely. The OP has no evidence that anyone has broken a policy.

You have missed that I am suggesting the OP finds out if there is a policy.

Tumbleweed101 · 18/07/2024 18:39

I have a day off midweek and have met up with colleagues also having a day off for lunch. Even with staffing issues people still need their days off, nursery staff quite often do early or late shifts too if they are open 7-6, for example.

However it wouldn't be allowed to have alcohol in the middle of a working day and we certainly wouldn't have time to have a couple glasses wine and eat out in our half hour break!

I'm guessing you've spotted them off shift.

Thefaceofboe · 18/07/2024 18:39

AbbeyGrange · 18/07/2024 18:29

I work in a Nursery and it's a 30 minute break.....

I think we’ve established it varys same with most workplaces. I work in a nursery and it’s an hour 🤷🏼‍♀️ it depends on the setting, obviously.

Harrysmummy246 · 18/07/2024 18:37

iseegulls · 18/07/2024 14:09

30 minutes break?

Where are you working, I've never had less than an hour break if I'm working a full day, over my 3+ decades of working.

Ha, where I work, it's officially a 20 mins break within a 9 hour work day, aka the absolute legal minimum
I'm not based in the shop, and we tend to take a little longer.

AbbeyGrange · 18/07/2024 18:34

*"they each had a glass of wine."

What made you think it was wine in the first place? Was it because it was in a 'wine'-type glass? You don't need me to tell you that was a pretty big assumption to make.*

I've been to a pub and they served Appletize in a wine glass, it does look like white wine..

Inyournewdress · 18/07/2024 18:33

They definitely should not be drinking at all if they were going back to work. Maybe they weren’t, fair enough if so. I would ask the manager if they were working that afternoon and if so I would report it and insist it is properly logged as an incident and investigated.

MMUmum · 18/07/2024 18:32

Drinking on duty absolutely not allowed, But- do you know they were on duty, and do you know it wasn't non- alcoholic wine, or even a soft drink in a wine glass, absolutely discuss it with nursery manager but proceed with caution

AbbeyGrange · 18/07/2024 18:29

iseegulls · 18/07/2024 14:09

30 minutes break?

Where are you working, I've never had less than an hour break if I'm working a full day, over my 3+ decades of working.

I work in a Nursery and it's a 30 minute break.....

Harrysmummy246 · 18/07/2024 18:20

How long a lunch break do you think they get? Laughable that you think it's long enough to go to the pub and order anything never mind sit down for a meal....

CelesteCunningham · 18/07/2024 18:17

TheQueenWhoNeverWas · 18/07/2024 17:24

Have you ever drunk alcohol free still wine? I promise you it's not worth paying pub prices for. In fact I'd probably pay good money to avoid drinking it.

If they'd had glasses/bottles of beer or fizzy wine in their hands I'd be happy to nod along with the "perhaps it was alcohol-free" argument, because that stuff is drinkable. And obviously tonic water is both drinkable and indistinguishable from a G&T.

I'm very unconvinced by the "perhaps it was tonic water/lemon squash" argument. Nothing looks like still white or red wine except alcohol-free wine, which is horrible.

Lol I was thinking this earlier. My mum bought me a bottle when I was first pregnant and I remember trying to force down a glass so as not to hurt her feelings. Grin

Fupoffyagrasshole · 18/07/2024 18:16

I work in a nursery and live a 5 min walk from work! So the pub close to the nursery is my local!!
a lot of the staff Iive local - I’d imagine a lot of nursery staff live local as there’s jobs available in basically every nursery so why would you work far away if you can get a job locally

and you literally don’t know if they had the day off

my contract for example is Monday - Thursday so I’ve Friday off and never work that day even tho we are short staffed

TheKeatingFive · 18/07/2024 18:13

Delphiniumandlupins · 18/07/2024 18:00

Either the manager says drinking at lunchtime is not against any policy and OP does nothing. Or manager says it is forbidden and OP decides whether to say anything. Perhaps she would say that she didn't want to report individuals as she didn't know if they were working/what they were drinking but staff could be reminded of the policy?

You've missed the point entirely. The OP has no evidence that anyone has broken a policy.

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