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Nursery workers drinking at lunchtime.

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Brendathedoll · 18/07/2024 13:12

Had a rare day off yesterday so went for a pub lunch with my sister. In there I saw 2 nursery nurses from my child’s daycare having lunch and they each had a glass of wine. There were also 2 empty glasses in the table but possibly from previous customers. I wasn’t happy but my sister says it’s there lunchtime they don’t get paid for and 2 glasses won’t make any difference. They saw me and looked a bit sheepish but it means I can’t report them anon now. I’m scared if I say something they would treat my child differently. Am I being ott thinkinb they shouldn’t drink while caring for kids?

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Inyournewdress · 19/07/2024 13:27

You really should speak to the nursery manager about this. It is a safety issue.

It is not jumping to conclusions to seek further information. It’s the only responsible thing to do. Maybe it’s nothing, but really quite likely it is something to be concerned about.

Yes, maybe it was non alcoholic, although who drinks non alcoholic wine in a pub at lunchtime? But maybe it was, or maybe the glasses belonged to someone else, maybe they weren’t going back to work. All that is possible though to me not that likely.

You need to actually check and confirm this. No one ever knows how they will respond to alcohol on any given day, and slowed reaction times, misjudgments or distance, lowered inhibitions eg re safety….in their role these are highly dangerous to vulnerable children.

I would much rather speak to the manager than have a child injured, lost or killed because I didn’t want to look like I was jumping to conclusions. Please please speak to them OP.

AquaLeader · 19/07/2024 10:15

Kai125 · 19/07/2024 09:17

Absolutely this!!

I'd be looking for another nursery pronto!

As a PP said if they have no problems drinking in public at lunchtime then god knows what happens behind closed doors.

And of course they were working why do the mumnset "kind" people always put up with shit and think up ridiculous reasons?

If they were NOT working chances are they'd have wandered over to laugh and say that they weren't working today!!

This happened to a friend of mine who saw a childminder she regularly saw at the playground. She didn't even know her but the childminder came over to say not to worry it was her birthday and she was off that day!

Very scary that some posters think it's ok to drink at lunchtime when being paid to look after kids!

@Kai125 even more scary are dimwitted posters who rush to conclusions based on little or no evidence.

Crystallizedring · 19/07/2024 09:52

Kai125 · 19/07/2024 09:17

Absolutely this!!

I'd be looking for another nursery pronto!

As a PP said if they have no problems drinking in public at lunchtime then god knows what happens behind closed doors.

And of course they were working why do the mumnset "kind" people always put up with shit and think up ridiculous reasons?

If they were NOT working chances are they'd have wandered over to laugh and say that they weren't working today!!

This happened to a friend of mine who saw a childminder she regularly saw at the playground. She didn't even know her but the childminder came over to say not to worry it was her birthday and she was off that day!

Very scary that some posters think it's ok to drink at lunchtime when being paid to look after kids!

I wouldn't laugh and tell a parent it was my day off. They don't own what I do in my spare time and it's none of their business.
Then again I wouldn't have time to go the pub at lunch time anyway

myusernamewastakenbyme · 19/07/2024 09:42

Mind your own business !!!

TheKeatingFive · 19/07/2024 09:27

And of course they were working why do the mumnset "kind" people always put up with shit and think up ridiculous reasons?

What a stupid thing to say

TheQueenWhoNeverWas · 19/07/2024 09:26

Bluebirdover · 19/07/2024 08:43

@TheQueenWhoNeverWas"most pubs don't sell it", have you done a survey?

So because you've decided most pubs don't sell it, that's your decider that the nursery workers were drinking?

I can't remember ever seeing it on offer - and I barely drink alcohol, so I read the AF lists in pubs a lot. Wetherspoons are the largest chain in the UK and don't.

It's not completely impossible that the pub was one of the ones which does stock AF wine and two minimum wage workers both happen to be in the small minority of people who like it and shelled out for it, but that's really not the way to bet.

The most likely option (by some way IMO) is that they were going off shift.
Second most likely was that they'd decided to say fuck it for some reason and sprint to the pub for a sandwich and a glass of wine in their lunch hour. Seems unlikely that you'd get away without being busted.
AF wine or a flat apple juice which happens to be exactly the same colour as wine a poor third most likely.
The OP not looking hard enough to distinguish lemon squash/lemonade from wine is another possibility - you would never do that if looking properly but for all we know she could have had sunglasses on or been pissed herself.

Procrastinates · 19/07/2024 09:23

And of course they were working why do the mumnset "kind" people always put up with shit and think up ridiculous reasons?

If they were NOT working chances are they'd have wandered over to laugh and say that they weren't working today!!

Why would they need to go and explain to nosy parents that they weren't working? They were quite evidently not working it's not posters thinking up ridiculous reasons it's posters engaging their brains. The OP herself admitted she had essentially made up the whole thing based on no actual evidence.

Do you honestly think one member of staff would go and drink during their lunch break in the pub next to the nursery they work at let alone two.

Kai125 · 19/07/2024 09:17

Aussieland · 18/07/2024 13:35

Completely inappropriate if they were going back to work!
Is it ok for nurses to down half a glass at the beginning of their break? How about train drivers because it will have worn off by the time they get back to work? Jesus. Also if you can’t go a whole work day without alcohol it’s a fairly bad sign for your job

Absolutely this!!

I'd be looking for another nursery pronto!

As a PP said if they have no problems drinking in public at lunchtime then god knows what happens behind closed doors.

And of course they were working why do the mumnset "kind" people always put up with shit and think up ridiculous reasons?

If they were NOT working chances are they'd have wandered over to laugh and say that they weren't working today!!

This happened to a friend of mine who saw a childminder she regularly saw at the playground. She didn't even know her but the childminder came over to say not to worry it was her birthday and she was off that day!

Very scary that some posters think it's ok to drink at lunchtime when being paid to look after kids!

Jc2001 · 19/07/2024 08:52

TheKeatingFive · 19/07/2024 06:47

She doesn't know what was in the glass, unless she went over there and tasted it herself. So that's two things she doesn't know.

Yeah it's crazy. 11 pages of people saying they should be reported and what evil people they are and people don't even know if they were working.

People love a drama on here.

Redhil · 19/07/2024 08:46

Icannoteven · 18/07/2024 13:15

Drinking one glass of wine. Fine. If they were legless, that’s a different story. It’s their unpaid lunch break, as long as they are compos mentis to do their job when they get back to work, where is the problem?

I only have a drink every few months and I can honestly say that a glass of wine, especially with a meal, wouldn’t get me tipsy.

Just because you wouldn't be tipsy doesn't mean someone else wouldn't. I've just had one glass of red wine and felt ill immediately. I'm not saying that's what's happened to these two workers , of course not. My point is drink affects everyone differently so to compare yourself is pointless.

Bluebirdover · 19/07/2024 08:43

@TheQueenWhoNeverWas"most pubs don't sell it", have you done a survey?

So because you've decided most pubs don't sell it, that's your decider that the nursery workers were drinking?

Dontcallmescarface · 19/07/2024 08:41

CelesteCunningham · 19/07/2024 07:46

How often do you see people drinking non alcoholic wine in a pub? You don't, because it's vile. Beer or prosecco, sure, but not wine. They were drinking wine.

They may or may not have been on their second glass (irrelevant IMO - one is too much at work, any number is fine if not), they may or may not have been going back to work, but on the balance of probabilities, they were drinking wine.

I drink non-alcoholic wine in pubs, I don't find it "vile" at all. This may come as a bit of a shock , what with you assuming everybody has the same tastes as you.

Procrastinates · 19/07/2024 08:36

scoobysnaxx · 19/07/2024 08:27

This.
COMPLETELY inappropriate when looking after multiple young children.
Report!!

But they obviously weren't looking after young children.

Honestly the amount of people who've read the title and just assumed these two women were guilty of drinking before heading back to look after a room full of children is mind-blowing!

The OP freely admits she essentially made up a scenario based on nothing more than seeing two people having lunch together in a pub near the nursery they work in.

scoobysnaxx · 19/07/2024 08:27

Aquamarine1029 · 18/07/2024 13:25

They should absolutely not be drinking any alcohol when they will be caring for children after. That's fucking outrageous and I would report them immediately.

This.
COMPLETELY inappropriate when looking after multiple young children.
Report!!

TheQueenWhoNeverWas · 19/07/2024 08:25

Bluebirdover · 19/07/2024 08:15

@Itsjustmeheretoday makes you wonder why they sell it then...

Most pubs don't sell it. Beer, yes almost all pubs sell a few options nowadays and lots of people buy it. Wine, no.

TheKeatingFive · 19/07/2024 08:18

CelesteCunningham · 19/07/2024 07:46

How often do you see people drinking non alcoholic wine in a pub? You don't, because it's vile. Beer or prosecco, sure, but not wine. They were drinking wine.

They may or may not have been on their second glass (irrelevant IMO - one is too much at work, any number is fine if not), they may or may not have been going back to work, but on the balance of probabilities, they were drinking wine.

Just because you don't like it doesn't mean there is zero chance that they were drinking it. Equally there could have been any number of non alcoholic options in a wine glass. Neither you nor the OP have any way of knowing what they were drinking.

Bluebirdover · 19/07/2024 08:15

@Itsjustmeheretoday makes you wonder why they sell it then...

Itsjustmeheretoday · 19/07/2024 08:11

Bluebirdover · 19/07/2024 08:00

@CelesteCunningham how would anyone know how often people drink non alcoholic wine, unless we taste it?

Pubs sell non alcoholic beer and wine for a reason.

Are you suggesting they never sell it?

Honestly non alcohol wine is foul, the chances of two people 'enjoying' this, let alone ordering it in a pub seems very unrealistic!

TheQueenWhoNeverWas · 19/07/2024 08:05

I don't think most pubs even stock non-alcoholic wine do they? Wetherspoons for example sells 8 AF beers including Guinness, 2 AF ciders and a couple of cocktails but no AF wine, not even Nozecco.

Bluebirdover · 19/07/2024 08:01

@CelesteCunningham has it occurred to you that other people's tastes are different to yours?

Bluebirdover · 19/07/2024 08:00

@CelesteCunningham how would anyone know how often people drink non alcoholic wine, unless we taste it?

Pubs sell non alcoholic beer and wine for a reason.

Are you suggesting they never sell it?

CelesteCunningham · 19/07/2024 07:46

TheKeatingFive · 19/07/2024 06:47

She doesn't know what was in the glass, unless she went over there and tasted it herself. So that's two things she doesn't know.

How often do you see people drinking non alcoholic wine in a pub? You don't, because it's vile. Beer or prosecco, sure, but not wine. They were drinking wine.

They may or may not have been on their second glass (irrelevant IMO - one is too much at work, any number is fine if not), they may or may not have been going back to work, but on the balance of probabilities, they were drinking wine.

Goolagoo · 19/07/2024 07:42

Bluebirdover · 19/07/2024 07:03

*They were drinking wine and there were empties on the table.

OP doesn't know if they were working afterwards, but they were drinking (unless they were paying for non alcoholic wine, which tastes nothing like actual wine).*

So again we don't know if they were drinking wine?

If they weren’t drinking it’s a non issue , if they were drinking but not going back to work it’s a non issue - they can do what they want , they’re grown women - but if they were then I think the nursery should know this .

I wouldn’t think they would go to a pub near the nursery on their break and drink wine - surely they know that they could be seen . Unless , as its end of year for some they have time out of caring in the afternoon - paper work etc , so aren’t going to be looking after the children and they have been told to go have a relaxing lunch and a glass of wine .

Itsjustmeheretoday · 19/07/2024 07:07

Gwenhwyfar · 18/07/2024 21:37

You said you can't be tipsy and in charge of other people's children, which means you think you can be tipsy and in charge of your own children. So I'm asking you what the difference is.

The difference is that it's the parents risk to take. Surely that's obvious?

Bluebirdover · 19/07/2024 07:03

*They were drinking wine and there were empties on the table.

OP doesn't know if they were working afterwards, but they were drinking (unless they were paying for non alcoholic wine, which tastes nothing like actual wine).*

So again we don't know if they were drinking wine?

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