To think he must have been up to something?

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waitinginforpost · 18/07/2024 10:40

I've been with dh for 15 years and he's always taken his phone to the toilet 2 or 3 times a day and can be in there up to an hour.
I asked him what he does on his phone all this time while locked in the bathroom and he said he was trying to poo.
He then said if you like I won't take my phone in there with me then and now he doesn't and in the last say 3 months he has been leaving his phone on the bed while he goes to the toilet (toilet is in bedroom) anyway suddenly his trips to the toilet have reduced to 2-3 minutes since not taking his phone in which is a big jump from 45- 60 minutes which he was before.

It's obvious he was up to something on his phone and has stopped now it's become an issue, isn't it?

I'm aware it sounds like he can't win here but this isn't something I intend to bring up again, it's just on my mind.

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LostTheMarble · 18/07/2024 10:49

My ex used to do this. It was a deliberate way of getting out of family life and it’s a long running ‘joke’ in general that men take ages on the toilet when they have kids. It’s not funny, it’s an absolute pisstake and something that can be part of the ‘thousand cuts’ end of a relationship.

StormingNorman · 18/07/2024 10:48

Didn’t we all have ‘loo books’ before smart phones or was that just me?

HoppingPavlova · 18/07/2024 10:48

I don’t necessarily believe it’s anything nefarious. I know all the males in my house take minutes if they don’t take anything in as opposed to nearer an hour if they do take an iPad/phone in. I also know they don’t do anything untoward on their phone/iPad while in there as you can generally hear it blaring out as you walk past the toilet door, and it’s stuff like Netflix, sports, sports news, those people who seem to commentate computer games (no idea what they are called) etc. It’s really just so they can dip out of life I think, and if they can spin it out, there’s an hour where you can’t ask them to unload the washing machine or dishwasher, take out the garbage, do blah blah.

GlassOfMilkandCookies · 18/07/2024 10:46

AutumnLeaves1990 · 18/07/2024 10:42

Probably watching porn in there.

No one watches porn for an hour 2 to 3 times a day! He's just scrolling mindlessly

StormingNorman · 18/07/2024 10:46

He was doom scrolling, playing games, looking up random shit online. Now he’s bored in there.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 18/07/2024 10:44

He's just not distracted by scrolling

If I don't take my phone (or book) with me, I'm much quicker

Redglitter · 18/07/2024 10:44

It's obvious he was up to something on his phone and has stopped now it's become an issue, isn't it

Far more likely he's just using the loo now and coming out whereas before he was side tracked by Facebook or whatever else he was doing

UpgradedTitanCameraMan · 18/07/2024 10:43

Back in the day it was a book or a magazine. I imagine he was just taking the excuse of a shit to chill and scroll on his phone.

AutumnLeaves1990 · 18/07/2024 10:42

Probably watching porn in there.

HippeePrincess · 18/07/2024 10:41

No it’s because he has nothing to scroll /read/ watch while he’s sat “pooping” and he’s bored without his phone.

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