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To think he must have been up to something?

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waitinginforpost · 18/07/2024 10:40

I've been with dh for 15 years and he's always taken his phone to the toilet 2 or 3 times a day and can be in there up to an hour.
I asked him what he does on his phone all this time while locked in the bathroom and he said he was trying to poo.
He then said if you like I won't take my phone in there with me then and now he doesn't and in the last say 3 months he has been leaving his phone on the bed while he goes to the toilet (toilet is in bedroom) anyway suddenly his trips to the toilet have reduced to 2-3 minutes since not taking his phone in which is a big jump from 45- 60 minutes which he was before.

It's obvious he was up to something on his phone and has stopped now it's become an issue, isn't it?

I'm aware it sounds like he can't win here but this isn't something I intend to bring up again, it's just on my mind.

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EG94 · 18/07/2024 14:18

Oh it’s so annoying, man thing! I’d say if you left your phone in another room you’d be much quicker. In fact if we were getting ready and had to leave the house at a certain time and he suddenly needed the loo 15 mins before leaving I’d say give me your phone 😂😂

does he also suddenly and urgently need a shit whenever you ask him to do anything or was that just me

Thatsfrenchforstopahorse · 18/07/2024 14:18

omegahedron · 18/07/2024 10:58

<tries to remember which prominent Mumsnetters have gone quiet recently>

😂 My first thought was he’s probably titting about on mumsnet or pistonheads. Where time is a black hole…

5475878237NC · 18/07/2024 14:14

My husband never did this before kids. It's his excuse to check out.

Starlight1979 · 18/07/2024 13:52

divinededacende · 18/07/2024 13:03

"How did you get on top of your household budget Mrs. Starlight?"

"Slipped Immodium in my husband's tea."

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😂

brunettemic · 18/07/2024 13:38

AutumnLeaves1990 · 18/07/2024 10:42

Probably watching porn in there.

🙄 yes because that’s the only possible answer.

divinededacende · 18/07/2024 13:03

Starlight1979 · 18/07/2024 11:22

Yeah agree with everyone else. My DP scrolls either YouTube or DIY sites. He usually comes out looking for his wallet to buy something he's just found on Screwfix / B&Q.

"How did you get on top of your household budget Mrs. Starlight?"

"Slipped Immodium in my husband's tea."

zebedeehadapoint · 18/07/2024 11:58

The phone is the new book to read sitting on the toilet. Quite common.

Why is this a problem? What do you think he's doing?

HelpMeGetThrough · 18/07/2024 11:55

Can't beat a "shit and scroll".

circular2478 · 18/07/2024 11:49

My dh takes his phone to the loo. Maximum he's in there for is 10-15 minutes. It still baffles me, I'm in and out in 2-3 minutes.

BobbyBiscuits · 18/07/2024 11:49

Nobody sits on a toilet seat straining for a poo for a hour?! If that's really the case he needs to urgently see a bowel specialist.
So of course he was just scrolling/reading/watching something. Not necessarily anything horrible, but I've noticed men in particular have a penchant for toilet phone use. The guys at work used to do it. It's a yucky habit, and antisocial to block the bathroom for that long!
I honestly wouldn't worry, and be glad he's stopped doing it.

Anonym00se · 18/07/2024 11:33

GlassOfMilkandCookies · 18/07/2024 10:46

No one watches porn for an hour 2 to 3 times a day! He's just scrolling mindlessly

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Oh I can assure you they do! My porn addicted ex used to do it 6-8 times a day! He was a prolific wanker in every sense of the word.

crackfoxy · 18/07/2024 11:30

HippeePrincess · 18/07/2024 10:41

No it’s because he has nothing to scroll /read/ watch while he’s sat “pooping” and he’s bored without his phone.

This!

magicstar1 · 18/07/2024 11:29

Mine does it all the time, and I can hear him laughing at TikTok.

I've done it myself...went in for a wee last week and heard DH coming home early. He wasn't early, I'd just been scrolling and TikToking for an hour!

Starlight1979 · 18/07/2024 11:22

Yeah agree with everyone else. My DP scrolls either YouTube or DIY sites. He usually comes out looking for his wallet to buy something he's just found on Screwfix / B&Q.

Starlight1979 · 18/07/2024 11:19

Shielehdie · 18/07/2024 11:08

He was probably just scrolling / wasting time on his phone and therefore sitting for ages. It’s good he’s stopped though, that kind of thing is a recipe for hemorrhoids.

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Shielehdie · 18/07/2024 11:08

He was probably just scrolling / wasting time on his phone and therefore sitting for ages. It’s good he’s stopped though, that kind of thing is a recipe for hemorrhoids.

Creamnose · 18/07/2024 11:06

Well, if by up to something, you mean doom scrolling or watching videos, yes, but I doubt there's any more to it than that.

greenpolarbear · 18/07/2024 11:04

sparklywines · 18/07/2024 10:57

Who has an hour to spend on the toilet 3 times a day? Definitely make sure he's got the kids and doing stuff around the house for an hour after so you can have a break.
I personally couldn't think of a worse place to spend 3 hours of my day, how is that better than family time?

It's to escape from family and get some peace.

greenpolarbear · 18/07/2024 11:04

My partner does this too, definitely a man thing. Nothing bad about it, apart from it's a massive waste of time and also sometimes other people need to use the loo!

TeenLifeMum · 18/07/2024 11:04

Errrr, I’m currently on the loo reading mn 😬😂 others play Candy crush etc

omegahedron · 18/07/2024 10:58

<tries to remember which prominent Mumsnetters have gone quiet recently>

sparklywines · 18/07/2024 10:57

Who has an hour to spend on the toilet 3 times a day? Definitely make sure he's got the kids and doing stuff around the house for an hour after so you can have a break.
I personally couldn't think of a worse place to spend 3 hours of my day, how is that better than family time?

MyBreezyPombear · 18/07/2024 10:54

My step dad does this, drives my Mum mad but he's sat in there scrolling or playing candy crush

divinededacende · 18/07/2024 10:52

theemmadilemma · 18/07/2024 10:49

I don't get it myself, and it seems distinctly a more male habit, but it's defo a thing.

Even my mates husband who doesn't use a smart phone still has a book in there. 😆

Is it more of a male habit? You might be right. I'm a guy and I can definitely spend way to long in the bathroom if I end up down a rabbit hole online. I used to take a book back in the day, too. Doing a number 2 with no reading material is unthinkable.

OP, unless you have any other genuine reason to suspect something is wrong and he's not using it as a way to avoid household responsibility, let the guy take his phone into the toilet!

theemmadilemma · 18/07/2024 10:49

I don't get it myself, and it seems distinctly a more male habit, but it's defo a thing.

Even my mates husband who doesn't use a smart phone still has a book in there. 😆