I don't like going on holiday. Anyone else?

I don't mind a night or two away in the UK but I have no interest in going abroad. Also I couldn't bear to be away from my cat. He gets freaked out if me and my partner go out in the same car because he knows, or thinks he does, that we are abandoning him. If we go out separately in our own cars he's fine with that. He's a strange cat but I love him.

This is an interesting thread.

We are homebirds too! I price up holidays all the time but we never commit. We have been plenty places and even lived abroad for a while but never go an annual holiday.

We all have exceptionally different sleeping patterns, I'm at insomniac who sleeps 4 hours and wanders about, DS is a really light sleeper so DH train like snoring would make him struggle.

None of us like busy places.

We are all pale and blonde or gingery so we can just about cope with the Scottish sun.

We visit friends who live in a country with a very similar climate to our own or we save up and stay in nice places in UK for 2-3 nights.

Even when we have gone away we both get to day 5 and can't wait to start packing and go home.

I appreciate that's really strange but it works for us.

@BrigadierEtienneGerard

there are other types of holiday other than sun lounger type ones you know!

what about seeing the world? Different cultures? Different foods? Different sights? Etc

I agree OP. A lot of fuss about nothing. I enjoy going away for a few days to do something specific, but the idea of going somewhere for 2 weeks just to lie on a sun lounger and do sod all, strikes me as hell on earth.

When people say on threads like this that they miss their “home comforts”… what do you mean? I mean I get it if you’re camping or staying in a hostel or something but if you’re staying in a nice hotel surely they have the same or similar things you have at home?

no judgement, just genuinely curious!

Love holidays and travel. UK and abroad
Seeing and exploring new places, being in familiar places I love. Just with DH and no one else. It's even better since I retired, time to pack and get organised, no post holiday blues. Four holidays planned for next year.

Similarly to you, I just find holidays uncomfortable and full of difficult sensations and newness. Autism makes it a nightmare most of the time.

I think based on your health issues, that contributes massively. I don't blame you but it is unfair on everyone else.

You are completely entitled to feel how you feel. I find holidays stressful - I think years of doing self catering with small kids, having to remember all the kit, potties, travel cots etc has taken its toll and I have to remind myself they're a bit older now so the practicalities are easier (though still not old enough to have a lie in and at the age of moaning/pestering/arguing/squabbling so not exactly restful company...).
I find packing stressful in case I've forgotten something and because husband moans if I pack too much.
For many years we had an elderly pet so I had to also arrange pet sitter and make sure everything was clean and ready for them. Then I'd have half an ear open for the phone in case pet sitter called.
Sort of linked to getting phone calls I worry about leaving the house - floods etc. we have no family nearby so trying to sort this out from a distance would be a nightmare and coming home with kids to a wrecked house would be very difficult.
This year elderly pet is no longer with us and I can't decide if it will be better because I won't be listening out for the phone twice a day or worse because the house will be empty and any damage could go unnoticed... I might get a neighbour to pop in a few times.
I also can't decide whether to turn the water off (couldn't previously as pet sitter needed it).

I don't mind. We have a lovely home and garden, comfy bed, good kitchen and its usually more relaxing than being away in a strange bed.

I hate packing and all that faff. And we have an elderly cat who needs us.

I hate crowds and strangers and noise.

But I like exploring and new cultures.

Once or twice a year is great though.

I mean its not odd, its right there explained in the op. The poster had a bullying father and is in therapy. Agree with the poster that is lovely the dh is so understanding.

I agree with you OP - now. But I used to live somewhere very unpleasant, and I was just grateful to a bit at home!

OP you don't have to apologise to anyone except perhaps your DP if it's stopping him doing things he wants to do.
Not everyone likes hot weather or travelling etc.

If I'm honest I enjoyed them pre DD as holidays were active, where and when we wanted to go, without the grim expense and crowds of school hols.

I can take them or leave them now. But I think dp and I will find new enthusiasm again when we don't have a grumpy teen in tow.

Oh 100% OP. I hate going anywhere - even for 1 night! I force myself from time to time but yeah, not a fan of it. Sleep, food, all the issues you've mentioned. Plus I'm just an introverted homebird at heart.

I think life would be very dull without holidays. I've learned so much about history, geography and wildlife on holidays. My mum had ulcerative colitis so was often in need of a loo at short notice, but despite that she travelled around Europe and went to the US and Australia and New Zealand and was, right to the end, up for a weekend away.

When I was growing up we had a neighbour who was very proud of the fact that the furthest away he'd been from the village where he was born was a day-trip to a (very ordinary) town about 30 miles away. He used to boast about refusing to go any further even when his employers tried to force him to.

All I could think of was lying on my deathbed and contemplating the fact that I hadn't even managed to explore my own county, let alone my own country or continent.

No I couldn't disagree more, I live for holidays as my username suggests! Even when I suffered health anxiety and had some issues, I still enjoyed going on holiday.

Your feelings and reasons for not liking holidays are totally valid so you are not unreasonable. But I LOVE holidays. We have just returned from two weeks in a hot country and it was bliss to wake up and pull on a swimsuit and a pair of shorts every morning. Our adult children came too with a couple of their friends and it was so good spending time with them all. I think we, as a family, connect more when we are away from home. We have definitely returned refreshed and rested.

I like the idea of holidays and I do often enjoy them but I have at least twice come home earlier than planned as I had just had enough and wanted my own bed and familiar cutlery and some peace and quiet!

Another one here who is over holidaying away from home. I still go on a couple of city breaks a year and visit family in the country I live in by train maybe 3 times a year but the best part of any holiday for is coming home. I used to travel a lot and used to have long holidays abroad (up to 2 months) but I don't know if it's an age thing (mid-40s) or if travelling has just got much more faffy and uncomfortable but these days I can barely cope with a 2 hour flight when I used to have no problems flying 10-12 hours. Not to mention spending time at airports, they are such unfriendly and stressful places.

Self catering in the UK isn't really a holiday imo. It's basically being at home but without your own comforts.

I know what you mean.

Do you know what OP. If you don’t like holidays give yourself permission not to go in holiday. Save some money and spend it on something you DO enjoy (I’m thinking day trips, theatre, music, spa day, day festival etc.- things you can do that are fun but you then come back home at the end AND have good access to a loo!)

You don’t have to go on holiday just because everyone else does. Speak to your partner and be honest. Give him permission to go alone or with friends or family.

I hear you OP. But there are a few things you can do to make things better.
Is the poor sleep to do with noise, too much light? I take earplugs, clothes pegs to hold curtains together, or hang towels over curtain rail to keep light out.
Ask for rooms at the back - often quieter.
Check locations carefully- how close to main roads, night clubs etc.
Bring an extra pillow or ask reception for more if you’re in a hotel.
Ask for a fan if too hot. Or extra blankets if too cold.
Do all inclusive then you’re always close to a loo?
Stay in towns and google where public toilets are?
Or go self catering and take your own bedding and food?
Google the foods of the country you’re visiting and their ingredients. Or go self caterpillars and cook your own.
If all the things you mentioned were sorted would you be happy on holiday or do you just hate holidays themselves?
I sometimes feel like you but doing all of the above can push the holiday into “enjoyable” rather than “can’t wait to get home”.

I like holidays and we go away quite a lot but I'm happiest at home. We bought a holiday home so we can go away and be in our own home, bed etc. 😅

I imagine it's more difficult when you have an illness like you have, as well as a history that adds to your stress OP. 💐