To be annoyed that I get glared at for having a blue badge

It’s bleeding obvious that he would not ask if he could see the badge. Doesn’t have to be stated.

That does not say at any point that he only does this if the other person does not have a badge displayed, and at no point earlier did you say that on a thread about people who do have their blue badge displayed being hustled and harassed about if they are entitled to park.
Please can you just accept that you have accidentally misrepresented what he does and doesn't do and have then expected others to be mind readers. Consequently people are saying your brother has no right to be doing what you have implied he does.

To be fair you actually are but justifying it by saying it’s always blokes and he’s always right. Which I’m not really sure anyone is buying. The point people are making is hidden disabilities are a thing, blue badges are visible and disabled people do not wish to be challenged, harassed, or harangued. They have as much right to use the space as your brother and do not need to justify themselves to him.

If my paraplegic brother can’t park in a space that allows him to get his chair out, he might ask the space-user if they are entitled to be there because he needs the space himself

Ok, so interfere.... But only in certain situations?

I would favor not interfering at all but as this seems to be an extremely challenging idea for some posters I thought getting involved after the occupants had left was the best compromise.

You can repeat the words “harangue” and “harass” as much as you like, it doesn’t mean that I have ever suggested anyone do either of those things.

You can repeat the words “harangue” and “harass” as much as you like, it doesn’t mean that I have ever suggested anyone do either of those things.

That poster has spent more time justifying why it is okay to harangue people parking in BB spaces, who do not appear disabled enough for her, then listening to posters telling her why that behavior is unwelcome, and potentially damaging.

You’re not going to say anything otherwise really are you

You’re not going to say anything otherwise really are you

That’s an interesting perspective. It’s true that (as I just posted in fact) you can’t tell by looking at my brother sitting in his car that he is disabled. Perhaps he could be mistaken for a random busybody.

I’m pretty sure he doesn’t shout though, although I guess he might have to attract the person’s attention.

A man in a wheelchair certainly has the same responsibility as an able-bodied man to think about how his behaviour might make a woman feel vulnerable.

Most of the stories he has told me have been about arsehole blokes though. Next time I see him I’ll ask if he takes any other factors into account before asking. Like I said, the impression I get is that he rarely makes the wrong call.

That’s an interesting perspective. It’s true that (as I just posted in fact) you can’t tell by looking at my brother sitting in his car that he is disabled. Perhaps he could be mistaken for a random busybody.

I’m pretty sure he doesn’t shout though, although I guess he might have to attract the person’s attention.

A man in a wheelchair certainly has the same responsibility as an able-bodied man to think about how his behaviour might make a woman feel vulnerable.

Most of the stories he has told me have been about arsehole blokes though. Next time I see him I’ll ask if he takes any other factors into account before asking. Like I said, the impression I get is that he rarely makes the wrong call.

Me before disability probably would have too. Now, I often feel too intimidated to speak to anyone, I use the self serve tills and feel proud of myself if I manage to say thank you to the person overseeing the self serve tills.

Disability can create layers of barriers around a person that they are working daily to manage. Anyone who puts an extra challenge in unnecessarily is just cruel.

But you're wrong.

The requirement is that the BB is displayed. There is not requirement for me to speak to any member of the public about it.

I don't want a man shouting at me from his car asking if I am allowed to park there. I don't want any men shouting at me from cars at all.

The fact that your brother can't see my BB on the dashboard is honestly not relevant.

If he is still in his car all I would see was a man, potentially with his car between me and the shop which is threatening in itself. Add in the shouting male and I am likely to have a panic attack, my pain with go through the roof and I won't be using any BB spaces for a good week.

I display the BB as required but I won't engage with any member of the public querying it, no matter how polite.

People are entitled to report suspected BB misuse, they are not entitled to approach me about my BB.

In your position, honestly I'd show them the photo to prove it was mine and make them feel terrible. Any other reaction - however correct - won't educate them through embarrassment. I'd proudly show my photo and declare 'not all disabilities are visible. Do better.' Or something equally smug.

But it must feel horrible, and I'm so sorry.

Who are you to "scowl" at the driver. Just mind your own business. I have pulled into a BB spot before, and needed just a minute to catch my breath, before (stone me) I have reached to put my BB on my dashboard. Seeing someone scowl at me, would be the last thing I need.

I do believe that people who rely on wheelchairs should have a designated wide space just for them for the reasons you state.

Someone who can walk with aid of a stick or crutches just doesn’t need the same amount of “ Space”.

(Stick user here)

I do believe that people who rely on wheelchairs should have a designated wide space just for them for the reasons you state.

Someone who can walk with aid of a stick or crutches just doesn’t need the same amount of “ Space”.

(Stick user here)

I do believe that people who rely on wheelchairs should have a designated wide space just for them for the reasons you state.

Someone who can walk with aid of a stick or crutches just doesn’t need the same amount of “ Space”.

(Stick user here)

I said it was perfectly fine to question WHETHER someone has a BB.

Not why.

@Sparklebelle1024 , maybe think about it from a different perspective. I looked after my dad in the three years before he died, he lived with me and he couldn’t get out on his own. It’s odd the things you miss when you can’t do them anymore and he liked to go to the supermarket. It was very difficult for me though because I needed the extra space to bring his wheelchair alongside his seat and haul him out. It was really rare for there to be any disabled spaces free, I’d often be forced to park in a mother and child space but even they were scarce. I didn’t take him out so much in the end because I’d be hanging around waiting for a suitable spot to become available and nearly always a perfectly able bodied person would eventually turn up and get in the car they’d parked in the disabled space they didn’t need.
People aren’t entitled to be rude but they are I feel entitled to ask because disabled parking spaces are so often abused.
I thought your question was rather ageist by the way. Elderly people and middle aged people (carers) are the ones most likely to have come across abuse of disabled parking spaces.