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To ask my husband not to nap while I'm working

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LookAtThatCritter · 17/07/2024 19:25

I work from home and unfortunately the only space that we have available for my work station is in our bedroom. I know - it's a pain, but it is what it is. We don't have space for it in the living room/kitchen, and I need a room with a door that shuts anyway because I have a lot of client meetings & work with financials.

I just need the space during normal working hours, so if I work unreasonably early or late I'm totally fine with having someone else in the room and I try to be really quiet. But during normal working hours, I like to try and separate my work from home so I don't get distracted and can stay productive.

Sometimes my husband will wander in during the work day and start napping in the bed (which is what my desk faces). I find this really annoying and distracting, but I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or if this is okay. He only works part time right now and no night shifts or anything like that. It's not even the napping that's annoying me - but we have a sofa in the living room he could use. I just don't want someone sleeping in the same room I'm working.

Am I being a bitch, or am I justified to ask him to stop?? 😫

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Tartfulodger · 17/07/2024 19:33

mathanxiety · 17/07/2024 19:32

YYY to a lock for the bedroom door. You could easily fit a bolt either.

It's a potential breach of employer or client confidentiality for him to be in the space you work in while you're working there.

You mean so he can lock her out and live a normal life? Yeah I agree..

OhHelloMiss · 17/07/2024 19:33

A lock to lock him out of his own bedroom?!

Wafflefudge · 17/07/2024 19:32

I'm 50/50 too.
It is his home and he should be able to access the bedroom as required and use it as a home.
I wouldn't be able to nap on a sofa.
Could you have a foldable desk in living room.
Is there any availability of working in office. Just wondering if there are ways of limiting the time where there's a conflict.

mathanxiety · 17/07/2024 19:32

YYY to a lock for the bedroom door. You could easily fit a bolt either.

It's a potential breach of employer or client confidentiality for him to be in the space you work in while you're working there.

Tartfulodger · 17/07/2024 19:31

If the sexes were reversed here everyone would be saying he should go and work elsewhere and why shouldn't you have a nap in your own bedroom. Surely there must be some alternative area you can use to work from home? I'd understand if you lived in a bedsit.

OhHelloMiss · 17/07/2024 19:31

It's his home too

I would prefer to nap on the bed rather than the sofa

He's not doing any thing wrong at all

Sunbeam18 · 17/07/2024 19:30

God, that would drive me mad. Someone napping anywhere in the house would bug me!

mathanxiety · 17/07/2024 19:30

YANBU.

He is bang out of order.

Is there no couch He could nap on?

keylimedog · 17/07/2024 19:28

Hmmmm I'm sort of 50/50 - I do genuinely think that your home is your home first and foremost, if you're wfh then anyone just using the house as a home should really be able to use it as they want without having to give way for wfh. If my DH was working from home and was preventing me from using my house however I wanted to during my own day I would be a bit put out, it's my home not an office.

If you're going to be wfh for a long time it would be worth creating a separate working space in the house, it isn't a great idea to be doing it in your bedroom!

Xmasbaby11 · 17/07/2024 19:27

That would annoy me - it’s your workplace at that point and he can nap elsewhere. Ask him not to!

AnneLovesGilbert · 17/07/2024 19:27

Get a lock on the bedroom door and use it during working hours. Seriously, he’s taking the piss and assuming you’ve told him not to do it you don’t have another option. He can nap on the sofa!

FuzzyStripes · 17/07/2024 19:26

I think you are being quite reasonable to ask him to nap on the sofa.

Longer term, could you get a garden office to work in?

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