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To think I’ll close this WhatsApp group

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Flowersgardening · 17/07/2024 16:49

I’m admin for a WhatsApp group- only about 5 or 6 members. All old friends.
Now and again I put on about an event I’m going to and say - if anyone wants to join me?
Thinking of closing down the group- I’ll just put something lighthearted- along the lines of if we want to meet we can go back to texting or old style WhatsApp messages.
Just find it quite ignorant when no one responds. Even a ‘no I can’t’ would be appreciated but it makes you feel silly if you put something up and no one answers.
Of course they don’t have to, but if it was me I would.
110% sure no problem with the friendships as we are all old friends who get on very well.
My guess would be a couple in the group have split up but that’s only a guess and still wouldn’t stop them replying.
I don’t put an event on overly often so just find it a little rude to just have silence.
Think I’ll close it down soon but keep the message lighthearted as above.
What do you think? Thanks!

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thehousewiththesagegreensofa · 17/07/2024 17:26

Why close the group? Actively doing that seems quite passive aggressive. Just stop using it and message people separately if you want to.
I have umpteen groups that haven't been used for years but I can't be bothered to actually leave them as they're not being used so they just sit there in the background

Bulkypeepants · 17/07/2024 17:26

The more I go through life, the more I realise that some grown adult people can't respond to simple messages on WhatsApp. It's pathetic. No one's life is that busy.

Close the group to make a point to those that notice. Don't send a message beforehand say you're doing it.

alwaysmovingforwards · 17/07/2024 17:24

Just let it quietly die and drift to the bottom of peoples old WhatsApp chats.
It can always be revived by you or someone else in the future and bounce to the top again.
No need for a flounce announcement.

Cheeesus · 17/07/2024 17:23

Just don’t post on it. No need to close it.

LetItGoHome · 17/07/2024 17:23

Don't close the group. Just don't use it. It will move down your list of WhatsApp groups and you will barely notice it soon enough.

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 17/07/2024 17:22

I found one the other day that was for a friend's weekend away in 2022 no one has used it since I just left, I don't think people really make an announcement and close WhatsApp groups unless it's to make a statement

NiceCutRoundDomeDormice · 17/07/2024 17:20

Flowersgardening · 17/07/2024 17:13

I hadn’t thought of it that way- thought it would be awkward when we do meet up at some point if I didn’t say anything before closing the group….

But why do you need to close the group at all? Just stop using it. No awkwardness needed.

Loreleii · 17/07/2024 17:19

I wouldn't delete it if there's been activity in the last year. Maybe others in the group appreciate having the group there even if not everyone replies. It's too easy to lose touch with friends and feel isolated as we get older. Why not just leave it alone, or mute notifications?

GrandHighPoohbah · 17/07/2024 17:16

Flowersgardening · 17/07/2024 17:13

I hadn’t thought of it that way- thought it would be awkward when we do meet up at some point if I didn’t say anything before closing the group….

You don't need to "close" it formally. I have been in loads of groups that have stopped being used. They just sit there and at some point I leave them.

GrandHighPoohbah · 17/07/2024 17:14

I agree with PPs that the announcement is more petty than just not using it. Mute and archive it and just text the people you want to talk to.

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Flowersgardening · 17/07/2024 17:13

I hadn’t thought of it that way- thought it would be awkward when we do meet up at some point if I didn’t say anything before closing the group….

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LetItGoHome · 17/07/2024 17:13

Flowersgardening · 17/07/2024 17:08

To be fair, it’s not been a year or anything since folk responded but I do find it rude/ hurtful when folk respond with silence if you put something on as above.
Only reason I was going to do an announcement was so that I didn’t look petty…..

I think making an announcement, no matter how breezy will look petty.
Just don't use the group and communicate in other ways if that's what everyone else seems to be doing.

roundspongecake · 17/07/2024 17:13

Flowersgardening · 17/07/2024 17:08

To be fair, it’s not been a year or anything since folk responded but I do find it rude/ hurtful when folk respond with silence if you put something on as above.
Only reason I was going to do an announcement was so that I didn’t look petty…..

The announcement looks incredibly petty

loropianalover · 17/07/2024 17:10

Flowersgardening · 17/07/2024 17:08

To be fair, it’s not been a year or anything since folk responded but I do find it rude/ hurtful when folk respond with silence if you put something on as above.
Only reason I was going to do an announcement was so that I didn’t look petty…..

Doing an ‘announcement’ looks more petty honestly.

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Flowersgardening · 17/07/2024 17:08

To be fair, it’s not been a year or anything since folk responded but I do find it rude/ hurtful when folk respond with silence if you put something on as above.
Only reason I was going to do an announcement was so that I didn’t look petty…..

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longapple · 17/07/2024 17:07

Does anyone else ever say anything at all? Have you looked to see if messages are marked as being read? Others might have archived the group and not be seeing the messages.
What are you hoping to achieve by putting a message about leaving the group?

roundspongecake · 17/07/2024 17:02

I'd just leave it if its been a year of no one responding

BoredAuditor · 17/07/2024 17:02

You don't have to make an announcement, no matter how lighthearted, just don't use it.

GreyCarpet · 17/07/2024 16:58

I don't think you need to announce it. I'm in several WA groups that just fizzled out. No dramatics - people just stopped using them.

loropianalover · 17/07/2024 16:52

I wouldn’t bother announcing my departure, just delete it if you’re bothered by it. The group is not used for anything so why would anyone care?

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