To ask what your life looks like at the moment?

Love this, Im so nosey ....

Me, DH and DD who's finishing her first year at school.

Things are busy for us at the moment as we have my Dad, his parents and his Nan who all need support with things, lots of small 30 minute jobs that seem to never end, ordering shopping, prescriptions, admin, hospital and doctors appointments etc. We are are also called at short notice a few times a month fix things, diffuse situations, help them work the telly, were always on alert for the next drama....

DH works mon- fri 7:15-17;15 thankfully a 5 minute drive away, pops home for lunch most days.
I work full time from home, should be 8:30-17;00 but thankfully flexible.

My day:

6-7 wake up when DD wakes up, have tea and breakfast
7:00 - 7:45 try and do some work to clear urgent bits down.
7:45 - 8:30 get dressed and get DD ready for school
8:30 - 8:50 school run
8:50 - 14:45 Work
14:45 - 15:30 School run
15:30 - 17:30 Try to work, get DD snacks, do home work and get dinner ready.
17:30 - Eat dinner, chat to DD and DH.
18:30 - 19:00 DH puts DD to bed, I finish off any work, clear up after dinner. I try to make sure clothes and lunch is packed for the next day but that's hit and miss.
20:00 - Have a bath and watch netflix/read.

On Monday DD goes to Brownies round the corner from my inlaws so I drop her off and go round for a drink and get them anything they need, we leave at 5 and are home just before 7.

On Friday my mum picks up DD form school and takes her swimming and DH picks her up form my mums so and they're not home until 6.

One lunch time/ after work a week DH goes to my Dads to drop bits off for him and help him

Weekends:
DH plays cricket most Saturdays and i gone form 11-8, me and DD have the day together, meet up with friends for a play date, go visiting etc.
Sundays DH takes DD to his Nans collecting his mum and Dad on the way, he gone a few hours so I try and catch up with house work (I say every week that Im going to keep on top of it so I can have some time to myself on Sundays but this has yet to happen) We try and go out for breakfast, or do something Sunday afternoon.

I do all the housework, washing, ironing, shopping, cooking, admin, school stuff for DD, its a constant cause of conflict as Im so fed up of doing everything.

We are also in the final stages of buying a house and selling ours and hope to get a move date and day now, this will reduce the school run to a 3 minute walk (Yipeee!) and give us more space but has obviously been stressful and we havent actually done the move yet.

I don't have any hobbies, my swim bag has been by the front door for the last week with every intention of going "tomorrow" Im pretty fed up most the time and life feel like I spend my whole time trudging round after other people. It feels bit like being in a hamster wheel and every week I say it'll be different....

One thing I have enjoyed is DD's first year at school, I've made a few mum friends, DD has done so well and I prefer the routine to her being at nursery.

Me, husband and 3 children, I work full time and have 52 mile commute 3 + days a week depending on how I juggle my WFH days. Husband is farmer so out the house 14 + hours a day. He gets up at 5:30, I get up at 6:30, I wake up the kids at 7am and get them ready for school. On my commute days I take 2 of the children to the bus stop at 8am and I drive to work. Husband comes home at 8:20 to take youngest to school mini bus. On WFH day it's the other way around. I finish at 5pm and will get home around 6pm when commuting. Make tea, empty pack lunch boxes and make fresh ones. Spend time with youngest doing activities or watching TV. Put youngest to bed around 9pm and go to bed at 10pm. On Saturday I take youngest horse riding then either go shopping or come home to clean the whole house. I spend Sunday doing washing, housework and ironing for 5 people which can take all day depending on amounts of bedding washed. I do all shopping, cooking and housework and most of the child care as husband works such long hours. Oldest 2 help out on the farm after school and at the weekend.

Along with everyone else, sending a big virtual MN hug ❤️

What time do you get up?
6am, in the gym by 6.30am.

What responsibilities do you have?
Business owner.
Adult children now sort of self sufficient.

How long do you work for?
As much as required, or as little as needed, have a great team running it.

What do you do after work?
Sometimes work related client / team / industry dinners 2-3 times a week.
If working away, explore the city I’m in.
Spend time with partner.
Read.
Plan / book stuff for the future.

What time do you go to bed?
9pm ideal! 10pm normal. Sometimes later.

What do you do with time when you're not at work?
Family and friends.
Visit restaurants, bars, events etc.
Spend time chilling in countryside / near the coast.
Have a property side business that always needs a bit of something doing / responding to.
Mini breaks. At least one weekend a month we’ll disappear Fri pm to Sun eve. Mostly in uk, but a few will be European if we’ve seen something good to do (or sometimes just fancy it, book in the moment and then 4 months later be perplexed and say ‘oh, looks like we’re going to xx next weekend, how random!’ 😆)

Me and Husband (both 50) plus 4 children (3 at secondary school, one at primary). Husband works full-time, mostly from home with occasional meetings/days in town. I work (and also volunteer) with a small local Festival for pin money.

Get up every weekday at 6am, make lunches for children, see the older three out the door and then do the school run with the younger one, walking the dog at the same time. Back home, potter, housework, Festival work, cooking, knitting/sewing/reading. Yoga or running 3 or 4 times a week. 5pm start supper, all eat together where possible, ferry various children to various clubs/activities. Some mornings I meet up with friends for coffee or lunch.

At the weekend, up at 8ish, perhaps driving children to sports matches/meet up with friends, we might have friends over for supper or go out.

Every so often I go to town for the day to see an exhibition or theatre. We take the children out a lot and we go on one big holiday a year (usually Europe) with weekends/weeks away with family (who are not local to us).

No money worries at all, mortgage nearly paid off, good pensions/savings and (fingers crossed) good health. So far the children are doing well in school and are active outside of it (sports, DofE, good friendship groups) and are starting to figure out what they want to do in life. We live in a lovely market town in the South West, have good friends and are surrounded by gorgeous countryside.

I consider us to be very lucky.

What time do you get up?
Around 7-7:30am. Whenever the dog decides its time to get up.

What responsibilities do you have?
I don't actually think of myself as having any 😅I mean I work full-time but my job is very autonomous. Me and DP share domestic work and life admin 50/50 but there's not a huge amount of that. We have a dog but she's easy and we love her more than anything so I don't see her as a responsibility so much as a privilege.

How long do you work for?
At the moment, it depends day-to-day on how much I can be arsed to do. My job is very autonomous and I don't really have targets which are enforced so no-one would notice if I did absolutely bollocks all until October. But I'm enjoying my work at the moment so I probably work about five hours a way.

What do you do after work?
Walk the dog; cook, eat and clear up tea with DP; do brain games with the dog; shower; read; TV.

What time do you go to bed?
About 10:30pm but then read until about 11pm.

What do you do with time when you're not at work?
As well as the above - weight lifting; boxing training; shopping; cleaning; gardening; crafting; working on a novel.

I love my life. It's chilled. It's predictable. It's comfortable. It's filled with love.

Me, DH and two teenagers, 14 and 16. Luckily both retired but still pretty busy:
School day routine:
7.00 wake up, DH brings me coffee in bed and wakes the youngest.
7.10 get up, shower, one of us makes breakfast
7.45 school run (1 hr trip) usually me (DH gym)
9.00 dog walk
10.30 coffee and race each other on Wordle, both catch up on emails etc then either I go to my mum's to help for the day or:
Housework/DIY/gardening. Or a hobby group meets at our house for 2 hours.
12.30 make lunch. Or occasionally take dog out later instead so walk to pub in next village.
3.15 school run - 1 hour
5.00 sometimes running a teen out to an activity or catching up listening to youngest on his musical instrument and helping with homework.
6.30 dinner
8.00 one or both of us often out connected to hobby, or one of the village committees/school governorship meetings.
10.00 regularly collecting DS16 from GFhouse (1 hr round trip). Or watching Dexter with him.
Usually in bed by about 11.30.
Just realised I spend average about 3 hours driving each day!

this thread reminds me of…

I get up when I want except on Wednesdays
when I get rudely awakened by the dustmen.
I put my trousers on, have a cup of tea
And I think about leaving the house!
I feed the pigeons, I sometimes feed the sparrows too

Three kids,9 and 4 yo twins. All in full time school. DH works so out 8-6. I don't.

Up at 7 and get kids ready for school. Leave 8.20, walk and drop off then back home for 9.

Chores / free time until 2.45 when I walk back to school to collect and we're home for 4.

Watch kids / tidy / prep dinner for 530-6ish when DH is home so we eat together.

Youngest go to be at 7, one does bedtime (until 8.30ish) whilst one tidies
Swop every few nights. DH then ours eldest to bed/ I finish any tidying

9pm DH makes a drink and we sit down to watch TV until bed at 23.15.

The most relaxed its ever been. I get up when I naturally wake, which is usually about 730, 5 days out of 7. Two days I commute so get up at 6. I'm at a point in my career where I'm paid more for responsibility and knowledge than activity, and have lots of autonomy to decide what I do and when. I love the work and my manager and team are supportive. I have no dependent children now, and no longer have care responsibility for my late parents. My partner pulls his weight and domestics these days are minimal as we don't make much mess anymore. I have loads of time to myself and when not at work or loiking after GC, spend my days walking, doing yoga, going out to gigs, the theatre, days out etc. I rest a lot too.
If only I was also young with more of life ahead of me than behind me, it would be perfect!

Me and DH and one DS nearly 6.
Both woken at 6am by son
Dh off to work at 7- 3 days a week in office and 2 days from home
I work 25 hours a week after school run and back in time to collect from school run.
Home to chill and prep dinner
DH home by 6 for dinner
I try to exercise 3 times a week; a class or run.
Son asleep by 8 usually and we take it in turns to get him to sleep.
DH working on side hustle every evening and I have a bath and watch tv.
Bed for both by 11.
Son has karate, swimming and footie in the week/weekend.
Weekends are family time/ socialising.

We cope money wise but have no savings due to side hustle getting up and running and just paid for family holiday.

pretty content but things will change when side hustle becomes main hustle!

I'm so sad to read this and I really hope things can improve for you soon

Totally chilled these days as an empty-nester and just the old dog to look after!

Alarm 7.15, shower, brekky, washer on if needed, start work 8am (wfh)
Finish lunchtime, empty dishwasher, make lunch, potter around house doing odd jobs.
Walk dog 1-2pm
Study
5pm make dinner, DS sometimes pops in for a brew or food.
Evenings I walk, yoga, iron, self - care, read, cinema, watch YouTube travelogs and plan/dream of all the travel I'll do soon...
Last dog walk
In bed between 9.30/10, scroll or listen to podcast with a cuppa, sleep for 11.

Took a while to slow down into this sedate pace of life, but getting the hang of it 😌

I am really sorry to hear this. Life can be cruel and change in a moment. Surely a carer is means tested and you would be left with enough foe rent/COL etc? Are there any activities/interests you could pursue? Please forgive me if I sound insensitive but you need to instigate changes to enhance your days.
Please take care. What about local groups? I have attended some in my area during lonelier times in my life

46, married with one DC still at home (25)
Up at 5:30, DH and I leave for work at 7:00
I am home by 3:30/4:00 , DH not long after.
Everyone helps with all the house stuff/cooking/shopping/admin and we have a pretty stress free life.

mid 50’s, DH 12 years older with life limiting disease

get up when wake up, sometimes 6am, sometimes 8.30am (often awake a bit in the night).
a year ago household chores were pretty much shared, fun times were on the horizon
now I do 99% of everything (he makes me a very nice cuppa).

I work but am able to fit it around DH treatment and appointments - 10+ a month.

I’m on the go from the minute I get up till I’ve loaded the dishwasher after dinner.
i often feel hard done by - am grateful that DH is ok ish (and could go on for many years)
love our dog but just wish we didn’t have a dog to walk
dh refuses to spend money on dog walker or someone to cut the grass

have a hobby I love but am too knackered in the evenings to do it.
DC all live over an hour away (but did come when I hit rock bottom a couple of weeks ago).

am hoping things may get easier in a couple of months if treatments work For DH.

just bought a robotic hoover, def helped.

am having a meh month, the weathers def not helping.

but keep telling myself I have it better than many and to pull my socks up (onward and upward as my dear dad would have said).

Some of you are actually heroic

Up 540, 6ock train, start work 715. Finish work 630-830+, train home (50-62.5h weeks, 3h commute). Get home cook, eat, dishwasher, work admin, bed 945-10pm. Gym 1h on any day off. Walk with mates when I can. Just joined national trust

Single

Two Dc both 23 one just finished at uni,

Medically retired.

Wake up about 3am in pain. Take drugs with tea and biscuits.
Wake up about 9am in pain. Take drugs with breakfast (yoghurt and oj) feed cats
Wake up for the day about 11am.

I usually try to do a bit of housework - washing up or laundry and then need to lay down for snout an hour.

Have lunch (more drugs)

Have a bath and rest afterwards.

Then afternoon housework slot usually followed by a nap because it exhausts me.

Wake up around 5pm eat dinner and more drugs.

Watch tv or read a book until bedtime.

I am so sorry. This sounds incredibly hard. I hope things are brighter for you one day soon ♥️

DH and I, retired, no kids. I do some volunteer work, yoga and pilates classes, a book club and am studying French. Typical day: up 8.30 - 9, duo lingo for half an hour, chores (gardening in summer) walk or bike ride if weather is nice, French grammar, shopping once a week. Dinner and tv together in the evening. Bed and book 10-ish. Off to France in September and Goa in January.

Sorry OP but you did ask. And no - I don't belong with the other oldies on Gransnet

Agree with @loropianalover about comparing your life with others helps you.

At the moment I have a life of leisure. I gave up a full time job in the civil service in May last year to become a full time foster carer. I had a child move in within a couple of weeks, they left in June.
I am recovering from the trauma of the experience, his behaviour and the way his departure was handled.
I'm not a morning person, wake up 8ish, get up, feed the cat, put away last night's washing up, put a clothes wash on if needed. Take a cup of tea back to bed, browse the Internet for a bit, pay bills, do any organising that needs doing.

Get up properly 10.30 - 11.00 unless I have an appointment. Do some housework, go to the gym and allotment.
On Fridays I have breakfast with friends and then go to my volunteer ' job'.
My son is home from uni so he is helping me tackle some bigger DIY stuff. I have some decorating to do and repairs to damage caused by the foster child.

I'm 59 and so been around several blocks several times. My experience is that its rarely one thing that is 'wrong'. There may be a primary cause but things have knock on effects. I've been utterly miserable at work, made radical changes and then been happy at work but at the cost of lower pay, or less free time.

My main issue is that no foster child means no income.

Interesting question! I always like reading people’s answers to these.

I work full time hours compressed into 4 days. I get up at 5am on the two days I am in the office and 7am (or whenever my son wakes me up) on the days I work from home or don’t work. On my office days I am home by hand seven, on my WFH days I finish at 6.

Professional job, stressful at times but interesting and enjoyable.

I have a 3 year old and I’m pregnant. 3yo is in nursery two days, with family one day, and my husband and I both work compressed hours so each have one weekday with him.

In the evenings I tidy up, go for walks, read, garden, watch some tv, bake. I go to bed at 10. I never have enough time for anything in the evenings and I’m usually knackered!

At the weekends we like to go for walks, visit museums, swim, bake, have fancy breakfasts, play games, go to the beach, visit family, chill at home.

I have a mid-renovation ancient house always needing something fixed or sorted. Two cats and a handful of chickens. Large garden I can’t keep on top of so it’s mostly a meadow. I tell myself it’s good for the pollinators…

I find I am tired a lot but I am content. Things get on top of me and cause me stress but it passes and I go on. If stress is chronic I do think it’s a sign something has to change.

2 kids, 2 adults, 1 dog and 2 guinea pigs. I work 37.5 hours a week from home. My kids are at school. School days are up at 7, get everyone ready and out the door, back home to walk dog, start work at 9. Work until school run time, pick up kids and come home, back to work until 5.30. After that its make dinner/tidy up/clean/sort washing etc until the kids need to go in the bath at about 8. Get the kids bathed and into bed, do stories etc and probably be back downstairs by about 10, earlier if I'm lucky. Watch an hour or so of tv and go to bed about midnight-ish. At weekends I try to catch up a little on sleep on Saturday morning then do something with the kids for the day, Sunday is spent preparing for the week ahead so ironing, washing, housework etc. Very, very routine and very very busy.

I work 3 days a week 8.30-5
DH works 5 days 9-5.30
We eat dinner/tea at 5.45ish
DS bedtime is 8.30
We try and walk in the woods or on the beach after tea 3 nights a week

Morning alarm is set for 6.30 but we have coffee in bed and get up slowly after a “who can do wordle or nerdle first” competition

Friday is homemade pizza and board game night
Saturday is fun dinner and family day (bike ride, big walk, go karting etc)
Sunday is roast dinner and F1 / Sports / Swimming day

I do housework on a Thursday and DH will mow our massive unruly garden on a Friday afternoon as he can finish early if no meetings.

DH will prepare lunches the night before :)

We have takeaways on special occasions or if we have something exciting to celebrate like a good school report

Id love to spend one of my free weekdays on a hobby!

DH and I are trialling a new walk / jog / run around the village after dinner twice a week but can’t be arsed at the mo 😂