To ask what your life looks like at the moment?

51, married, dd20 at uni, dd16 at home. 1 ddog, small and very old house which will never be finished

Dh is 58, works shifts in an NHS lab for fuck all £ (gave up sales career to care for his late wife - when she passed 6 years later he was too old and nobody wanted him).

I'm self-employed so my week looks like:

Up at 6.45, drop dd to station 7.30 most days.
Work starts when it needs to, 8-9ish (either admin from home/going into work 15m away if needed on site, or teaching in a school). Whichever it is, that finishes at 3.30 then I start private teaching (from home) at 4pm every day.

Finish 5.30 most days and dash out immediately to get dd from station. Two days a week she gets back earlier and I finish teaching at 6.30/6.45.

Used to have loads of evening dance runs for dd but her timetable's changed since starting college, so nothing much taxi-wise in evenings atm. Often do a food shop.

Cook/clear up around 6-8pm.
Housework/laundry whenever I have a quick break when wfh or in short bursts first or last thing. Dh and dd happy to live as complete tramps so it's me driving it all/making them help when they're here, which they'll do.

I often have Fri mornings off but atm those tend to be taken up with physio appointments. If not, life admin/paperwork.

Weekends: visit elderly parents 2.5 hours away sometimes, occasionally catch up with friends or dd1, otherwise taxi for dd2, lots of dog walking, attempts at housework/laundry (house is a mess atm and can't afford a cleaner).

TV/phone once I sit down for the evening. Life is mentally exhausting but not enough physical exercise which won't be helping my general mood or weight. Dd1 is ND and video calls most nights as she can find workload overwhelming and gets lonely.

Bed 11-12 as a rule. Sleep till 10 some weekends where feasible.

No energy for hobbies, although I do love reading and need to make more effort to read rather than scroll FB etc!

We don't have holidays as I can't afford to take time off. Drop to part time hours in school hols which is good (most ppl don't want music lessons in the holidays). Only time off is a week at Christmas. Money is a constant concern and pension/future finances is a big worry but can't do anything much about that.

Live with my partner and 16mo. We are late 30s.

Wake up around 6.30am, shower, dressed, partner makes breakfast for me and baby. Eat breakfast together as a family.
8.45 take baby to nursery, then walk home and turn on laptop at 9.00.
Work until 12.00 from home.
12.00-13.30 - have lunch, go for a walk or swim. Sometimes with partner if he is also wfh.
16.00 finish work, collect baby from nursery, go home, eat dinner, play with baby, then go for a walk in the park/ swim (in summer) or watch a bit of Netflix if weather is bad, speak to family and friends on FaceTime etc.
20.00 bath time for baby
21.00 in bed, 21.30 asleep (baby awake a few times in the night so need to sleep early to feel well rested)

On weekends see friends, do day trips, have picnics in the park, clean and do laundry. Go for walks in nature. Cook Sunday roast.
We have a relatively slow and relaxed life, both our jobs relatively stress free and we try and spend as much time as possible with our 16mo. I have zero desire to have a stressful corporate job, we earn good salaries but don't feel the need to climb up the greasy pole.

An interesting thread to read. For those who are not happy with your lot I really hope you find some peace and joy in your lives soon. Mine looks like this (age 48, married, 3 children between 4 and 11).

• wake up between 7am (weekday) and 10am (weekend if my husband has got up with the kids)
• school/work day I get the older 2 up, sometimes I do my youngest, sometimes my husband or our nanny
• if I’m WFH the morning is more relaxed as I take my time to log on by around 9, if I’m in the office I leave home between 8 and 8:30.
• Finish work around 6, but I have a busy leadership job so I keep an eye on things later
• i I don’t usually do dinner but sometimes if i have a quiet WFH day I’ll do something that takes a bit more time to cook
• bed for kids is around 7:30 for the little one, and around 9:30 for the older - we watch tv in the evenings, I like to read, the boys do some gaming, we try to fit in music practice. This will look different when secondary starts. Life admin is done in various spaces during the day like lunchtime
• i usually eat later once the little one is in bed. Meals all together at the table are usually either at weekends or if I’ve done a weekday roast
• bedtime from 11pm.
• at weekends there are kids sports activities and the laundry , and sorting out uniforms for the week. There’s usually something on like socialising or a plan for the park or the museum.
• on Sunday mornings in term time I sing at a church choir - that’s the day for my mum to come over and she gets my little one up and dressed. I go out early for church and on the way back I pick up my sons after their sport. Although I could otherwise sleep in on a Sunday, adding in this singing has proved essential to my wellbeing.
• we have a cleaner once a week, and the nanny on her days helps us keep up with household things. The older children have assigned tasks like dishwasher, bins, cat-feeding etc.

Work 3 days a week. Three kids.

Monday - Wednesday- go gym, visit elderly parents, clean house, occasionally meet a friend for coffee.
Thursday- Saturday- work
Sunday- see family or take kids out

Evenings- usually have a couple of social things on every month, plus book club once a month. Dh and I sometimes do a date night. Other than that I read, watch tv or do a crossword.

I'm 60, live alone with my cat.

On work days, I get up at 4.45 am, feed the cat, shower, hair, make up, dress, then sort out my lunch, and make and eat breakfast, while either scrolling on my phone or reading. I do not like to have to rush or hurry in any way in the morning 😂 and I'm a natural lark.

6.20 am leave the house, bus/train/bus, then arrive at work in central London at around 8 am.

4.30 pm leave work, get home by 6 pm, sometimes later, depending on public transport.

Once I'm home, I fuss the cat, cook and eat dinner, tidy up the kitchen, maybe watch an hour of TV, then I'm in bed reading by 9 pm, lights out by 9.30 pm ready to do it again the next day.

Sounds really dull but I love my job and my colleagues, that's where the fun in my working day is!

Days off/weekends I'm awake by 5 am usually (like I said, I'm a lark!) but will make a cup of tea and bring it back to bed to drink while reading and stroking the cat. Then up around 7 am, work out, shower etc and do all the things I can't fit in in the week - seeing friends, visiting a family member in residential care, cinema, meals out, shopping, food shopping, batch cooking, cleaning, gardening, hairdressers, any bits of life admin, singing lessons, singing practice, reading ...

Just me and my husband at home now, live in Middle East. Get up at 4.30, deal with horse and ducks, start work 7am, finish 2pm. Come home, have a nap, get up, sort pets, cook something, go to gym. Watch TV in bed. Weekends, riding, brunches, sailing, beach. Some weekends fly to Dubai to see friends.
I am at a point where I can do exactly what I want to and can afford to. Its taken 48 years, but I can honestly saying there is not one thing I would change, culturally, financially or socially. And I love my job, I work in a very male dominated field and really love my work and the work life balance.

Weekends I do as much overtime as I can (mortgage up by £400 a month recently) or I take child to cinema or shopping etc or wife takes them both to the beach while I stay home and garden or DIY.

58, wife (we're both women) and 2 primary aged children, both with ASD. One at a special school and one at a mainstream. I also have an older daughter (30s) and 4 year old grandson who live in the same town and see multiple times a week.

I work full time as a palliative care specialist nurse and wife is a full time secondary school teacher.

2 cats. 1 rabbit.

We're up at 6. Feed animals and shower and dress then get children up. I do mornings, she does evenings. (She leaves earlier and I get home later). Shower children, breakfast, dress, school reading and homework for child at mainstream, housework and laundry. House is always clean and tidy before I leave.

Transport comes for child at special school at 8. Leave for other child's school at 8.40. Then I go to work. 40 minute journey.

Taking mainstream child to clubs in the evening. Evening then spent prepping for the next day. Eat something. Go for a walk. Scroll TikTok or watch a film etc. Get into bed at 9. Fall asleep at about 10.

I'm not remotely content.

I live with DH (we have grown up kids who've left home)

He's just retired early and I work freelance, so neither of us have to set an alarm which is lovely after years of having to.

My hours are pretty part time, some weeks busier than others but I make sure I have time to go to the gym/walk everyday and see some friends through the week.

Most evenings we watch tv but sometimes go on evening walks in the summer. Go to the cinema once a month. Out at weekends either visiting the dc/going to the pub etc. We go to bed at 10.

In a word busy. I had a really bad patch when I was in my 29’s I feel lucky to have the life I do. I get to do all these things.

at home is me (36)and DD (14). I have a partner but we live separately

6am- up, make breakfast, feed cats, pack bag for work.
6.30 - take tea to bed and read for 15 mins
6.45- shower, dressetc
7.30 leave for work
8.30/9 - arrive at the office.
Work- stressful corporate job
1.00 - if meetings allow, run 6-8km 2-3 days, take a walk with colleagues other days.
Morestressful corporate job
5.30(ish) leave office
6.30 (Tuesdays and Thursdays) do sport specific training, Wednesdays go to partners for dinner, otherwise straight home
7.30/8 - cook dinner (cook 3 portions so I have lunch next day)
9.00- 30 min super clean (washing up, laundry, hoover, cat litter etc)
9.30 -shower
10.00 - bed, read/meditate.

weekends:
9am Saturday sport training 2 hours
sunday- long run.

my sport provides a good social element. Down time is renovating my house/garden. I have sport events about 1 weekend a month on average. We try to travel as much as my bank account allows.

I feel like I have so much time now I’m not doing my masters on top of all that.

time with my daughter is one her focused activity every weekend (cinema, brunch, climbing) she also sometimes comes to train with me

My DM has got 5 great grandchildren. She's 78. Her oldest DG is 38 😁

DH is 44, his Dad just turned 80 and his Mum (DH's Nan) is 102 - they all live really long in in family 😆

I have a DH, one primary school aged DD, 2 secondary school aged stepchildren and 1 dog.

We both work full time and DH works away a lot. I only have to go into the office once a week.

06.00-06.30: Wake up depending on if I’m going into the office or not. Sometimes my DD wakes me up earlier
06.30-07.30: If I’m in the office I drive to the office around 07 and get there for around 07.45. If home I do chores like laundry, tidy stuff away and get started on breakfast, makeup, get dressed etc
07.30: Log onto laptop and start work while getting ready
08.30: take DD to school. Work is great with the flexibility
09.00-12.00: work. It’s dull but the flexibility is great, my boss is kind and it will do for now
12.00: take dog for a walk on my lunch break
12.30-15.30: more work. Fit it hoovering/laundry/tidying when I can
15.30: Collect DD. I do most of the school runs but DH will do some when he’s at home. Start prepping dinner. DD has activities 3 days a week that we share taking her too. If DH is away I will prep dinner around work
17:00-20:00: dinner, more housework, homework, sorting stuff out. DD bedtime is 7 but not asleep until gone 8 and I have to stay with her
20:00-21:00: usually and hour of tv and then bed 😴

I do gardening on the weekend which I enjoy and have started taken up sewing but other than that just focused around work, housework and taken kids to activities. We have stepkids Friday to Monday most weeks with occasional day in the week when DH is home

Your DH’s nan?! How old is your DH and his nan?😱

I have alot of stresses along on . With supporting adult DD awho has bipolar and other mental heath issues , my older teen has mental health issue , ds has autism. I also have my GS alot. House work etc It's very hard work mentally and emotionally and has almost sent me over the edge. I don't work and would not cope if I did.

General day
Up 6.30 sort kids for school etc
Leave 7.30
Im home be 9.20am
Then i may be baby sitting or/and dealing with stuff.
Leave home 1.50 get kids from school for 3pm
Home 4.15 ish
5pm dinner.
General family stuff
Kids bed by 9pm
I'm in bed 9.30 /10pm but often can't sleep till 1am ish.

It's OK sharing. But don't compare. You could have similar stresses /life to someone else but their support system may be different to yours . Or manage things differently. Have more mondy to pay for therapy or a cleaner. Have a nanny etc to help take the edge of things. Obviously lots don't but some do or simlar

I work part time, term time only. Two young adult dc, one at home, one at uni, husband, dog and cat.

During term time I leave for work around 8.15, get home early afternoon, walk dog, do chores, cook supper and then relax in the evenings. Apart from walking the dog I do yoga and sit ups three times a week. Did have cleaners but have recently let them go as I can’t really justify having them!

During holidays I potter a lot - walking the dog is essential for my mental health as it gives my days some structure. I attend to the dcs, sometimes I’ll do a day trip with them, I’ll do some freelancing work from home, at the moment I’m doing some painting around the house. I’ll clean, cook, wash, tidy, yoga, do some gardening. It’s nice and I’m very grateful for it but I do feel guilty a lot of the time!

No children, just me and DH.

Awake at six in the week and just doze in bed or scroll on my phone until half seven. DH leaves at 7 most days.
7.30 - Get up, feed and sort the animals, let the cats out, then vacuum, make breakfast, put laundry on if needed.
7.50 - breakfast, wash dishes, get ready for work.
8.30 - leave, walk the dog on my first job of the day (I'm a dog walker) and drop him with FIL who looks after him.
9.45 - head to work properly.
1.30 - collect the dog, home, feed the animals, have a shower and lunch.

Then by 2:30 I'm generally "done" and have the rest of the day to myself. Occasionally I'll have evening jobs to go to. DH is home by half three normally, so we have our evenings to do whatever we like.

Bed around 11 after getting the cats in and feeding everyone again!

I get up at 6.30am on weekdays, later at a weekend and often lie in till 10ish with a cup of tea.

I work Monday to Friday mostly 9-5 sometimes I throw in a late night audit. I'm on a nice career pathway and intend to keep learning and pushing myself.

At home there is myself, dh and two young adult daughters 18 and 20 who are both doing degrees and working part time. Both have nice boyfriends and they all come and go as they please. We have one cat who is on the naughtier side!

My dds and dh do help with household chores and for the most part it works very well.

We spend most weekends in London, walking and enjoying nice wine and we absolutely love a concert.

Life on the whole ticks along nicely and I've a few gripes but doesn't everyone

What time do you get up?
Alarm for 6.30 on weekdays but I often wake up before in the summer when it is light. Maybe sleep a bit later on weekends but my internal clock is set to early. I like to bring coffee back to bed and check the news, emails, sort my internet banking or do an online shop from here. I sort the cats and take the dog for a nip round the local area.

What responsibilities do you have?
3 Dcs now almost grown,all still at home. Youngest about to turn 18. Middle off at uni but home for the summer. Eldest lives at home but works FT. 2 cats and an elderly dog. My dh does close to 50% chores but he only works 30h. He does all the gardening and DIY stuff as well. I do half the cleaning, all the laundry, all the family organising. Cooking meals is shared. I usually do a weekend, cook from scratch. Dh is a decent cook and also cooks twice a week. Dcs usually do a day each. My job is very demanding and I'm often out for long hours or need to log back on when I get home.

How long do you work for?
I work 5 days pw, 8 til 6 ish, sometimes later. My commute is either 30m or an hour depending on which site I'm on. I try and wfh around one day a fortnight. I frequently have evening meetings, calls during my commute and work to finish at home. I also work on call so have an on call shift every three weeks or so. My job is well paid, but when I consider I am salaried and pulling a regular 50 h work week I don't feel quite so fortunate. I'd quite like one of those mumsnet wfh jobs I keep reading about that only requires 4 or 5h of actual work per day for a FT salary.

What do you do after work?
I have a commitment to move every day. I go to the gym two or three times a week for strength training or a class. I like to go for a walk/bike ride on the other days if its not raining, dragging a DC if I can. If the weather's bad I do yoga at home. I'm learning a language so work on that, and also listen to language pods when I'm commuting. I read avidly, at least a book a week. I listen to podcasts whilst I'm doing housework or laundry. Otherwise I always have music playing. I have a record player and like to listen to my vinyls. Dh and I usually have one or two shows on the go but don't watch TV every night. I sometimes meet a friend for dinner after work. Every couple of weeks I go to a pub quiz.

What time do you go to bed?
I go up anywhere between 9 and 11. I usually read or write my blog, then asleep by 11.30ish. I've taken to taking a glass of wine and a cat up with me. I like a proper wind down and find I'm just peopled out by the end of the day.

What do you do with time when you're not at work?
I'm planning home renovations, atm. We usually holiday twice a year plus some shorter trips so I'm often planning a trip. I spend a lot of time with my sisters family, our dcs are similar ages. We meet in the pub on a Saturday afternoon, or for Sunday lunch, have bbqs etc. My brother lives further away but I see him for weekends 4 or 5 times a year and we sometimes go on holiday together. We also have shared interests in music and theatre so may meet up in a city for a concert or show. I have scattered friends that I know from different places, rather than a group of friends, so meet up for lunch or drinks or coffee with different friends. I'm also starting an MBA soon.

Last few months have been hectic, but currently boring. Organized an international move, and now just waiting for our new house to be set up with our belongings before I fly out in just over a week. Very little left to do at this point, so twiddling my thumbs.

6:45 alarm, up to get breakfast and shower/dress
8:00 take DD to get her school lift and walk dog
8:30 - 9:00 start work (from home)
14:00 walk dog for 30 min
17:00 - 18:00 finish work and make dinner or make dinner whilst in my last meeting
18:00 eat & watch current favourite TV show with DP / DD
19:00 - 21:00 dishes, quick tidy, read
21:00 put DD to bed
21:30 go to bed myself
Wednesday evening we go swimming. I have a cleaner weekly. I do laundry during my breaks from work in the day. This week I am sick so doing nothing!

Me, dp and too many cats. Ds is at uni so here intermittently.
Up at 6.30 then 8-4 in a job visiting people in their homes. Usually work additional hours despite all efforts not to. While we are both working full time we employ help in the house and garden and it's completely awesome. Multiple elderly parents, one in a nursing home for whom I'm the main visitor, one in a nursing home I don't often see, others fraying but currently independent, one thankfully died after a relatively short illness as when they were in hospital life was almost impossible.

We both work FT but have a lot of free time, it's not always been like this so I appreciate it everyday. I WFH flexibly, (workload dependent) and my kids are older so no longer have to rush to school, nursery and then crawl in traffic to get to work. DH works shifts 4 days on/ 6 off so is home a lot to get stuff done. We share all chores, on his days off he'll do most of it. When he's working I'll get stuff done in my breaks during the day.

A busy day for me where DH is working would be:
5.15am: DH up and out for 5.30 to start his 6-6 job.
8.15am: Get up, showered, make up, dressed in gym kit, freshly brewed coffee. Laundry on, empty Dishwasher, bread maker on (dough setting), prep soup machine for lunch, defrost meat for dinner.
9.00am: start work.
10.30am: hang laundry out, switch soup maker on, make dough into bread rolls ready to bake.
Lunchtime: bake bread rolls in oven, eat fresh soup and bread for lunch. Prep dinner. Supermarket delivery, walk dog.
Anytime between 2 and 4.30pm: finish work dependent on workload and go to the gym.
5.30pm home, start dinner, shower.
6.15pm DH home, eat dinner, clean kitchen, dishwasher on, bring laundry in.
Until 9.30 ish we all do our own thing, gaming/ homework/ home spa night/ watch tv or YouTube/ read / walk dog/ kids out with friends.
9.30pm DD2 bed, I watch a boxset with DD1 or DH until bed at 11pm.

When he's off shift, DH will do the home chores, laundry, shopping, cleaning etc, leaving me to work.

House is generally tidy, Dh vacuums once a week, I polish surfaces. I clean bathrooms Sat morning it takes 10 mins whilst I have a face mask on. I don't iron and try to keep on top of stuff.

Any admin is dealt with immediately, appts booked as soon as I can and in calendar ASAP, removes the headspace. I book my beauty treatments ( nails/ wax/ brows/ lvl lashes ) at lunchtime, avgs one every other week. My hair takes longer than an hour so that's done on a Fri evening.

Weekends are free to gym, chill, see family, days out etc.

Me, two year old and four year old. Absolutely horrendous time. Basically just work and struggle to manage the kids and get to bed at 9pm, only to do multiple wakes in the night and then wake at 6am and then repeat. I feel little to no joy. I love them but my 4 year old isn't chilling out and my 2 year old is coming in his prime terrible two years. Hoping things get better because I'm exhausted and at my wits end.

I imagine involved g/parents also helps!