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To wonder what you do when you can do longer manhandle a dc …

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howeveridivide · 17/07/2024 13:14

OK manhandle is a bit strong.

So this morning we all overslept a bit so I’m rushing and hurried. Ds (aged 3) is refusing to get dressed so I say ok … I’ll get dd dressed and then sort you. Still refuses after I’ve got dd ready so say a couple of times (and I actually say look ds I don’t want to drag you around) but no joy so I have to force him. And it’s horrible, I hate doing it but I can’t really be late.

But … what happens if that same situation and ds isnt 3 but 8, or 9? Or is he going to be a bit more reasonable by then?

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howeveridivide · 17/07/2024 13:21

But how did you get her in the car? I guess this is what I’m wondering … I already struggle to physically lift ds so not sure I’ll be able to at 8, especially if he’s resisting!

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DrRiverSong · 17/07/2024 13:20

Age 8 ish my child refused to get dressed for school so I took her in her pyjamas with uniform in a bag. She needed up getting changed in the car when she realised I’d go through with taking her in not dressed. She’s not done it again.

edit to Finish

Just be consistent and make sure once they’re at the age you can’t do it for them anymore they understand the rules and boundaries and know if you offer a consequence you follow through.

Yousaidwhatagain · 17/07/2024 13:17

At that age i would distract him with something and get him changed. But at 8 or 9 I wouldn't tolerate that nonsense and there will be firm consequences for that.