DD 4 and a half constantly repeating her desires on holiday

why on earth wouldn’t you just let her get in? Can she swim? We have a pool at home (not UK) and my kids are in it from morning til night from September - April, it’s a built-in babysitter .

My LO only two and we’re just realising we can’t tell her about something in the future, ie in morning that we’re going on payday in afternoon. Got her to choose her bed for her new big girl room…but it doesn’t arrive till August and she’s asking about it all the time now 🤦‍♀️lesson learnt

Your child is FOUR and you haven't yet trained your brain to make you say "I know! Well done! I can't wait either!" and all the other things, without you actually having to pay attention?!

Shame on you

I jest of course, it is irritating but I think I'd just grit my teeth and respond with "in a little while" or similar each time.

Or, if possible, direct her to daddy

Ha ha yes me too. I lie in at home but on holiday I'm sat waiting for everyone to get up and get out. Hotel breakfast is my main motivation to get up, despite not eating breakfast at home I love a breakfast buffet! In hindsight I'm probably very annoying on holiday.

This. At Christmas we had some presents in bed first thing but the rest had to wait until the adults had had breakfast, endless coffee, endless chatting, clearing up breakfast things, more flaming coffee then finally the actual presents. I'm 59 and I still remember the frustration. As a adult holiday breakfasts are part of the pleasure . When you're 5 you just want to neck a quick banana and get in the fabulous pool.

Teach her the clock, great time to learn the skill. The pool opens at 10 is a clear instruction, show her, draw a picture of 10 ... means she's learning too

For christ's sake, it isn't about not expressing their wishes,, it's the language used.
'May I have' rather than 'I want'
It isn't that hard

If you've got your own pool then I don't see the issue. I'm sure it's hot, I'd be wanting to get in for a dip too.

'fair enough', so perhaps direct your comments at the people who have told you to give in and let her in the pool or allow her to moan (all things I haven't said) and not at myself who replied to one person about their methods. ...just enjoy your holiday and tune out from moaning, and Mumsnet!

Again, my comment relates to not adding time on to a timer, there are more effective ways of dealing with a moaning child. I have one too, I know! I don't agree with sticking them on a tablet because I can't be bothered. I haven't said they shouldn't have to wait, have I?

I haven't said anything about pandering, or not, to a child, giving into everything, or even that they should be allowed to moan all day or just get in the pool when they want. I commented on the fact I think adding time to a timer is mean. There's a hundred other ways to deal with a moaning child (excitable child) . Talking to them for one.
Direct your comments at others who are saying just get in the pool.

Well, they also mention googles, that it's hot and this is early morning it will progress! I'm years into this parenting malarkey and I guess if you have one child you can pander to them but then don't get annoyed if they continue to be annoying.

@napkinbear could you go to the supermarket and choose a couple of holiday presents together? Something new she can play with in the mornings etc? DS is nearly 4 and we bought him a coffee set and some new cars he could zoom around.
Or get some fun stuff for breakfast she's not usually allowed.

It's not a case of giving into anything though is it. They're going to go swimming, the child is excited and by all accounts the mum just wants her to sit on her tablet and be quiet. It's a holiday, lighten up and enjoy the excitement.

She's four, she's excited, don't dampen her joy. In a blink of an eye she'll be a teenager sulking in her room not wanting to do anything. Enjoy these times with her, you'll never get them back.

There will be time limits on when the pool is open just let her count down to that . Surely breakfast is exciting too .. all the interesting yummy choices so can you get her talking about what she’s going to pick

They don't!

It's mumsnet fantasy land of how they wish things REALLY were.

Breakfast before pool is essential, as swimming {Or even just being in cold water burns a lot of calories}

When DD was that age and on holiday I just gritted my teeth and threw my swimsuit on at 7am or even earlier and went straight to the pool with her. By the time we'd had our swim and got back to the room, DH was just about dressed and ready for us all to go to breakfast together. After breakfast it was his turn to go to the pool with her and my turn for some peace and quiet! But it is relentless with a 4 year old on holiday, I know.

I understand her need to go to the pool!

The pool or lake was always my favourite thing on holiday {Often a lake, as parents camped}

{Supervising near water can be hard work, as all eyes need to be on a young child, but most kids love water}

No way Jose here. We'll spend all day in the pool happily, but I'll be having a quick shower, putting on my suncream (and theirs obviously), eating breakfast and having a coffee first at an absolute minimum. Pool by, what, 9:30? Until time to wash and change for dinner, that's plenty.

Not to mention a family with small children can't just apparate from bed to pool, there's a quick bit of organising etc to be done first.

It's not " very worrying " fgs. What, you gonna call social services and get OPs parenting examined? Why do some people around here so like to make a pointless drama out of a reasonable question?

Love the advice about engaging in conversation, it works with my little guy, instead of saying, no after breakfast or whatever.