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3yo DD keeps saying something really weird

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Pancakepipsqueak · 16/07/2024 21:13

I have a 3 year old (4 in sept) who I shared 50:50 custody with my ex.
she’s started a weird exchange a few times that goes
“hey mummy, guess what”
”what”
”AIDs” then she’ll giggle.
my response is always “that’s an odd thing to say?” Or something similar. Tonight I texted my ex about it and he said “yeah 😂”
turns out he’s been saying it to her? I’ve said I don’t find it appropriate and wouldn’t want her saying it to the childminder or other children. He called me “moral high ground grand wizard” and attacked me basically.
I will say, he’s a teacher, we’re 33. It just seems like such a juvenile joke that isn’t appropriate and is offensive?
was I BU bringing it up? Am I overreacting and this is hilarious?

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YouJustDoYou · 16/07/2024 21:19

My 11 year old is more mature than him. Fucking idiot.

AllTipAndNoIceberg · 16/07/2024 21:19

That’s actually so troubling. He’s treating her like some kind of joke novelty toy that he can make say things, instead of like a person.

Where is the care or love for her in what he’s doing?

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Pancakepipsqueak · 16/07/2024 21:19

MissUltraViolet · 16/07/2024 21:16

I must be missing the 'joke'.

Glad he's your ex. Tell him to grow up and be a decent parent instead of an immature twat that's going to get your DD in trouble one day when she starts shouting this stuff in front of other children, parents and teachers.

My thoughts exactly!!

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Pancakepipsqueak · 16/07/2024 21:18

Needmorelego · 16/07/2024 21:18

What is it that's she's actually trying to say?
"Aids" wouldn't mean anything to a 3 year old.

She’s definitely saying “AIDS”. It doesn’t mean anything to her, she’s just parroting her dad’s “joke”. He’s confirmed the joke is “AIDS”

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Needmorelego · 16/07/2024 21:18

What is it that's she's actually trying to say?
"Aids" wouldn't mean anything to a 3 year old.

MissUltraViolet · 16/07/2024 21:16

I must be missing the 'joke'.

Glad he's your ex. Tell him to grow up and be a decent parent instead of an immature twat that's going to get your DD in trouble one day when she starts shouting this stuff in front of other children, parents and teachers.

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Pancakepipsqueak · 16/07/2024 21:16

Lavenderblossoms · 16/07/2024 21:15

Wow and he's a teacher?

He should know better. Who knows who she could say it to. I would react the same way. He's an absolute nob.

Yep, been a teacher for 10 years now secondary school. He’s always been immature humour wise, but this I just find bizarre

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Lavenderblossoms · 16/07/2024 21:15

Wow and he's a teacher?

He should know better. Who knows who she could say it to. I would react the same way. He's an absolute nob.