3yo DD keeps saying something really weird

Does he mean HIV?

Why on earth is he talking to a young child about this?

He sounds really strange.

I would be as annoyed as you OP. What a complete twat.

For context I am similar age to your husband and this "joke" was said frequently by teenage boys in my class mid noughties. I'm based in NW and was definitely a (moronic) thing then.

I agree with PPs, the "joke" doesn't even make sense as a joke. Of course there's nothing funny about AIDS, but if your ex thinks this odd exchange actually constitutes a joke, he clearly doesn't understand humour. I hope he doesn't teach English or any other subject in the humanities.

Also, could I request that you stick to your original username for this thread? It makes it much easier to identify your posts.

Just bizarre. I don't see how in any shape or form that's a joke. Really strange behaviour.

I'd be so tempted to report him to safeguarding. What a vile thing to say, I cannot comprehend how anyone thinks that's a joke, never mind teaching it to a 3 year old. I think it genuinely is a safeguarding issue.

Wildly homophonic of your ex. He wouldn’t think cancer was a joke, but a disease associated with gay people is…

I don't think I'd be telling my 3 year old any details about what it means tbh. I think 3 is old enough to be upset and disturbed by the thought of people dying, but not old enough to absorb a full explanation that manages any fear it might cause iyswim. I think I'd keep it simple OP with "don't say that DD it's not a nice word or a funny one to anyone but daddy, and daddy is being very silly" and correct her everytime she says it. Unfortunately your hands are tied with regards to what he allows or encourages on his watch if you cant reason with him as an adult. I wish you luck with it, because this is just the start.

It doesn't even come under juvenile, it's just fucking weird.

BTW the Brass Eye joke is fine, it's mocking media hypocrisy over the reporting of AIDS, that's not what your ex is doing

Yes, that's wizard comment is just soooo juvenile. Has his development stalled as a 15 year old?

Not surprised in the slightest that he’s a teacher. He can call you whatever he likes, he knows you’re right, and that it’s awful. That’s why he’s deflecting.

Were 33 but I think he has seen this so maybe that is the source

Might do the joke to him with the condition that killed our son at 6 months in replace of AIDS. See how well that goes down?

Oh my goodness why the hell is he teaching her that?

He's absolutely stupid.
I would be absolutely furious

I'd pretend to be a parent and complain to his school saying my child had repeated it. See how funny it is when he has to explain it to his boss.

I can't see how it is a joke at all. I can't see any way of looking at it that seems in the least humorous. I agree with others that it is very weird. Does he interchange the disease? Cancer? Leukemia? Sudden Infant Death Syndrome?

I’ve screenshot it. I sent it to some friends to get their opinion on it but no reply hence me posting here.

And he was dumb enough to admit that in a text? Make sure you back it up, you might need it one day.

I would be careful about explaining to her what AIDS is because it will potentially be very upsetting and confusing for her to realise that the little joke she has going with daddy is actually vile and sick, as an adult I can't really understand what the fuck he is playing at so I don't think she'll have much of a chance making sense of it. You run the risk of upsetting her, damaging their relationship and really bruising her trust and sense of innocence (nothing wrong with explaining what AIDS is in a normal context obvs but I wouldn't introduce it like this). He's a teacher so I would simply explain to him by text that if he doesn't knock that fucking bullshit on the head right away and explain to his daughter why 'jokes' like that are not funny and wrong, you are going to show his messages to the safeguarding lead at her school and his. And mean it.

I know a few of the cartoons (Family Guy and Southpark, probably others), have AIDS "bits". I guess a sort of its-so-not-funny-its-funny type shock joke. Not particularly my cup of tea. Fine for your ex, if that's what he likes. Definitely not fine for a little girl! There's a reason those cartoons are for adults, and you wouldn't get Blippi or Peter Rabbit making that sort of joke.

Perhaps your ex is trying to get a rise from you? I think the idea from a PP about explaining what AIDS is, is a good idea. My 3yo now tells his Dad to wash fruit if HD forgets, or reminds him to use his "indoor" voice. Not that these are comparable! I just mean that 3yo can develop a sense of what's "right", and (seemingly enjoy) correcting adults.

Maybe it's the same idiot that works at a secondary school I go into for work...he was always making stupid jokes including an unkind one about a pupil.
There's quite afew blokes like that in secondary schools unfortunately.
And getting a 3yo to say it?! That's just so weird....

My problem is she will got back to her dads on Saturday and he may reinforce it at his?