3yo DD keeps saying something really weird

I don't get the joke, is there something I'm missing?

Christ alive, what an absolute weirdo he is. And as for Moral High Ground Grand Wizard.....I'd rather be that than a complete fucking arsehole.

Is that a Brass Eye reference?

OP has your ex been watching Rick and Morty with your daughter by any chance? It crops up a lot in that cartoon.

This whole story's bonkers! Now you've explained to a small child about the disease called AIDS, you could be in for some interesting moments as she encounters the far more common use of the word "aids".

I mean, it seems you correctly divined XP's intention because you know he's a bit of a dickhead, but he's not going to stop being a dickhead and the actual complaint is that your daughter currently finds the word "aids" funny. It's not as if he taught her "bumsex" or something 🤷🏻‍♀️

What? So parents can't be teachers?
Childcare most likely....like the rest of working parents....

When is his birthday?

Maybe he is hinting he wants a course of Ayds. The appetite suppressant toffees from the 1970s

In that case, I would speak to nursery. Tell them you are giving them a heads up, that your dd may say it, you realise it is v inappropriate but that her father taught her it and reinforces it. See if they see it as a safe guarding issue, I would.
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Just when I think I've read the peak of bizarre, this pops up. How very VERY odd.

Good AIDS? As in Kitchen Aid? Otherwise, wtf?!

I’m sorry you are dealing with this, op. But your DD is lucky that she has you on her side as a more thoughtful, reflective parent than her dad seems to be.

Maybe he’ll grow up a bit in time 😒

I agree for the most part - I do like Southpark and particularly American Dad. Personally I still cringe at the AIDS "bits" - they're not for me. Maybe I'm misunderstanding the joke, but don't find those particular bits funny. Either way I'd argue that a three year old wouldn't get the nuance, so it's still inappropriate. And it would sound awful coming from such a little child too, imo. Like how I wouldn't bat an eye at an adult swearing, but would be shocked at a small child exclaiming "Fuck me! I wasn't expecting that!!", for example.

This is like something from Beavis and Butthead that teenage boys in the 90s would laugh at when high. Why on earth would he say this to a 3yo?!

You do you. He needs public shaming.

The same way any parent in full time employment can do 50:50

In fact it's probably easier given all the holidays and shorter hours

Does he have form for anything else like this? Is he one of those idiots who thinks pranking their kids and putting the videos on socials is a good idea? I’d be keeping an eye on this as it’s borderline abusive - getting a little child to say inappropriate words is horrible and not the work of a kind or loving parent.

Can you teach her to say 'my dad is a dickhead'

I'm joking obviously before anyone tells me off 😂

I wouldn’t do that. Throwing it open to such a broad audience, you could well get people minimising what he’s done as much as supporting it. It wouldn’t help, might make things worse, and either way you would lose the moral high ground.

Taking toxic disputes over poor parenting onto social media is generally a pretty terrible idea.

That is the thing that struck me. He cannot explain how that is funny. He cannot make it funny, because it is not. Unless making a baby say inappropriate things is funny. And you have to be pretty fucking twisted to think that.

Show him this thread op.

Your ex hasn’t got any wild ideas about becoming a stand up comic has he.

Yes sorry, op, I honestly didn’t mean to berate you. Just felt like other pps were getting hung up on the issue of styles of humour, and it was distracting from the actual problem you are faced with.

I don’t know what you can do about his attitude; perhaps nothing. But I guess it is still worth being able to set out clearly why it really does matter, and what it says about the way your ex views his dd — in case you end up in a situation where you need to explain it to somebody else.

I mean, his role is to protect her. She is little more than a baby. What he is doing instead is manipulating her, pranking her almost. The opposite of keeping her safe and protected.

You may find you get a lot of this, my daughter comes home randomly parroting something her father has said that is utter crap....i usually pull a face and gently explain what i think....and say daddys being silly. Shes 6 yrs old now. Shes got the flavour of him and isnt a mouthpeice for his immaturity. I personally wouldnt explain what AIDS in detail is at that age and what a shame he has put this word in her vocabulary when shes too young to explain too. If it were me I would just say "not sure what daddy finds that funny, its not, its an illness, no need to repeat it again, silly daddy" thats how id deal personally. Agree with the other poster about telling him to pack it in, what would employer think about it.

These cartoons definitely trade in shock humour but it's not shocking or crass or whatever for the sake of it. They indulge in a good bit of social & political commentary, and nothing is sacred. It's very effective. The AIDS bits, I think, are very much meant to highlight that AIDS still carries stigma & it's still somewhat taboo to some people. It's those people that these cartoons mock.