I've been on mn for a while and have read so many heartbreaking and/or enraging posts about deadbeat partners. I really don't want to be writing my own some years down the line. Does anyone have any advice for specific red flags or boundaries to pay attention to?
My bf (32) and I (34) have been together 2 years. We have discussed living together soon. I own my own home while he rents so it would be a question of him moving in with me (he suggested finding a new place together, but I don't want to leave my flat). He's a lovely person, very kind, but also e.g. much less confident about cooking than I am (lives off ready meals and take out) and more tolerant to mess.
I absolutely don't want to end up in a dynamic where he is "helping" me to cook and clean in the home we share. Especially not if we end up having kids.
I guess I'm asking if there are things I can do from day one that would help head that off. Since it is originally my home, how can I encourage him to see it as also his responsibility as soon as he's moved in? Financially I'll be responsible for all repairs etc but I mean the general housekeeping work needed everyday?