Is this weird or am I rude and unsociable?!

I've found my perfect neighbour. Can we live next to each other please? We sound a match made in heaven.

I'm always checking who is outside before I go out, and cringe if I see neighbours out when I'm coming back. I can't be arsed 😂

I think mine must have moved to your road. The worked in a pair, like a very down-market double act inspired by Hyacinth Bucket.

So…how are my in laws

At best this can be bothersome. At worst these people could be people you really don't want to know.

I had a pair of them when I moved to the street where I now live. The began as quaint and quirky, quickly turned to bothersome, and ended up being very nasty.

They were of working age, but a whole load of circumstances meant they didn't. I could list them all, I won't, as it's very outing and above all boring. It was all about them, and to say they projected would be an understatement.

I thought I was tolerating them well. Sometimes my ability to empathise was less-so than others (such as when I got out my car after working ten hours, only to have one of them tell me how their benefits had been cut), but I always made the effort.

The rot set in when one of them said for the umpteenth time "all the neighbour talk about us", to which one day I said "well, if they do, they're not saying it to me. But then you and me, we're really quite alike". She asked how so. I said "well, we're just not interesting people". Thus in effect, I brought it on myself.

God, that’s insufferable. We have neighbours like this and it’s very stressful. They’re incapable of just saying a quick hello and want a long chat every single time.

When I leave my house, I’m usually rushing on the school run, rushing to work or to an appointment. They seem offended if I cut them off saying I was in a rush.

Even quickly darting outside to the recycling is painful in case they’re there - I always look out the kitchen window beforehand but they are known to suddenly appear if they hear you outside!

I'd jump in a hedge to get away from them.

I have LOVELY neighbours who are exactly like this and I always check the windows first before going out to the drive. I've even dived back in the front door when I've seen them coming out. They really are so sweet, but I haven't got the time or the desire (unsociable as I am) to have a half hour chat every time I see them. I'm a nod and say hello neighbour. We are looking to sell in the next few years and will be going detached!! It's definitely me and not them.

And this is why I'm desperately searching for a house with no neighbours! And knocking on my door about stuff, like any excuse to be a friendly helpful neighbour. Very kind and all that but I like my peace and privacy.

They were, but I've forgotten what it was.

I think all areas have one like this. Ours is a lady who tells everyone all about her grown up children and how well they are doing and what their houses are decorated like and what illness they suffer from. She lectures at length and barely takes a breath. No one ever sees these grown up children, I think they avoid visiting!

Definitely a ninja dive to the floor that like. My next door neighbour is a bit like that. I don't mind sometimes but I don't have the time she does.

Their names will be on their parcel…

We'd get on @Bertsmum22 but mainly because we'd say hello, maybe a quick chat, then bye bye. I like boundaries, I let people in once I'm sure about them but until then it's a quick chat, no disclosures and absolutely no uninvited guests. Experience has taught me there are some people you should always keep at arm's length

I'm all for being polite to neighbours, but you don't owe them entertainment. Neither is it necessary to be best friends with someone just because you happen to live in the same area. However I'm probably weird and unsociable too as I've lived at current address for well over a decade and have no idea what any of my neighbour's names is. I'm on brief nod and smile terms with next door one side, as we sometimes put the bins out or arrive home at the same time, and have taken parcels in for each other. Next door the other side helped us find one of our cats when he was lost for a month, but that was a while ago and I'm fairly sure they've moved since...

I would do the same.
We lived next door to people like this, they were constantly out side, or so it seemed, and always wanted a chat.
it got to the point I would wait til they stepped inside or had their back turned before dashing out to the car so I could get in quick.
I don’t want to chat every time I open my front door. It was a relief when they moved tbh.