Brown haired white kids never in photos

Exactly, it's not acceptable anymore! I'm sure it still happens but less people tolerate it.

I guarantee in a room of people if you made a negative comment about redheads it would be challenged more than if you made a negative comment about blondes. People are aware that negativity towards redheads happens and isn't acceptable, can't say the same thing for blondes.

I have noticed this with clothes catalogues, and I am in Spain, loads of blonde kids that need braces. My daughter is blonde, but she is a minority. About 80% of the catalogue kids are blonde. This is a Spanish retailer.
But, I have not noticed this in the school prospectus at all. There is quite a mix.

Strange, I haven’t experienced this and my DD has dark brown hair and pale skin. Our school is very diverse though so maybe that’s why.

You say there aren't many black children "because racism" but could it not be because it's proportionate to the number in the school? If there are twice as many white kids in the school, surely this is fine to be reflected in the prospectus.

Why do people read into everything and find problems that aren't there?

Absolutely! It’s incredible to me that ‘Blonde moment’ / ‘Am I being blonde’ comments are still acceptable in professional settings, but I have heard them frequently throughout my career even in high-level management meetings.

It’s a mix here with younger children but by the time they reach secondary school the blonde hair has turned brown in many cases.

My kids have tanned skin and are very fair haired- but their inability to sit still and lack of willingness to smile on cue I presume is the reason they aren’t in photos whilst friends with other hair colours often are!

I have both blonde and mousey brown haired children, if anything between them the mousey brown child is photographed considerably more and included within club team and school things - she’s simply more photogenic even though the blonde child is more traditionally beautiful. This is likely more you picking up on something that has bothered you than it being a wide spread thing

My son's hair is thick and dark brown/ black. He has very pale skin. I just don't see this as the desired aesthetic. The world still goes mad for blonde children.
I think you sound a bit precious. Why do you care if your dc is on the school website? I know only one mum in RL who thinks like you, her dc have brown hair, she's a proud blonde (her words) and she deludes herself that other kids get selected for opportunities cos they're blonde. If this is true, she must have 'benefitted' from such a bias herself as a kid as she is blonde. She is angry that her dc who are perfectly lovely do not get the recognition she wants, apparently. Of course it's all mad, she's imagining it, has an envious streak and is a Very Competitive Mum. 🙎

I'm sure redheads everywhere will be fascinated to hear it's actually blonde hair which is openly mocked and disliked

Our mixed race DGS appeared on a page illustrating very studious pupils. We were rather surprised, but pleased.

I’m not in the UK but in my dd’s school photos there was basically not a single child who wasn’t blonde. I think one or two adopted children with dark hair.

Just looked at my dd's school prospectus and this is not the case! A real mix but mainly brown haired white kids

Looking at the photos on our website. Front photo, strawberry blonde girl,
then mousey blonde child with Asian child and mixed heritage child,
then blonde child with dark haired white teacher,
then blonde teacher with blonde child,
then a mixed class of girls,
then an Asian child with a black child,
then a mousey brown haired white kid (mine),
then a black child, a brown haired white child and a blonde teacher.

I'm not seeing any bias here.
11 kids.

1 strawberry blonde white child,
2 blonde children,
1 mousey blonde white child,
1 mousey brown white child,
1 dark haired white child,
2 dark haired Asian children,
1 dark haired mixed heritage child,
2 dark haired black child.

For full disclosure, the red headed child is in the back of my sins photo but you can't tell his hair colour.

Yep, it's a thing. I was the dark-haired one of my siblings. The bias is of course nowhere near what people of other races and ethnicities go through every day, but it doesn't mean that that bias isn't sometimes there. I distinctly remember an adult telling one of my parents that it was a shame I wasn't blonde like my other siblings, when I was about 7.

Can't say I've ever noticed this. I have very dark hair and pale skin, and my DS has mousy hair tan skin and brown eyes.

Just looked at the school I work at both senior and prep - loads of brown haired white kids. Sorry!

I think that’s just chance or confirmation bias. You see plenty of brown-haired white children in advertising etc.

I disagree. In the prospectus’s I’ve seen that didn’t stand out to me. TBF, I didn’t pay that much attention as I was too just reading the writing but certainly nothing stood out to me. I certainly don’t think they pick out a certain looking child.

I will also add being blonde doesn’t make you attractive facially. It’s the same with adults, being blonde doesn’t make someone pretty at all.

Very few people are truly naturally blonde as adults and even when they’re teenagers. The blondest children can turn mouses brown by the time they hit secondary so again, anyone can be blonde, you just need to get it bleached.

Assuming you are in the UK, that seems like a pretty fair representation of a UK school

I'm guessing it isn't a Catholic school then?

I am also white and dark haired and have NEVER felt under represented 😂😂

Not my experience at all. I have very dark brown hair and grey eyes. I spent the 80s playing Mary every Christmas both at school and church (multiple schools/churchs as dad was in the military). I was Snow White a lot including in a play we put on as a joint guides/scouts thing. I also featured in the prospectus of every secondary I attended, playing hockey, cross country, debating etc.

My youngest has my hair colouring and eyes. Can't say I've noticed any difference in the way people treat her compared to the way they treat her blue eyed blond big brother.

Yes....white dark haired and a ginger....still never noticed anything like that

I wasn’t allowed to be an angel in my nativity play because I had dark hair. The school only
chose blond children.