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Brown haired white kids never in photos

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StevieChicks · 16/07/2024 12:00

Just that really.
Seen the new school prospectus. Beautiful blond children everywhere, front cover and throughout, a few mixed race children, fewer black and Asian students (because racism) but without a doubt the least photographed children are kids like mine. Children with naturally brown, mousey or dark brown hair.
It's not the same as racism and I would not for a second think that this trivial matter is in any way similar to other discourses around representation. And maybe I have a chip on my shoulder from the eighties when I was never a Disney princess and had to be the evil witch. It doesn't feel like much has changed.
My son's hair is thick and dark brown/ black. He has very pale skin. I just don't see this as the desired aesthetic. The world still goes mad for blonde children.

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Seas164 · 16/07/2024 12:56

No, it's not the same as racism, and yes, you might have a chip on your shoulder.

There are plenty of underrepresented groups, but brown haired white children aren't really one of them.

Welshwabbit · 16/07/2024 12:54

90% of the kids at my children's primary school are black. My white, brown haired kid was in one of the main photos on the website for 2 years.

Horsesontheloose · 16/07/2024 12:54

This is a new one for me. I have a black haired brown eye girl and a blonde haired blue eye boy. Never noticed anything like this!

FateReset · 16/07/2024 12:53

It varies area to area! If there're a lot of Anglo-Saxon or Viking genes in local population I guess there are more kids with light hair?

Blonde haired kids often darken later in childhood so what you see as over-representation of blondes is likely lots of blondes who haven't turned mousy yet.

Young children with pale skin and dark hair could be less common for above reason... mine have this colouring but I know very few other children with the same skin/hair contrast. Guess it's rarer? As a child in 80s/90s people always complimented my big dark eyes and dark brown hair, probably stood out as exotic!

I actually find pale, fair haired children less cute looking (aware I'm biased).

Marmite27 · 16/07/2024 12:52

Rollercoaster1920 · 16/07/2024 12:24

I'm guessing it isn't a Catholic school then?

Why would this matter?

My kids go to a Catholic school and there are children of all ethnic backgrounds that attend. The only common denominator, (other than human) is their parents choice of religion.

FYI, mine are both brown haired and feature prominently on the schools website.

Kinshipug · 16/07/2024 12:51

My kids school doesn't use any pictures of the kids on the website or prospectus. I guess they must hate them all.

Poolstream · 16/07/2024 12:51

Surely it depends what the demographic is in the school.
@MrsSunshine2b you obviously have acting talent, Olivia Coleman is brown haired and white.

HellsBells67 · 16/07/2024 12:50

Lots of brown haired, pale skinned kids in my ds's school prospectus. The school where he was attacked with a knife, aged 13 and they closed ranks. I could not care less who is in the images.

OnePeachCrow · 16/07/2024 12:50

LutonBeds · 16/07/2024 12:21

I wasn’t allowed to be an angel in my nativity play because I had dark hair. The school only
chose blond children.

You would have been ok at my school! It was only redheads like me who never got to be angels. Not that I'm still bitter!

Devilsmommy · 16/07/2024 12:49

Yazzi · 16/07/2024 12:36

I'm sure redheads everywhere will be fascinated to hear it's actually blonde hair which is openly mocked and disliked

That was my exact thought 😂

Pipsquiggle · 16/07/2024 12:49

I think people can find offence in virtually anything.

Just been on my DC's school website and there is a picture of the chapel - does that mean they discriminate against all DC in favour of buildings?

BobbyBiscuits · 16/07/2024 12:49

My uncle used to work in a private school. When they were doing the prospectus photos they were always using the Asian or black students (there were very very few but they wanted to make it look more I guess) and the blonde attractive white students.
My uncle actually questioned why it looked like they only wanted the 'attractive' students, but was laughed off basically. Of course the other children weren't unattractive. But a lot were indeed brown haired white kids. Bear in mind the vast majority of students were white.

AndILostMyShoe · 16/07/2024 12:49

ClickClack300 · 16/07/2024 12:38

It’s a mix here with younger children but by the time they reach secondary school the blonde hair has turned brown in many cases.

Edited

Ok yeah a mix would be more normal I would have thought, but not in this case. It looked a bit weird. Most blondes here stay fairly blonde though.

MrsSunshine2b · 16/07/2024 12:47

As a person with brown hair and eyes and pale skin, this is one of the silliest things I've ever read. And I got a main part in almost every play I was in at school and continue to be a main part in am dram productions now at 35, not once has my lack of blondeness held me back in any way.

TinkerTiger · 16/07/2024 12:47

Depends...is the school in Sweden? Grin

K0OLA1D · 16/07/2024 12:46

My DS1 is dark haired and white and is the main image on the school website.

girljulian · 16/07/2024 12:46

Are you for real? I've genuinely never noticed this as a thing. I have nearly-black hair and green eyes, it's an unusual combination in this country so I don't expect to see many people with my colouring in prospectuses. Blond people especially in childhood are more common in the south of England. I don't assume people are discriminating against brunettes.

Beth216 · 16/07/2024 12:46

Growing up I was obsessed with the film Annie because there were never ginger haired people on any other tv/films that I saw.

I just looked at DS's primary and secondary school websites and both have lots of brown haired kids, the secondary even has a red head!

Inspireme2 · 16/07/2024 12:46

How school includes all, including your "brown haired white child"
Hey, even a head scarf, too!
Gosh who cares!
Perhaps they were approachable good role model students as well as students/ parents willing to be in the prospectus.
As long as the school does a great job I could not care less!

Ponoka7 · 16/07/2024 12:45

My two youngest are dark hair, olive skin, brown eyes. Could never get birthday cards that didn't have blonde children on, now I'm looking for my lighter GC, I've noticed that it's gone the other way. It's strange that the photographer didn't want a mix, otherwise it can look a bit village of the dammed.

JulySheWillFlyAndGiveNoWarningToHerFlight · 16/07/2024 12:45

I’ve just checked the prospectus for the school I work in, and in the opening video the majority of students shown have brown or light brown hair.

There are more students with red hair than blonde, and more black and more Asian students than either of those.

Onemoreterm · 16/07/2024 12:44

Never any redheads in my last school’s prospectus (or ginger as another poster listed)

MargaretThursday · 16/07/2024 12:44

Ours chooses the children on the basis of who will listen, do what they're asked without giggling or look embarrassed in photos.

ImustLearn2Cook · 16/07/2024 12:43

ShinyPebble32 · 16/07/2024 12:38

Absolutely! It’s incredible to me that ‘Blonde moment’ / ‘Am I being blonde’ comments are still acceptable in professional settings, but I have heard them frequently throughout my career even in high-level management meetings.

Growing up in the 80’s blonde jokes were widespread and common. All blonde jokes were about blond people (particularly women) being incredibly stupid.

Cinocino · 16/07/2024 12:43

Brown haired white kids never in photos

Total reach.