child wee'd on rug

Tabby. What sort of idiot lets their untrained child sit on a nice rug in someone else’s house with no nappy?

Have you tried a Rug Doctor.

I would offer to replace if my toddler did it. But because I know I'd do this I also wouldn't
Let a toddler without a nappy on sit on anything expensive looking or soft furnishings!

Why would she let an untrained toddler out without a baby?

She's just teaching them it's ok to piss your pants.

You’re not unreasonable to be annoyed. And I would have done exactly the same as you - been honest, but not accepted payment/replacement.

I had a very similar situation actually, when my nephew weed on my rug and his parents blamed my guinea pigs. In the end I binned the rug and got in a French polisher to restore the damaged wooden floor underneath. It wasn’t a cheap fix but in the interests of family harmony I chose to let it go.

She is disgusting for allowing it to happen, but OP is guilty for making light of it and not making her pay for it when the replacement was offered.

presumably it was blotted almost immediately though
i can’t understand how it’s stained tbh

Easier to say in hindsight, but could you not have encouraged the 2yo to sit somewhere besides the posh wool rug??? Your own kids have heard the message not to spill anything on it, yet you were happy to let a toddler sit and play on it???

Awkward that you acknowledged the residual stain without accepting anything from her. And she should have said outright that the child is not yet fully toilet-trained/not in nappy!

You were right to be honest, but yes, you should have asked her to pay for the cleaning bill. Perhaps different if her child were potty trained but had an unexpected accident. But to allow your child who isn’t potty trained to be nappy-free in somebody else’s home is just rude, ridiculous, selfish and downright stupid!
We’ve recently gone through potty training with my 2yo and he’s pretty much consistent now unless really tired, but I’m always still so nervous and therefore extra cautious about ensuring he goes to the potty fairly regularly if we’re at someone else’s home. We didn’t go to anybody else’s home and stuck with outdoor meet-ups until I felt confident he was doing well with it all.

No, she needed to know that letting her child wee on your rug caused damage. Hopefully she will now think twice about letting her child do that in people’s homes. If you’d lied, she wouldn’t know and would definitely carry on regardless. You did the right thing.

What parent just leaves a nappy off but isn't potty training then goes out letting child wee everywhere? Is this some new level of nuttery? I'd have billed her.

Read it again, she has offered to replace and the OP declined.

It's actually a rug made up of circles so actually if someone wee d in all the circles it would look the same :):)

Invite her and her toddler back for numerous coffees and sit the child in a different circle every time!

Not always unfortunately

It's actually a rug made up of circles so actually if someone wee d in all the circles it would look the same :):)

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Don't worry about it, at least you said it's nearly come out!

White vinegar should help wash it out completely, you could also try the enzyme sprays for pet wee if there's a lingering smell.

Urine could affect both the wool fibre and the natural dye. It is slightly acidic.

Natural dyes are less easy to fix than a synthetic dye.

Now you've got to clean the rest of your rug so it's the same colour

Kinder to lie and say it's not visible, as you would if a friend accidentally spilt coffee or wine on your rug, or got an embarrassing bloodstain on the sofa.
Why embarrass her further, only to refuse to let her pay to have it cleaned/replaced?

Toddlers do have accidents when not fully potty trained, if she'd been expecting to be invited in I'm sure she'd have put a nappy on just in case.
I think when you invite a toddler into your home you accept the risk they could wee or have a nappy leak or throw up, they have less control over bodily functions than us!

You did the right thing, I wouldn't be happy with a child wee on one of my rugs either.

Taking a child into someone's home without potty training or a nappy is careless. What did she think would happen when the child needed to go to the toilet?

It doesn't matter than she offered to replace it. She's still a numpty (and unreasonable) for allowing an untrained toddler to go nappy free in someone's home without prior warning.

I'm baffled by parents that deliberately do that with children not toilet trained - it's so rude!

A few years ago I had someone visit who had a child a year younger than mine who wasn't toilet trained, but turned up without any nappy on - or change of clothes! The child (obviously) had numerous accidents, each time the mother asked to borrow some of DS's pants for her daughter . When she went home she handed me the several pairs of pissy pants back, rather than taking them home and washing them herself 😡

So no, you're not being unreasonable to be annoyed, there's no need for that sort of behavior.