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To do my make up on the train?

317 replies

northchesterforest · 16/07/2024 08:05

Does it bother you when you see people doing this? If so, why?

OP posts:
AngeloMysterioso · 16/07/2024 19:47

CoffeeCantata · 16/07/2024 18:56

But that's not a reasonable analogy. Watching TV or a film can be a social activity and not personal or intimate in the same way.

I don't want to find myself in what is effectively someone's boudoir while making the morning commute! It's really bad manners to make other people endure your personal grooming routines.

Your pearl clutching is hilarious.

It’s make up FFS, not masturbating or bikini waxing!

myusernamewastakenbyme · 16/07/2024 19:21

Im a woman and i wear make up but i could not apply it in public...im not sure why i just think its better done at home in private...i cringe when i see other women doing theirs in public.

CoffeeCantata · 16/07/2024 18:56

SamW98 · 16/07/2024 18:20

Agree with you. Its dead time so use it to do something useful like makeup.

Honestly im shocked how many are so bothered by something that doesn’t affect them at all. Are they as bothered by someone reading or watching a movie on the train? After all you could do both of those at home

But that's not a reasonable analogy. Watching TV or a film can be a social activity and not personal or intimate in the same way.

I don't want to find myself in what is effectively someone's boudoir while making the morning commute! It's really bad manners to make other people endure your personal grooming routines.

5128gap · 16/07/2024 18:27

No. If I can manage it discreetly i enjoy watching. Very interesting to observe other women's routines and see the transformations. But I'm nosy like that.

SamW98 · 16/07/2024 18:20

Krumblina · 16/07/2024 18:14

But why when I have to get the train and sit there for an hour?

Agree with you. Its dead time so use it to do something useful like makeup.

Honestly im shocked how many are so bothered by something that doesn’t affect them at all. Are they as bothered by someone reading or watching a movie on the train? After all you could do both of those at home

Krumblina · 16/07/2024 18:14

Allfur · 16/07/2024 16:41

So if it's just 5 mins, can't you get up 5 mins earlier?

But why when I have to get the train and sit there for an hour?

MillshakePickle · 16/07/2024 17:51

I saw someone doing their make up on a packed 07.28 to London Waterloo, actually made me smile.

My first thought was covid is a distance memory. It was nice to see something from before times.

I used to do mine on the train, but have since worked it into my morning routine and feel fresher and less hassled with 20 mins less sleep and full face paint on.

I'd prefer someone doing make up to nails or listening to a dull podcast or hearing about other people's weekends.

HermioneHerman · 16/07/2024 17:45

Allfur · 16/07/2024 16:41

So if it's just 5 mins, can't you get up 5 mins earlier?

Spectacularly missing the point but then self-righteous people on MN always do!

I already get up very early, have hugely hectic mornings that don't always go to plan but should also be building time in to accommodate the unnecessarily judgemental sensitivities of random people on the train who don't even know why they don't like it and are in no way affected? I'm discreet and travel from a semi rural station with not loads of others around. But their comfort is more important than mine for no discernable reason? Okay then 🙄.

AngeloMysterioso · 16/07/2024 17:40

I always used to do mine on my commute. I see it as a rather sensible use of time personally. Why make myself get up earlier to do it at home when I had roughly half an hour of otherwise dead time on the tube? I’d rather have the extra sleep! And I always had wet wipes and sanitizer to clean my hands with afterwards.

Linlithgow · 16/07/2024 17:35

I always do this when travelling to London, my train leaves at 6am and I'm on there for a couple of hours... didn't realise it bothered people 😵‍💫

Zanatdy · 16/07/2024 17:29

Yeah I find it too much, it’s something you do before leaving the house, or go to the ladies when arriving at work. No-one really wants to sit next to someone doing a full make up routine

CoffeeCantata · 16/07/2024 17:25

Yes it does.

I feel I'm being forced against my will into an intimate situation with the person doing their make-up. It's rude and inconsiderate - and rather entitled.

Teeth-cleaning, making up, hair-doing etc are all very personal routines and I'm not comfortable doing them in front of others (except my very closest relations) and I don't know where to look when people subject me to theirs.

OP asked for views, and that's mine.

LlynTegid · 16/07/2024 17:24

Allfur · 16/07/2024 16:41

So if it's just 5 mins, can't you get up 5 mins earlier?

I'd be happier if those people who are too lazy to walk with their children to school did that and spared those who have to travel longer distances the delays from their usually poor driving.

RivkaTheBold · 16/07/2024 17:07

I love watching it. Some of you woman are absolute wizards with it. Unrecognisable from when you got on.

Cinocino · 16/07/2024 17:05

Allfur · 16/07/2024 16:41

So if it's just 5 mins, can't you get up 5 mins earlier?

Why though?

SamW98 · 16/07/2024 16:43

zingally · 16/07/2024 16:29

I don't like it.

I personally believe that personal grooming should be kept to the privacy of your own home. I can't really tell you why I find it icky. It just is.
I think maybe some of it is that I find it a bit "look at me!" Like, "I'm so busy and important, I didn't have a single moment to do this at home, so I'll do it now and you can all sit there and think about how pretty I am and how busy I must be!"

You’re really looking at it too deeply as I can assure you not one of those has ever crossed my mind as I do my slap on the train to use the time I’d just be staring at my phone or out the window

Allfur · 16/07/2024 16:42

ClownsFear · 16/07/2024 15:40

PLEASE EVERYONE DO NOT DO YOUR EYEMAKEUP ON THE TRAIN WITH A MASCARA WAND.
FRIEND WAS SEVERELY INJURED NEARLY BLINDED WHEN TRAIN STOPPED SUDDENLY AND WAND WENT INTO HER EYBALL.

because I know this it makes me feel sick when I see women using mascara wands on trains. they are very hard and sharp and some of them are fairly pointed

Although i guess the train could crash as well

Allfur · 16/07/2024 16:41

HermioneHerman · 16/07/2024 14:04

My goodness, MN can be such an unnecessarily nasty and judgemental place sometimes! 🙄

I sometimes do my make-up or part of it on a train, not because I'm lazy, self-absorbed, performative, slutty or lacking in class but because I'm extremely extremely busy and it's something that can give!

I'm a mum of 3 (including a toddler and 2 primary school aged kids), a mature full time student on a very demanding course and have to run my mornings like absolute clockwork to get everyone dressed, fed and to the right places on time, including myself. I have a 10-15 min walk to the train station, a long commute to uni and at least half hour gaps between trains so I have to make the one I need. If I've rushed then my part done make-up may need a touch up or I may just have run out of time to start or finish it in the first place. So I spend 5 mins or so putting on a little bit of confidence boosting foundation, concealer, eyebrow pencil and mascara, nothing over the top or wafty/spritzy. My skin isn't wonderful and it just makes me look a bit more put together and ready for long day of study and placements.

You just don't know what people have going on in their lives to judge them as lazy and vain, when it doesn't even affect you in any way for goodness sake.

So if it's just 5 mins, can't you get up 5 mins earlier?

zingally · 16/07/2024 16:29

I don't like it.

I personally believe that personal grooming should be kept to the privacy of your own home. I can't really tell you why I find it icky. It just is.
I think maybe some of it is that I find it a bit "look at me!" Like, "I'm so busy and important, I didn't have a single moment to do this at home, so I'll do it now and you can all sit there and think about how pretty I am and how busy I must be!"

Itiswhysofew · 16/07/2024 15:52

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. When I used public transport all those years back, I loved watching people apply make-up.

ClownsFear · 16/07/2024 15:40

PLEASE EVERYONE DO NOT DO YOUR EYEMAKEUP ON THE TRAIN WITH A MASCARA WAND.
FRIEND WAS SEVERELY INJURED NEARLY BLINDED WHEN TRAIN STOPPED SUDDENLY AND WAND WENT INTO HER EYBALL.

because I know this it makes me feel sick when I see women using mascara wands on trains. they are very hard and sharp and some of them are fairly pointed

PartOfTheFurniture12 · 16/07/2024 15:31

Not particularly, it's somewhat entertaining wondering if they're going to smear their lipstick or poke their eye out with a mascara brush if the train jolts. I much prefer it to seeing women do their makeup while driving.

Only if you have room, though. I once spent a commute being elbowed by some obnoxious cow doing her eye makeup in the seat next to me. Yes, I could have said something, and that's on me, but there's no way she didn't know she was doing it.

Werweisswohin · 16/07/2024 15:30

Singersong · 16/07/2024 10:11

Makeup stinks? I've heard it all now.

You must have a supersonic sense of smell to smell that over the stench of BO and KFC.

It's possible for more than one sort of stink, and make up really does stink (especially when being applied).

Ksqordssvimy · 16/07/2024 15:22

For those calling it intimate... you'll know when I get intimate on the train
💋 🍆

retinolalcohol · 16/07/2024 14:41

I used to regularly commute on the train, with a journey of an hour. I was already getting up at 6.

Doing my makeup on the train meant I didn't have to get up at 5:15. I was doing absolutely nothing else with that hour - so I'd actually argue that this is a more productive use of time.

I'm actually about as far from lazy as it is possible to be - at the time I was working 8:30-4:30 then studying 6:30-9.

If doing your makeup on the train is comfortable/convenient for you OP, do it. It impacts exactly no one else. The judgement says faaaar more about other people than it ever will about you!