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AIBU to feel frustrated with restaurant?

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Heelworkhero · 16/07/2024 00:44

Went out for a lovely meal this evening with a friend.
It was about 9.30pm when we finally finished eating and asked for a decaf coffee each.
Clearly, it wasn’t decaf, given I’m wide awake and I never have a problem sleeping.
It’s so frustrating when this happens!!!
Pointless even trying to sleep for hours now…….

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ZenNudist · 16/07/2024 07:11

I always check "is it decaf"? As they put it down. Often I'd know half way through the cup as it hits me.

I usually write an email of complaint. Often I get offered a free coffee though funnily enough I don't tend to go back!

ricecrispiecakes · 16/07/2024 07:06

Are you 100% sure it's the coffee keeping you awake?

Trixiefirecracker · 16/07/2024 07:02

mutationseagull · 16/07/2024 01:52

There have been instances of people with heart issues dying after being served regular coffee instead of decaf. While nothing serious has happened to you, I think you’re well within your rights to be frustrated and make a complaint.

Has there? Any evidence for this.

roundspongecake · 16/07/2024 06:55

Are you sure it's the coffee and not the excitement coupled with a big meal?
If it is the caffeine drink loads of water.

Next time I wouldn't risk it. No one needs coffee of any kind that late at night and even decaffeinated has caffeine in

AzureAnt · 16/07/2024 06:35

Isn't it more likely that finishing a meal at 930pm is the reason you can't sleep,?

notthefavourite · 16/07/2024 06:34

Heelworkhero · 16/07/2024 04:25

I’m still awake!! Up in a few hours……
I’ve read, opened the window, done relaxing and meditation………

One of the downsides of being caffeine free is how hyper sensitive to it you are, if you ever have any accidentally.

Yes completely agree. I don't drink caffeinated coffee or tea so seem to react more strongly to it if I have it now.

SillyQuail · 16/07/2024 06:00

This happens to me all the time (caffeine free since first pregnancy) and I now get horrible symptoms from even one shot of espresso - insomnia, stomach upset, palpitations, anxiety, nausea, the list is endless. Hope you managed to get some sleep!

ohyesido · 16/07/2024 04:36

Eat a banana if you have any, I often get too high on red bull and find the potassium helps bring it down

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Heelworkhero · 16/07/2024 04:25

I’m still awake!! Up in a few hours……
I’ve read, opened the window, done relaxing and meditation………

One of the downsides of being caffeine free is how hyper sensitive to it you are, if you ever have any accidentally.

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Bluebirdover · 16/07/2024 04:03

mutationseagull · 16/07/2024 01:52

There have been instances of people with heart issues dying after being served regular coffee instead of decaf. While nothing serious has happened to you, I think you’re well within your rights to be frustrated and make a complaint.

Whilst I think the restaurant was lax, I find it difficult to believe that people with such serious heart conditions that death occurs after a single cup actually drink coffee not made by themselves (or someone close to them).

But do link the data.

An extremely rare one off, but not people.

mutationseagull · 16/07/2024 01:52

There have been instances of people with heart issues dying after being served regular coffee instead of decaf. While nothing serious has happened to you, I think you’re well within your rights to be frustrated and make a complaint.

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Heelworkhero · 16/07/2024 01:08

Thanks. It’s not the first time and I just end up kicking myself for assuming I’ll be given what I’ve actually ordered.
I can’t tell the difference while I’m drinking it.
It was coffee with cream, rather than milk and so delicious………. So totally not worth it though…….
I’ve got 5 hours of hard physical work tomorrow……… 🙄

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MrsPositivity1 · 16/07/2024 00:55

That's so annoying for you.

Hope you get some sleep soon.