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AIBU to feel frustrated with restaurant?

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Heelworkhero · 16/07/2024 00:44

Went out for a lovely meal this evening with a friend.
It was about 9.30pm when we finally finished eating and asked for a decaf coffee each.
Clearly, it wasn’t decaf, given I’m wide awake and I never have a problem sleeping.
It’s so frustrating when this happens!!!
Pointless even trying to sleep for hours now…….

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mutationseagull · 21/07/2024 15:38

Bluebirdover · 21/07/2024 15:09

Not tying myself in knots, just think your talking rubbish.

And to say these deaths would be undiagnosed......

Hilarious!!

It happens, people dying from caffeinated coffee, when they've asked for decaf, but it's just not found out.

They said that the fatal heart condition is often previously undiagnosed. Not that the death itself would be “undiagnosed”.

Bluebirdover · 21/07/2024 15:09

voiceofastar · 21/07/2024 14:40

@Bluebirdover, no, I didn’t, I drank decaf at home. However, many heart conditions like mine can be asymptomatic for a long time. Sometimes otherwise fit and healthy young people drop down dead during or following exercise, often as a result of an undiagnosed heart condition.

As I said:

High doses of caffeine are dangerous for some people and cafes and restaurants serving coffee should take care when somebody orders decaf.

I’m not sure why you’re tying yourself up in knots trying to deny this. It’s a simple, inoffensive statement based on fact. I guess some people just love to argue.

Not tying myself in knots, just think your talking rubbish.

And to say these deaths would be undiagnosed......

Hilarious!!

It happens, people dying from caffeinated coffee, when they've asked for decaf, but it's just not found out.

mutationseagull · 21/07/2024 14:57

Trixiefirecracker · 21/07/2024 14:42

You didn’t, you posted something about a super charged caffeine drink. We are talking about a cup of coffee. Happy for you to find me a news story about this but your other posts are not relevant.

Like I said, I was mistaken that it was not coffee but the difference is immaterial imho. The victims died after consuming a drink that they thought was caffeine-free. Most people do not expect a lemonade to contain caffeine. A large coffee in a lot of establishments contains a similar amount of caffeine to this lemonade so the exact same thing could happen if the person was given caffeinated coffee instead of decaf.

Trixiefirecracker · 21/07/2024 14:42

mutationseagull · 21/07/2024 14:40

It is rare but there were two cases in the US last year. I posted one above. People die from overdosing on caffeine fairly regularly, but usually this is due to drinking far too much coffee or energy drinks, or miscalculating the dose of a caffeine supplement. In the cases where people have died after drinking only one or two caffeinated drinks, they have invariably had underlying heart issues. The fact that it is uncommon does not make it okay for establishments to be lax about serving caffeine to people who do not want it.

You didn’t, you posted something about a super charged caffeine drink. We are talking about a cup of coffee. Happy for you to find me a news story about this but your other posts are not relevant.

mutationseagull · 21/07/2024 14:40

Trixiefirecracker · 21/07/2024 14:19

If you suddenly dropped down dead for no apparent reason, they would investigate that death and perform an autopsy. If it was shown you had been taken large quantities of caffeine and that had killed you the that would be recorded. I’m pretty sure if it was a common thing, there would be news stories about people dying from drinking coffee. I can’t find any so am deducing it’s incredible rare.

It is rare but there were two cases in the US last year. I posted one above. People die from overdosing on caffeine fairly regularly, but usually this is due to drinking far too much coffee or energy drinks, or miscalculating the dose of a caffeine supplement. In the cases where people have died after drinking only one or two caffeinated drinks, they have invariably had underlying heart issues. The fact that it is uncommon does not make it okay for establishments to be lax about serving caffeine to people who do not want it.

voiceofastar · 21/07/2024 14:40

@Bluebirdover, no, I didn’t, I drank decaf at home. However, many heart conditions like mine can be asymptomatic for a long time. Sometimes otherwise fit and healthy young people drop down dead during or following exercise, often as a result of an undiagnosed heart condition.

As I said:

High doses of caffeine are dangerous for some people and cafes and restaurants serving coffee should take care when somebody orders decaf.

I’m not sure why you’re tying yourself up in knots trying to deny this. It’s a simple, inoffensive statement based on fact. I guess some people just love to argue.

Trixiefirecracker · 21/07/2024 14:19

If you suddenly dropped down dead for no apparent reason, they would investigate that death and perform an autopsy. If it was shown you had been taken large quantities of caffeine and that had killed you the that would be recorded. I’m pretty sure if it was a common thing, there would be news stories about people dying from drinking coffee. I can’t find any so am deducing it’s incredible rare.

Bluebirdover · 21/07/2024 14:18

voiceofastar · 21/07/2024 14:15

I used to have a heart condition that led to tachycardia upwards of 300 bpm. I was told not to drink caffeinated drinks but decaf was ok (decaf coffee has less caffeine than a few squares of dark chocolate). As well as being extremely unpleasant, an episode put me at risk of sudden death.

The thing is, if I had an episode or even died as a result, it’s very unlikely anyone would follow it up with a coffee shop so it wouldn’t make the news. High doses of caffeine are dangerous for some people and cafes and restaurants serving coffee should take care when somebody orders decaf.

Edited

Did you drink coffee whilst out? If it was that dangerous did you risk a mistake?

If so, I think you were extremely foolhardy.

voiceofastar · 21/07/2024 14:15

I used to have a heart condition that led to tachycardia upwards of 300 bpm. I was told not to drink caffeinated drinks but decaf was ok (decaf coffee has less caffeine than a few squares of dark chocolate). As well as being extremely unpleasant, an episode put me at risk of sudden death.

The thing is, if I had an episode or even died as a result, it’s very unlikely anyone would follow it up with a coffee shop so it wouldn’t make the news. High doses of caffeine are dangerous for some people and cafes and restaurants serving coffee should take care when somebody orders decaf.

Bluebirdover · 21/07/2024 14:12

I was mistaken that it was coffee but it’s still caffeine so materially the same as if it had been coffee.

Your powers of observation are very poor, do not become a detective!

Bluebirdover · 21/07/2024 14:11

@mutationseagull it's totally irrelevant, it's about a supercharged caffeinated drink, not a cup of coffee!

Trixiefirecracker · 21/07/2024 14:10

mutationseagull · 21/07/2024 14:09

I don’t agree that it is irrelevant. The point of my post was to illustrate that people can die from consuming one caffeinated drink. The type of drink is irrelevant.

It’s very relevant as different caffeinated drinks contain different levels of caffeine.

mutationseagull · 21/07/2024 14:09

Bluebirdover · 21/07/2024 14:04

@mutationseagull this is about coffee containing caffeine, your post is irrelevant.

I don’t agree that it is irrelevant. The point of my post was to illustrate that people can die from consuming one caffeinated drink. The type of drink is irrelevant.

Bluebirdover · 21/07/2024 14:04

@mutationseagull this is about coffee containing caffeine, your post is irrelevant.

mutationseagull · 21/07/2024 14:02

Trixiefirecracker · 21/07/2024 13:59

This isn’t coffee.

I was mistaken that it was coffee but it’s still caffeine so materially the same as if it had been coffee.

Also worth mentioning that tachycardia is not harmless – if your heart beats too fast for too long it can cause permanent damage which can lead to life-threatening issues later on, even if you don’t realise it at the time.

Trixiefirecracker · 21/07/2024 13:59

mutationseagull · 21/07/2024 13:51

People have absolutely died after drinking a beverage that they thought was caffeine-free. This young woman was the subject of a wrongful death lawsuit last year in the US. She drank one cup of lemonade of which the caffeine content was not properly advertised. Another man died after drinking the same beverage. These types of fatal incidents are certainly rare and usually linked to existing heart defects. But for those with milder caffeine sensitivity, symptoms like tachycardia, migraine and severe agitation are still extremely unpleasant, unacceptable and avoidable.

This isn’t coffee.

mutationseagull · 21/07/2024 13:51

Trixiefirecracker · 19/07/2024 15:16

I mean I have googled instances of people dying from one cup of coffee and found a big fat zero!

People have absolutely died after drinking a beverage that they thought was caffeine-free. This young woman was the subject of a wrongful death lawsuit last year in the US. She drank one cup of lemonade of which the caffeine content was not properly advertised. Another man died after drinking the same beverage. These types of fatal incidents are certainly rare and usually linked to existing heart defects. But for those with milder caffeine sensitivity, symptoms like tachycardia, migraine and severe agitation are still extremely unpleasant, unacceptable and avoidable.

Panera Bread faces suit from family of student who died after drinking Charged Lemonade

Sarah Katz, 21, had a heart condition and wasn’t aware of the drink’s caffeine content, which exceeded that of cans of Red Bull and Monster energy drinks combined, according to a legal filing.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/rcna120785

Bluebirdover · 19/07/2024 16:15

@BeachParty but you were agreeing with someone who said people died, it's not true!

Trixiefirecracker · 19/07/2024 15:26

BeachParty · 19/07/2024 15:19

It's not just about dying though, is it.
A lot of people can have say heart palpitations from consuming caffeine for example.

Yes, sorry, I was trying to quote person who said people die from it, not you. Of course it’s not nice to have heart palpitations but I dispute its going to kill you.

BeachParty · 19/07/2024 15:19

Trixiefirecracker · 19/07/2024 15:16

I mean I have googled instances of people dying from one cup of coffee and found a big fat zero!

It's not just about dying though, is it.
A lot of people can have say heart palpitations from consuming caffeine for example.

Trixiefirecracker · 19/07/2024 15:16

BeachParty · 19/07/2024 14:59

This - I suffer from allergies, it's not acceptable.
People are sensitive to caffeine/can't drink it for various health reasons, you should be able to trust that you actually get what you asked for.

I mean I have googled instances of people dying from one cup of coffee and found a big fat zero!

BeachParty · 19/07/2024 14:59

mutationseagull · 16/07/2024 01:52

There have been instances of people with heart issues dying after being served regular coffee instead of decaf. While nothing serious has happened to you, I think you’re well within your rights to be frustrated and make a complaint.

This - I suffer from allergies, it's not acceptable.
People are sensitive to caffeine/can't drink it for various health reasons, you should be able to trust that you actually get what you asked for.

wellwhatcanisaytothat · 19/07/2024 14:57

beanii · 19/07/2024 14:39

All coke does.

I’m aware but Pepsi Max supposedly has more then others

noctilucentcloud · 19/07/2024 14:55

I'm very sensitive to caffeine because of dizziness issues. I wouldn't assume it wasn't decaf, from my experience some decaf coffees (especially nice ones!) can contain a fair bit of caffeine, enough to make me feel ill so presumably also enough to keep you up. I also think that decaf through coffee machines also sometimes has residual caffeine. Decaf tea has a much lower amount of caffeine as well as the naturally caffeine free ones like peppermint, roobosh etc.

beanii · 19/07/2024 14:39

feelingbattered · 16/07/2024 17:07

Apparently Pepsi Max has lots of caffeine

All coke does.