To take dc on holiday by myself?

Oh I would in a heartbeat. My DH has a long term illness that can give him good days and bad so he may need to drop out of plans (and has done for smaller trips) but he's not a wanker and would insist that we go regardless.

And when he has gone on holiday and had a bad day, he stayed in the apartment with a book and looked forward to hearing DS tell him about the day when we got home.

Hold firm to your promise. And furthermore be crystal clear that if he does go, he will be left to rest while you get on with the holiday. No way should he be allowed to cancel going to a waterpark or whatever for everyone when he's the only one who doesn't want to go.

His illness or frame of mine is not a burden that your children should bear.

Why on earth wouldn't you? He doesn't want to go then leave him behind No issue.

I love taking DC away by myself - definitely go!

It sounds quite controlling (maybe not purposefully so). He’s confident that if he says no, you won’t go. You absolutely HAVE to go, else you’re signing up for that for your whole adult life.
My guess is he’ll suddenly miraculously be free and able to go.
My husband was a bit like this, and just didn’t want to go. I booked and he came along and enjoyed himself. I’ve also gone alone or with the kids when he didn’t want to. We often bring it on ourselves by not doing what we want and deferring.
Book that holiday!

Book it, why should you and your DC miss out because your DH is a nob

Go for it OP.
You are definitely NBU.

Where will
You go? Exciting!

i take my kids away all the time without dh. He messes about and doesn’t book holidays in time so he doesn’t go. He always feels abit left out but that’s on him. Tbh I enjoy them more without him especially camping as he is lazy and just lays round all day and doesn’t lift a finger

Just do it OP.
We don't have extravagant holidays but lots of little breaks and a week at the seaside in the summer. My kids absolutely LOVE their summer holiday. They begged to go back to the same place this year and have been counting down the days since January. Holidays are so special and exciting for children. I can't imagine depriving them because of some miserable fuck who won't go.

You are only unreasonable that you haven't taken your DC yet! Especially if you can afford it.
What an utterly vile man to treat his child like that.

Me and DH take our children abroad a lot (usually a couple of times a year) but I often take them away on UK breaks as I get more annual leave.

Of course you should go without him. Why should you and DC miss out when this is repeated poor behaviour on your DH’s part?

I've taken mine on holiday lots of times on my own. Their dad doesn't bother. We aren't together though.
My mum came once to "help me" and it was an absolute nightmare and she was a lot more work than the children.
In a lot of ways it's easier on your own.
I would just go.

We did have a family holiday each year, but I also quite often took DS away on my own for a midweek break in school holidays. He was autistic and could be tricky, but overall he seemed to benefit from the 1-1 and having my full attention, and I found it easier being able to concentrate on him and not have another person in the mix.

I go multiple times a year without dh! I’ve stopped trying to press him into it. I go with friends and generally let the kids run wild without any pressure on me.
I also say no to stuff I don’t want to do

I often took mine away as I had different holiday patterns. Loved it TBH.

Why would you not go on your own with the DC ?

DH now in a sulk and angry that I want to do this.

Fuck around, find out. This is the natural consequence of what he does. Wants to be Lady Bountiful with the planning but not actually do the work. You're happy to do the work, knock yourself out.

Take amazing photos of the wonderful time you're having and send him lots while you're away.

Go. He's repeatedly done this, and got the kids hopes up and got them excited. He can't go that's on him- take them and enjoy yourselves.

Go and enjoy! I take my dc away alone all the time (so does Dh). We have animals so aren’t easily able to go away altogether regularly. It’s lovely. No way I’d sit around at home just because he didn’t want to go.

@AFmammaG same as you

I take the children camping a lot on my own. As DH saves his annual leave for a ‘proper’ holiday (which is also usually camping but at a nicer site!😅) or half terms/Easter hols etc.

I don’t want to miss out their childhood because he is restricted more than me. And he gets a quiet week/weekend so it’s win win.

I know this isn’t the same as you but perfectly normal to holiday like this.

I take the kids away every summer by myself because DH doesn’t have enough annual leave. He feels a bit sad to miss out but I secretly love going solo. No one else to consider! He would never say we couldn’t go by ourselves. That would be incredibly selfish!

I absolutely would. What was his reasons?

What kind of odd dynamic is this?? He's bizarre.

Do it.

Do you think he’ll come along too now that you’re not dancing to his tune ?

I get the impression that his excuses are crap and not legitimate. Why won’t he go? Did he travel much before dc?

We rented a small house in Norfolk, stayed in hotels in Ostend and the Isle of Wight, with friends in Brussels. It was so stress free, we spent time on the beach, shopping, a couple of art museums, are out when we wanted or had picky bits or pasta in the house, or ate in restaurants he wouldn’t have approved of.