My ex and I are divorced and share 50/50 residence for our children. Ex is traveling overseas on business this week, and is due to have the children during this time. I offered to have the children for most of the time they are away, but I couldn't do one day/night because I had pre-existing plans abroad.
Ex arranged a babysitter for the time I can't have them, including an overnight stay and for the babysitter to take the kids to nursery/school the following morning. The kids are 7 and under, and have never had an overnight stay without either parent before. I don't know the babysitter.
As Ex will be travelling on a long haul flight and neither of us are in the country for a day, I asked them to give me the babysitter's phone number in case of an emergency. They refused to provide this. I don't really have any idea why not, as we generally co-parent ok, and help each other out.
So for a period of time whilst Ex is flying and is therefore completely offline, I have no way of contacting the babysitter in an emergency, and the children have no way of contacting me (they are too young to have a phone). Ex PIL have also not been giving the babysitter's contact details.
I fully understand that during Ex's parenting time, it is their responsibility to arrange appropriate care etc, but I consider the refusal to provide basic contact information in the event of an emergency is completely unreasonable, particularly given Ex is not contactable whilst on a flight.
AIBU to expect that Ex should have provided me with the babysitter's phone number whilst they are overseas and uncontactable?