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To be so annoyed that DP lost passport

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SaturdayFive · 15/07/2024 15:22

My DP has lost his passport 4 days before we are due to go away for a family holiday involving a lot of driving abroad (which he was happily going to do, I wouldn't have booked it, if I knew I'd have to drive all of it).
He's needed it for various ID checks in the past few weeks so has been out of its usual safe place. He first thought it was missing last week - but thought he'd left it at work.. then went away for the weekend and didn't check until today. It's not there. House car garage workplace all turned upside down and no sign of it.
The only fast track appointment you can get for a lost passport replacement is the one that takes a week to deliver it! Which he found out only after cancelling the old passport- as you have to do that before they'll allow the appointment to be booked. He's blaming me for that, as I told him to get a new passport.
So it looks like I'll be taking kids on holiday on my own. Thankfully they are old enough to be a help not a hindrance.
AIBU to be angry that he's ruined our holiday?

OP posts:
Chersfrozenface · 15/07/2024 15:31

OP, how much driving is all the driving?

With only one driver, will you need to book and pay for unplanned overnights?

StormingNorman · 15/07/2024 15:29

If it’s a driving holiday, can he not catch you up when his passport comes through. Just fly or get on a train to meet you?

DinnaeFashYersel · 15/07/2024 15:29

Check your travel insurance.

I recently had a similar problem but with teenage son who lost his passport.

My travel insurance covered the costs of new passport and (although we didn't need it) the cost of any cancellation costs, etc and with no excess to pay.

Seas164 · 15/07/2024 15:29

He's not ruined your holiday. He's lost his passport, and changed your holiday. Presumably he didn't do it on purpose, if you'd lost your passport would you feel he was reasonable to be angry with you? He shouldn't be blaming you, maybe your angry at that aspect of it. Go, have fun, it will be an experience you might enjoy more than you anticipate!

TakeOnFlea · 15/07/2024 15:29

Why on earth did he cancel it? It'll be somewhere!

StormingNorman · 15/07/2024 15:28

Can you not get the same day appointments anymore where you visit the passport office?

I feel you frustrations. My DH lost his driving licence. Got the new one through. I asked him to put it in his wallet…but he’s worried he’ll lose his wallet so the DL has been put somewhere safe (never to be seen again).

DNAwrangler · 15/07/2024 15:26

Very annoying - for everyone - but just one of those things. Hopefully you’ll enjoy it more than you think.

NewDay00 · 15/07/2024 15:25

But accidents do happen. He didn't lose it on purpose. The part I'd be annoyed at him about is the part where he blames you.