To be so annoyed that DP lost passport

I mean sure, I don't disagree - but neither OP nor me said that we'd continue to be angry?

Being angry or not being angry isn't changing the outcome well no, but emotions are emotions and even if you can supress them you're still feeling them.

Just to be clear, I'd also be upset that he would likely not be able to come. I do actually quite like him. But yeah, I'd be angry in the moment and I'd likely be more angry after learning he thought he'd lost it a week ago but did nothing to rectify the situation!

We live in the US but my husband is British. He lost his passport while on a work trip in England just before Christmas. He scheduled a same-day appointment and, while there, explained the circumstances. For an additional fee, they were able to give him the passport on the same day. So, don’t lose hope! We were wondering if he’d have to spend Christmas in England, but he was home on his original flight as planned.

If he’s used it recently for ID checks, it’s probably been left on the flatbed of a scanner somewhere. Not that that is a great deal of help now that it’s been cancelled.

He can get a 24 hours emergency appointment and get the passport the same day. It's £207.

I was that DH, and that is what I did, though I didn't blame anyone else.

I found it later tucked into a carry on bag.

https://www.gov.uk/get-a-passport-urgently

Yeah but if you know you are going on holiday soon you take extra extra care with your passport in the lead up. He’s failed to take proper responsibility for his possessions, like some sort of dozy teenager. Then failed to act as soon as the issue arose.

Am I the only one who feels bad for the husband here? His family are going on holiday that he was looking forward to going on, I know he lost his passport but these things happen to the best of us, he's probably just as upset as you are and I would be feeling really bad for him

I'd be pissed off too. Of course he hasn't done it on purpose, but he could have done something earlier to avoid being in this situation.

I agree it's probably in a pocket, not that it matters now. My husband lost his passport briefly earlier this year, it was in a rarely worn jacket pocket.

"Problem solved 😂"

🤣 IKR

Always a pocket!

Someone once bought me a ticket home as a present, very expensive, was a kind of last minute surprise. What no-one knew was I didn't know where my home countries passport was, and I can't travel on a UK one.

Spent the week ripping the house apart and found it the day before I was supposed to leave, in a side pocket of a pair of trousers that had somehow made their way back into the drawer of clean clothes

Will never forget that sense of relief when I found it

Problem solved 😂

It'll be in his car or a pocket

You can't change this by being annoyed only resolved it

Sounds unfortunate, cancelling was a terrible idea, shame he was stupid enough to actually do it!

Had I have genuinely lost my passport through a simple accident or it falling out of my bag and I simply hadn't realised, and then my DH was angry at me and kept being angry at me for something that's happened now that I have no control over and for a holiday I was really looking forward to, yeah he could happily fuck off on the holiday alone. Sometimes things happen, I am sure the DH is devastated to not be able to go on his holiday. Being angry or not being angry isn't changing the outcome.

I'm in charge of passports in our household as DH is useless with that kind of thing. I keep them the whole time we are away too. He knows where it is in case of emergency though.

I’d be furious with him tbh

It's fine to be angry in the moment...but really not something to remain angry about.

I don't get all these "it was an accident, don't be angry"?

This really makes no sense to me. It's totally natural to be angry when something happens that ruins plans or items - regardless whether it was an accident or not.

Granted, the way you respond is important, but just like I think it's important to apologise when an accident hurts someone or causes them problems, it's important to acknowledge that annoyance.

I am going to remain optimistic. The home office is currently generally exceeding time frames for passports. It comes and goes, but I think you've got a good chance of getting it back fairly promptly at this point. My brother was told 4 weeks to apply from a foreign country - it took about 2.

I think it’s great you are still going.

Since you are now single-handedly managing the childcare and holiday I’d expect that you eat out more, take the easy option even if it costs more and make sure you & the kids have an amazing time. Then when you get back you need a child-free couple of days to recover. It sounds more like he’s been careless and it’s not suitable apologetic about the situation.

Just get the appointment for tomorrow, anywhere you can. Tell them the timescale and you may get lucky. Dd went to the passport office on one week first adult passport appointment on the Wednesday. It arrived 2 days later on the Friday.

I'd be livid. Can't believe how many on here would be so calm about it. I hate driving at the best of times so it would absolutely ruin my holiday. My DH has form for this kind of thing and having to be the one who is expected to be on top of everything exhausts me.

Good point. Is he at least getting it sorted now?