To NOT support England ???

So you’re absolutely not the kind of person I’m talking about

I wouldn’t expect a Welsh person, living in England, to support England.

You can't force yourself to support a team though, it's just about how you feel. I'm Welsh and while I would have chosen England to win over Spain if forced, I actually just didn't care either way.
If I moved to another country I would support their team out of politeness but I wouldn't really care

You are rude to posters here. You have described him as stupid, etc.

Dave started this particular instance, and you just reacted -

BUT you have got such a massive chip on your shoulder. If this is how you go on normally your colleagues are probably bloody fed up of you!

Crazy revelation, but people who have no direct connection to previous (yes abhorrent, unacceptable, horrible historical action) get kind of bored of being looked down on or being told their shit because you've got a weird bitterness about you. And you actively celebrating or crowing about the failure or something they genuinely care about falls into that imo. Yeh, it's only football. But, why be intentionally goady?

And your country of birth is squeaky clean?

Anyone can support or not support anyone they like. It’s only football.

But making it known that you actively don’t want England to win to English people in England, regardless of who the other side is, isn’t exactly pleasant. I’ve had a colleague from mainland Europe in the past who whinged constantly about how shit everything and everyone was here (cheers!) and a US friend who transferred here for work and severely wore on my nerves with his constant complaining about how backwards we are. It doesn’t play well. My Dh isn’t English and has plenty of gripes about living here, but he manages not to wind friends and colleagues up with negativity and superiority.

Soccer or aussie rules?

Not that who you support really matters. If you prefere the other team that's totally fine but I do find the mentality "I don't care who England is playing, I'll support anyone but england" a bit peculiar. I also find the black and white in sport to be annoying. Yesterday down at the pub (not in UK) listening to people the people ok differnet sidd were basically both saying that my team is good, yours is utterly carbage and such a pile of shit and everything they do is total shit. No in-between.

Yet more anti-English rhetoric on Mumsnet I see. I just knew that sooner or later one of these threads would pop up. This isn’t about football, it’s just another opportunity to have a dig, complete with sweeping generalisations about English people. You clearly have a chip on your shoulder about England and English people OP. If you hate it so much then why don’t you just hop over the border and go and live in Scotland?

On the contrary, she seems very chirpy and keen to let people know how she doesn't support England so she can stir things up. Does seem intimidated to me.

I think people should be a bit careful labelling things with such strong words like ‘threatening and harassment.’

OP didn’t say this man had harassed her or seemed threatening. She doesn’t exactly seem intimidated.

Imagine they took your advice and went to HR on the basis of harassment over that conversation? Poor bloke could lose his job!

How miserable.

I'm English and live in England and couldn't give a toss they lost! But I wish they'd been knocked out earlier rather than limping through to the final - and by consequence it was on in our house. Utterly tedious.

If be extremely uncomfortable if a work colleague basically blamed me for England losing. It is illogical and, depending on the tone, could sound quite threatening.

However, OP does seem to have a chip on their shoulder so I’m wondering what they actually said to the colleague.

Apologies. For some reason I thought the conversation was with your DP, although you clearly said colleague! Obviously making up my own stories here!

We all do, my mum’s side are Irish and my Dad’s Finnish.

There was a lot of movement between the four nations so I never get the hate for the English
I'm English I was born here but my Dad was born in Ireland and most of my mums ancestors were Irish ,I bet that's not unique to my family, I bet there are loads of English people, who have Scottish, Welsh, Irish heritage.

I find football supporters annoying but the people smugly NOT supporting any particular team is even more tedious tbh.

Nope, we mythical English-averse Scot Nats are almost equally disdainful of Spain - perhaps even more so as no one got literally bashed over the head by the Occupying Power during our independence referendum! We'll be wearing the Catalunya shirts - or Euskadi in a pinch!

Hes gone off in a big old rant about how if I live here I should be supporting England teams etc.

I think he should have a wee lie down and chill out!

You're both unreasonable.

Yes I agree but also I am British but I’m a Londoner born and grew up there in married to a fellow London born person who has a diverse heritage and this limited view of the English is bizarre to me as my upbringing was so diverse. I just don’t see the dividing lines as religiously as some people I suppose!