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AIBU to think that people that scoop are greedy

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ScoopOrDip · 15/07/2024 09:01

Scooping up all the dip and leaving fuck all for anyone else?

I'm a dipper, I don't like too much dip on whatever I'm dipping.

I went to a bit of a party yesterday with several dips (among other things), hummous, tzatziki, salsa, cheese dip etc with crisps, breadsticks, tortilla chips and the like.

What I noticed was people, men taking great scoops of dip and eating it all in next to no time, leaving none for anyone else.

I tried to take some hummous and put it on a plate but a few of them finished off tubs in what seemed like a few bites 😡Like locusts 🙄They weren't drunk either, food was served fairly on.

AIBU to think you don't do this when sharing a buffet/meal with other people? Fortunately, there was no double dipping going on!

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SwanRivers · 15/07/2024 10:38

ScoopOrDip · 15/07/2024 09:15

You'd think but some people we're standing around/near the table and taking a tortilla chip and scooping from the pot rather than putting some on a plate and walking away.

So they were also blocking access to the table.

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If they were blocking access to the table, how are you able to give us such a blow by blow account of everything that went on with the dips? 🤣

For a start you'd have no idea whether there was double dipping going on.

HoppingPavlova · 15/07/2024 10:34

I voted YABU just contemplating eating the dip. You say there was no double dipping BUT then you say you had put some in your plate, walked off and come back. So, how do you know. Unless you were diligently monitoring all dips at all times, you don’t. Double dipping is a possibility, and given that why you would want to contemplate eating it at such an occasion is beyond me. I would never eat dip in a situation when it has not been completely supervised at all times when there are guests.

thatstakingalongtimetoboil · 15/07/2024 10:27

I would never eat dips outside. People double dip so everyone's spit is in there. Gross

HellonHeels · 15/07/2024 10:26

ilovepixie · 15/07/2024 10:22

I hate dip!

Buffets could do with more people like you!

HellonHeels · 15/07/2024 10:25

EllaVoday · 15/07/2024 10:24

Never underestimate how greedy people can be and plan accordingly.

My friend had a wake for her baby girl who died of congenital defects and it was a calm, respectful evening until the food and favours came out. People were elbowing each other out of the way.

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Fucking HELL

EllaVoday · 15/07/2024 10:24

Never underestimate how greedy people can be and plan accordingly.

My friend had a wake for her baby girl who died of congenital defects and it was a calm, respectful evening until the food and favours came out. People were elbowing each other out of the way.

ilovepixie · 15/07/2024 10:22

I hate dip!

LilacCatt · 15/07/2024 10:20

UnpoachedPears · 15/07/2024 09:17

Urgh I hate sharing dips. Some people actually double dip, at a party!!! Disgraceful.

This.
I have seen someone lick their spoon totally clean and then stick it back in a dip. It made me feel ill 🤢
So I scoop. Once. When the dip has just been brought out and no one has got to it yet. And then I don't go back for any more. 🤣

HellonHeels · 15/07/2024 10:19

Hangerslip · 15/07/2024 10:09

Well, yes, the pots contain 2/4 servings?

Presumably they didn't put out one bag of crisps and expect it to serve 20 people?

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But at a party with loads of different foods, dips etc surely you wouldn't cater a full portion per person?

I'm not sure how the professional caterers work it out.

The thought of having to decant into four or more serving dishes and keep replacing them for every dip is exhausting.

As for people standing by the bowl and relentlessly troughing their way through it, blocking access all the while. Barbarians.

GoodHeavens99 · 15/07/2024 10:16

@Poolstream

I was. Genuinely.

I was bewildered by everyone else's thoughtlessness. If you were a kid, it's the kind of behaviour that would get you told off.

Beth216 · 15/07/2024 10:14

If there wasn't enough dip for everyone to stand there scooping up loads then anyone with any decency would only have taken a reasonable amount.

OatFlatWhiteForMePlease · 15/07/2024 10:12

godmum56 · 15/07/2024 10:01

That sounds like a bad catering issue.

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We are a family of over caterers and this happened last Christmas too. Greedy BIL had his plate piled like a mountain and practically mowed people over to get to the front. Other BIL pissed off at his behaviour finally announced how much of each he had taken on his first run when greedy BIL said ‘I hope you all left seconds’ when the last person sat down at the table. His plate sounded like Smithy’s Indian order from Gavin and Stacey.

I think given there was plenty of veg, potatoes,beef, turkey, stuffing ham the only ‘per person’ portions were announced in advance - 1 giant Yorkshire each and 4 pigs in blankets. He took 2 yorkshires on his plate and one to eat on his way to the table plus 8 pigs in blankets (because my ASN niece had 8 and he felt entitled - she only eats them and broccoli out of that offering!).

Some people are just greedy fuckers.

Beth216 · 15/07/2024 10:12

A lot of men are greedy selfish arses OP, no two ways about it.

DogInATent · 15/07/2024 10:10

ScoopOrDip · 15/07/2024 10:08

It wasn't rationed. The pot it came in from the shop was put out. Are they supposed to buy 10 pots of each dip? Confused

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They're supposed to buy enough dip for the number of people they invite. Or cut back on the invites to only invite a number they can afford to cater to.

And honestly, if they're just plonking the supermarket pot of dip on the table..

godmum56 · 15/07/2024 10:10

ScoopOrDip · 15/07/2024 10:08

It wasn't rationed. The pot it came in from the shop was put out. Are they supposed to buy 10 pots of each dip? Confused

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well yes if they have more than 2 people coming

paywalled · 15/07/2024 10:09

ScoopOrDip · 15/07/2024 10:08

It wasn't rationed. The pot it came in from the shop was put out. Are they supposed to buy 10 pots of each dip? Confused

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No, you decant it into smaller bowls and stagger laying them out.

Hangerslip · 15/07/2024 10:09

ScoopOrDip · 15/07/2024 10:08

It wasn't rationed. The pot it came in from the shop was put out. Are they supposed to buy 10 pots of each dip? Confused

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Well, yes, the pots contain 2/4 servings?

Presumably they didn't put out one bag of crisps and expect it to serve 20 people?

paywalled · 15/07/2024 10:08

ScoopOrDip · 15/07/2024 10:04

Or greedy people that don't give a toss about people behind them. It's not on hosts to have unlimited quantities of food, its on people to choose a reasonable portion, leaving some for others and going back for seconds if there is any left after everyone has been served.

These people will take more than their share however much food there is, because they feel entitled to it.

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The hosts shouldn’t need to have unlimited food but I agree with pp, it’s bad catering not to stagger the popular foods.

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ScoopOrDip · 15/07/2024 10:08

DogInATent · 15/07/2024 10:02

Stop going to cheap-ass parties where the host unreasonably rations the dips.

It wasn't rationed. The pot it came in from the shop was put out. Are they supposed to buy 10 pots of each dip? Confused

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godmum56 · 15/07/2024 10:07

ScoopOrDip · 15/07/2024 10:04

Or greedy people that don't give a toss about people behind them. It's not on hosts to have unlimited quantities of food, its on people to choose a reasonable portion, leaving some for others and going back for seconds if there is any left after everyone has been served.

These people will take more than their share however much food there is, because they feel entitled to it.

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not unlimited, but certainly more than "just enough"...especially when its the cheap stuff like roasties and yorkies.

Lavender14 · 15/07/2024 10:04

HellonHeels · 15/07/2024 09:11

I'm definitely a scooper but only in

my own house where I share equally with my scooper boyfriend.

Social events I behave myself.

There are always selfish people at buffets, piling up their plates, meat eaters eating all the vegetarian food etc etc

I dunno what the solution is.

Also a scooper.

I'm a dipper, I don't like too much dip on whatever I'm dipping.

I'm the opposite I really dislike the texture of a dry nacho etc. So there's definitely a case of personal taste preference happening there.

I think ideally at a social gathering you'd provide little spoons to encourage people to put some on a plate but tbh as long as they're not double dipping then I'm OK with it.

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ScoopOrDip · 15/07/2024 10:04

godmum56 · 15/07/2024 10:01

That sounds like a bad catering issue.

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Or greedy people that don't give a toss about people behind them. It's not on hosts to have unlimited quantities of food, its on people to choose a reasonable portion, leaving some for others and going back for seconds if there is any left after everyone has been served.

These people will take more than their share however much food there is, because they feel entitled to it.

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godmum56 · 15/07/2024 10:02

SerafinasGoose · 15/07/2024 09:53

Yep. Nuts and bombay mix are off the menu for me too.

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If I am offering things like that I always put spoons in the bowls. First saw it in bars in Holland.

DogInATent · 15/07/2024 10:02

Stop going to cheap-ass parties where the host unreasonably rations the dips.

CactusMactus · 15/07/2024 10:01

sashh · 15/07/2024 09:51

THis is why sensible hosts use disposable shot glasses for dips.

This is a great idea!