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Why didn't I realise how awful teenager years were going to be

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F11 · 14/07/2024 15:55

First dd is a dream, autistic, funny, interesting, no drama.

Dd2 is horrible, rude, she was the loveliest child, an absolute dream, she has turned into this horrible person and I end up sitting in the car miles away crying all the time

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sentfrmmyiphone · 14/07/2024 16:14

i have 2 DD's... never had a days bother with either of them behaviour wise (a few bumps along with way with MH issues) but they were awesome children.

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F11 · 14/07/2024 16:13

Does anyone have any tips? Do I tell her she's an arsehole? Or keep pussy footing around her?

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Collexifon · 14/07/2024 16:13

I had three teenage girls and none of them were horrible. So it's not a given.

That said I feel for you OP.

Do you think she suspects you prefer dd1?

InBedBy10 · 14/07/2024 16:10

Teenage girls are horrible. My own daughter is 16 now and starting to be less of a cow, but we had some really awful years, and even now, it sometimes feels like I'm walking around landmines with her.

Goodnews is everyone I know with teenage girls says the same thing. So its clearly a phase alot go through. I've been told they come back around once they're a little older.

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F11 · 14/07/2024 16:04

ByCupidStunt · 14/07/2024 15:58

My son was OK. My 2 daughters were unspeakably awful. So awful, it's changed who I am. Changed my whole personality, even 10 years later. I'm still wary of them.

I wasn't expecting that. I was expecting some lip, some staying out without permission, some boozing in the park with mates etc etc, but the open hostility, venom and hatred broke me.

Are they nicer now?

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F11 · 14/07/2024 16:03

Oh god it's awful isn't it. I had no idea, I was not like this with my parents. She doesn't go out or drink or anything, in fact she's just done her GCSEs and probably did very well but she's just so bloody horrible to me and it's breaking my heart.

I can see how it's changed you forever ByCupidStunt

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ByCupidStunt · 14/07/2024 15:58

My son was OK. My 2 daughters were unspeakably awful. So awful, it's changed who I am. Changed my whole personality, even 10 years later. I'm still wary of them.

I wasn't expecting that. I was expecting some lip, some staying out without permission, some boozing in the park with mates etc etc, but the open hostility, venom and hatred broke me.

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